Okay... So my girlfriend comes out and tells me, "But I love you very much... I don't expect you to say it back until your ready but I wanted you to know that." I've only gone out with her for not even 2 weeks. Does anyone else think this is really jumping the gun?
How long would you think for this?
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dullard
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Two weeks is far too soon for real love to develop. I think she loves the fact that she is going out - not the person she is going out with. It is easy to mix up those two emotions. I think true love takes at least a month to start to develop. But even then you really don't know the person.
Here is the test that I used. Suppose your girlfriend was on a trip and was supposed to call you at 7:00 PM. It is 8:00 PM and you still haven't gotten a call. Are you
(A) angry that you didn't get the call, or
(B) worried that she may have gotten an accident.
If it is true love then the answer is generally (B). Sure you can feel both and be in love, but if you mostly feel (A) then it isn't love.
Here is the test that I used. Suppose your girlfriend was on a trip and was supposed to call you at 7:00 PM. It is 8:00 PM and you still haven't gotten a call. Are you
(A) angry that you didn't get the call, or
(B) worried that she may have gotten an accident.
If it is true love then the answer is generally (B). Sure you can feel both and be in love, but if you mostly feel (A) then it isn't love.
Going on the basic premise that she really is in love with you (questionable), I think the correct answer would be:
When you feel you can say the same to her and mean it. Don't rush it.
For me, yeah thats premature. REAL premature. I wait like an owner of PG&E stocks. I hold out until I know....
I also have short relationships. I dont get that many girls and have probally been labeled as "unreachable".
EDIT: PICS?!
I also have short relationships. I dont get that many girls and have probally been labeled as "unreachable".
EDIT: PICS?!
In this case... Two chicks in the PANTS is better then one in the hand...
or something. lol I make no sense!
I dunno... it just seems like something that came out way too early. She sent me an e-mail today about it and wants to talk. At the end it said, "I hope me saying that didn't scare you or anything." It doesn't scare me, but it makes me think that her train of thought isn't on the same level as mine.
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Well that changes a lot, sorry I thought you just knew her for 2 weeks. The thing is she probably fell in love with you long before you started dating. In that case, I think things aren't too soon. Do my test in the post above. What is your answer?
yea, that's exactly where i was going with that question. 3 years is a long time... i don't think such a comment is so weird.
you guys don't know what she's feeling. she could very well be in love. it may be lust or something else, but i'd be inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt. when you're tuned in to who you are as a person and you perceive people on a deeper level than others, you can recognize soul mates right off the bat; in a matter of minutes. so if she's seen you to be a soul mate and she's gotten to know you a bit, she could very easily be falling in love with you.
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