How long have you been together before propsing?

memo

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Been together with my girlfriend for almost 3 years but I will be waiting untill after all of our schooling/finding a job is done. Shes doing graduate school, I'm doing the finding. So I'm assuming we'll probably be together a good 5-6 years before proposal.
 

farmercal

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I don't think I ever proposed (wife said I didn't) but we somehow ended up married. That was 25 years, three children and one grandchild ago. So I guess we did something right. I think getting your school out of the way before getting hitched is a good idea.
 

dullard

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3 years, 358 days. Basically it was 1 week before our 4th year anniversary just to keep it a surprize. I voted 4 years since it was so close, it was a shame to lump me in with the 2 year croud.
 

dullard

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Originally posted by: farmercal
I think getting your school out of the way before getting hitched is a good idea.
We waited nearly a full 5 years before we got married (about 1 year after I proposed as I poseted above). The wait was just so that I would have my BS degree. My the time we got married, I had decided to go back to school for a MS degree (and later a PhD). My wife was halfway through her BS degree when we got married.

Result: getting married while in school was the best financial thing we could have possibly done. If you are mature enough to handle marriage, then don't let school be the SOLE reason for delaying marriage. Yes that is a big 'if'.
 

ThePresence

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Me give my heart to a woman?
Not for nothin, never happen
I'll be forever mackin'...
 

Asharus

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It's been 8 years since this past 4th of July, can't propose b/c of religous conflicts.
 

bunker

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Originally posted by: Asharus
It's been 8 years since this past 4th of July, can't propose b/c of religous conflicts.

Is New York a common law state? If so, just live with her for I think 10 years then she's legally your common law wife :D.

It took me 7 years to propose. Had to make sure dammit :D.
 

brtspears2

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Not quite there yet, but if I did, the money that could be saved. Auto insurance rates down, no need to pay rent for two places, two incomes fueling one household. Another plus, she does laundry!

Downsides - Gotta get rid of my 5'x3' Britney Spears poster, no more drinking, no more computer time. Marriage sounds financially good, but bad for my entertainment.
 

memo

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Originally posted by: brtspears2
Not quite there yet, but if I did, the money that could be saved. Auto insurance rates down, no need to pay rent for two places, two incomes fueling one household. Another plus, she does laundry!

Downsides - Gotta get rid of my 5'x3' Britney Spears poster, no more drinking, no more computer time. Marriage sounds financially good, but bad for my entertainment.


no more drinking? :thumbsdown:
 

Bryophyte

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We were married about 5 months from our first date. He moved in with me (moving a few hundred miles in the process) by a couple weeks after that first date. Don't recall who brought it up, but it wasn't a proposal, just a mutual agreement. Seems fast, but we'd known each other for around 24 years, and had tried (unsuccessfully) to date in high school about 9 or 10 years earlier.
 

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Originally posted by: bunker
Originally posted by: Asharus
It's been 8 years since this past 4th of July, can't propose b/c of religous conflicts.

Is New York a common law state? If so, just live with her for I think 10 years then she's legally your common law wife :D.

It took me 7 years to propose. Had to make sure dammit :D.

Nope, NY is not a common law state.