How long do you put up with the no sex thing from your S.O.?

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iversonyin

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Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Depends who it's from.

GF: Dump her.
Wife: Find a GF. :p

- M4H

Why is M4H always right? Are you the Old Wise Man they often speak of?
 

SirStev0

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Hey, before you start flushing her, make sure their isn't an underlying issue. She could be having some issues with her plumbing. Find out if there is a reason first.

If not, give her the ban stick.
 

Aikouka

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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I feel that the "no sex" thing is sooo wrong to put upon a spouse/s/o.
I would never do that ever. Don't put up with it.

I've never understood this... why should anyone even expect sex? I prefer treating a girl like a girl and not a sex object.... I believe they make devices for people who want sex objects :p.

It's pretty obvious why the movie "National Lampoon's Adam & Eve" pissed me off so much.
 

Cruisin1

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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I feel that the "no sex" thing is sooo wrong to put upon a spouse/s/o.
I would never do that ever. Don't put up with it.

We need more heroes like you in this world! ;)
 

SirChadwick

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I've been with my fiancee for 3 years now. When starting out, it was 4-5x a week or more, then after a year it was more like 2-3x a week and now it's like once a week. Thank God for free time and my right hand. I'm sure the married life will come with once a month if I'm lucky.
 

MichaelD

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It's important to be with someone compatible with your personality, needs and requirements.

Also, there are a lot of variables here. Do you live w/the GF? Do you only see each other once a week? Sometimes I see my GF 4 nights out of the week; we don't always do it. Sometimes I'm tired too...but NEVER tired when she wants to. :D Gotta jump on the pony when it feels like runnin' ya'know.

Using my situation as an example, let's say I see the GF four nights in a row. If she said no every night w/o a damn good excuse (horrible period, recent abdominal cavity surgery, etc) there'd be a problem. But she's not like that...and there are...other ways to take care of your partner besides genital sexual intercourse. ;) She takes good care of me and that's what's important.

If your GF has been sending you home w/Rosy Palm for the past umpteen nights, she's trying to tell you something, Bubba.
 

habib89

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i sometimes have to wait weeks before i get some.. but it's only cause our daughter insists on sleeping in our bed.... sigh.....
 

lokiju

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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
The g.f. gave that B.S. thing last night about just not feeling like it. That her sex drive is down...from a guys perspective, there is no such thing. But thats what she said. How long is this acceptable for? One night? One Week? One month?

shens

QFT

Sometimes I'm just not in the mood.

:eek:
 

MrDudeMan

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Originally posted by: SirChadwick
I've been with my fiancee for 3 years now. When starting out, it was 4-5x a week or more, then after a year it was more like 2-3x a week and now it's like once a week. Thank God for free time and my right hand. I'm sure the married life will come with once a month if I'm lucky.


that will be your own fault
 

iRONic

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If our GF withheld sex my wife wouldn't put up with it for very long. A month tops.
 

DVad3r

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I would not put up with it, especially from a wife. My gf tries to do the no sex thing with me, but it really does not last very long. A good way to counter this is to just not do anything sexual at all, go out somewhere, spend time with her, then when your sleeping in bed at night you feel something rubbing up at you. Or just sex her up when she is deep asleep, haha.
 

zebano

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Hmm, well my wife and I haven't had sex for 3 weeks, but she just had a C-section, so I can deal with that. :)
 

nakedfrog

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Originally posted by: habib89
i sometimes have to wait weeks before i get some.. but it's only cause our daughter insists on sleeping in our bed.... sigh.....

Afternoon delight, foo!
 

SirChadwick

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Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
Originally posted by: SirChadwick
I've been with my fiancee for 3 years now. When starting out, it was 4-5x a week or more, then after a year it was more like 2-3x a week and now it's like once a week. Thank God for free time and my right hand. I'm sure the married life will come with once a month if I'm lucky.


that will be your own fault

Meaning when I marry her it will be my own fault? Having sex once a week makes it all the merrier to get it.... all 2 minutes of it!

PS: OP can we get a poll here?
 

Kadarin

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Sex is a normal function that both men and women enjoy. I will not go out with a woman who just doesn't do it, unless there's some medical reason that is temporarily preventing her. Like others have said, there's no reason to put up with such nonsense.
 

GrantMeThePower

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Sorry about the lack of poll guys (and lola)...its up now.

I guess for me, I don't mind the one time thing...i mean a week isn't such a big deal...but its the fact that, as others said, it feels like a sign that there are other things going on...a lack of passion...we've been together for like over a year and a half, and have had lots of sex, but she's really getting into other things right now-religion and politics and school-that sort of stuff-and she says that her mind just isn't there.