How many friends do you have?

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Lifer
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Do you think the number is related at all to how many friends your parents have? I listen to Howard Stern in the mornings. He isn't as good as he used to be, but it's a 7 year habit that's hard to break. :) Anyway, he was talking about how he doesn't have a lot of friends because his parents never did. I'm not saying what he says in true, but it got me to thinking about how I feel about my friends. I have a group of friends back home that I'm very close to. No matter how close I am with them emotionally or mentally, I didn't hang around them all that much. When I was with my exgirlfriend, however, I wanted to spend every waking moment with her. When I heard Stern mention this, I started to think about my parents. They have friends that they've known for a while, but rarely see them in social environments. They do spend most of their time together. In this situation, could my reacting this way with my friends be a result of my parents? I don't have the greatest social skills and making new friends for me is always hard. I've been living in LA for almost a year and don't have much in the friends department to show for it. I know that it's quality, not quantity when it comes to friends, but I don't seem them in a social environment often or at all. I used to work with most of them and I just stop by there every now and then. Could this be a result of my parents not having any friends? I'm not really an anti-social person. I'm just not all that out going when it comes to making friends. Mainly because I'm not sure how to go about doing it. Which is probably a result of my lack of social skills. (It's a vicious circle. :)) So, what do you think? Are the amount of friendships we have and their meaning contributed by our parents relationships?
 
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TranceNation

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the older you get the less friends you have. this is due to lots
of reasons, some get married and disappear, some move away, etc.
the friends you make later in life are more distant than friends you make early in life.
 
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rlism

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If your parents aren't social mebbe it's just personality that's inherited. My dad isn't very social at all, but my mom over-extends herself when it comes to friends. I probably ended up somewhere in-between. I guess the correlation to 'number of friends' is there.
 
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Nerd

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True friends? My mom, girlfriend, and son.

Friends? A few, not a lot.

What I consider a true friend?

Someone who is there for you no matter what. Back you up through thick and thin. There aren't a lot of ppl like that though.
 
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cherrytwist

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The older you get, you realize that friendships change.

I still have some friends that I grew up with. We hardly see each other any more, but we're there for each other if/when we are needed.

As far as your theory goes, I think it's as true as the theory that we share our parents' personality traits. Which to an extent, we do (at least I do). My parents have each other and that's been enough for them for the past 30-odd years. Same has been true for my fiancee and I the past 4 years. We socialize on occasion, but not often. If we do, it's with a few select friends or family.

Truth be told, my definition of a "friend" has changed alot as I've gotten older (I'm 29). I've got online buddies, neighbors and co-workers whom I socialize with but my truest friends are the ppl I mentioned above. And I'm thankful to have them ;)
 
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Cooltech2k

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My Mom is a very socil person & Has too many Friends to keep up with.
I However Dont Keep Many Friends. I Keep Just enough to stay busy most of the time.
 
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Ameesh

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dont blame your parents go out there and be social, start a card game or invite some people to see a popular movie. Suggest you go to a restaurant for dinner, everyone eats so they should say yes unless your wierd or an ahole. good luck :) you seem like a nice guy to me im sure you can find people to go see a movie or somethin.
 
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JimmyEatWorld

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That theory is crap. My rents have like no friends, and I have a plethora. So that a no go.
Carry on........
 
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Dandaman

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I'd say that i have a handful that i would still be close friends with ten, twenty years from now. Most of the others are just friends of friends that i get along with whenever i see them.
 
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One extremely close friend, about 3 or 4 good friends, and maybe 10-15 acquaintances.
 
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Lifer
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ameesh - Thanks for the reply. Believe me. I've thought about it. It's difficult where I am in my life right now. Most people I come into contact with are over 27 and I'm 21. I've never been one to just go out and make friends. I wouldn't know how to do it and that would just make me seem weird to them.

jimmyeatworld - Thanks for your insightful comment. I'm sure we can all benefit from it. :)
 
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