Why is this always a characteristic of marriage? It seems like whenever a guy announces he is getting married, this is one of the first things other guys will joke about. Is it becuase of the stress of raising kids, or what? Is there anyone on here who is married but has definitely not found this stereotype to be true? I'm not married so I always wonder how much truth there is to this statement.
Aikouka
Lifer
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Then how can someone have sex with a hooker without love for said hooker? You don't have to love someone to have sex and you don't have to have sex with someone to love them. There is absolutely no implication in it anywhere; it's just that you're horny and want a release >_>.
Originally posted by: ITJunkie
You...madam...are a GEM!!! Please contact my wife immediately and explain this to her
Seriously though, my wife is of the same mind as you. She totally rocks my world!! :heart:
Thanks, but it is not as though i think women/wives/gf's are only there to be sex slaves for their partners, but i feel being intimate is a(n) (important) part of every healthy relationship. it is what makes that union special between those two people... something that (hopefully) only they share.
There should never be a time when a man or a women denies sex from the other spouse. It is one thing to be depressed, stressed, sick or over-worked versus just not wanting to be together because of whatever reason.
For example, holding out because they want something or they are trying to "win" in a fight. It annoys me that someone would hold that power over they one person they are supposed to love more than anyone else.
Bottom line: there is an underlying reason why someone does not want sex. Find that out through talking and communication to try and resolve what issue there is.
I have been married for 22 years. I only say that jokingly because the wife is not ready 24/7. But honestly the maximum I go without is 1 week, and we have had 7 children, with the youngest who is almost 10. I would honestly say the wife's sex drive is not as high as mine, but I have ways of dealing with that. (She thinks masturbation is gross, I say "Why" and never get an answer.)
If I were to do it all over again, I would have trained her better when we were dating. It is harder to train women later in life.
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But the thing isn't about the LAST time it's about THIS time and the NEXT time...every one of those 6 month people started one night, you dig? And that's kind of how this thread started....is one night enough to say forget it? A week? How long is acceptable in other people's minds?
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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: ITJunkie
You...madam...are a GEM!!! Please contact my wife immediately and explain this to her
Seriously though, my wife is of the same mind as you. She totally rocks my world!! :heart:
Thanks, but it is not as though i think women/wives/gf's are only there to be sex slaves for their partners, but i feel being intimate is a(n) (important) part of every healthy relationship. it is what makes that union special between those two people... something that (hopefully) only they share.
There should never be a time when a man or a women denies sex from the other spouse. It is one thing to be depressed, stressed, sick or over-worked versus just not wanting to be together because of whatever reason.
For example, holding out because they want something or they are trying to "win" in a fight. It annoys me that someone would hold that power over they one person they are supposed to love more than anyone else.
Bottom line: there is an underlying reason why someone does not want sex. Find that out through talking and communication to try and resolve what issue there is.
Ok, Lola, but what if YOU wanted it and he said no, he wasn't in the mood, and when you try to talk about it, he just says that his drive isn't there, his mind is preoccupied, he's focused on other things. He loves you but just isn't feeling the sex thing right now.
How would you feel about that? How long until it became a problem?
If she cannot say that she's just not in the mood one night without you thinking about breaking up with her, then do her a favor and let her go find someone worthwhile to date. That's just pathetic. She deserves to be with someone who respects her enough to accept that she's just too stressed/preoccupied/tired to have sex once in awhile.
That you have this reaction to ONE instance of no sex tells a hell of a lot more about you than it does about her.
amish
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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: ITJunkie
You...madam...are a GEM!!! Please contact my wife immediately and explain this to her
Seriously though, my wife is of the same mind as you. She totally rocks my world!! :heart:
Thanks, but it is not as though i think women/wives/gf's are only there to be sex slaves for their partners, but i feel being intimate is a(n) (important) part of every healthy relationship. it is what makes that union special between those two people... something that (hopefully) only they share.
There should never be a time when a man or a women denies sex from the other spouse. It is one thing to be depressed, stressed, sick or over-worked versus just not wanting to be together because of whatever reason.
For example, holding out because they want something or they are trying to "win" in a fight. It annoys me that someone would hold that power over they one person they are supposed to love more than anyone else.
Bottom line: there is an underlying reason why someone does not want sex. Find that out through talking and communication to try and resolve what issue there is.
question, is it true that if women don't have it for a while they lose the desire? god i feel like the 40 year-old virgin, but i hear that every once in a while.
BrokenVisage
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Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: ITJunkie
You...madam...are a GEM!!! Please contact my wife immediately and explain this to her
Seriously though, my wife is of the same mind as you. She totally rocks my world!! :heart:
Thanks, but it is not as though i think women/wives/gf's are only there to be sex slaves for their partners, but i feel being intimate is a(n) (important) part of every healthy relationship. it is what makes that union special between those two people... something that (hopefully) only they share.
There should never be a time when a man or a women denies sex from the other spouse. It is one thing to be depressed, stressed, sick or over-worked versus just not wanting to be together because of whatever reason.
For example, holding out because they want something or they are trying to "win" in a fight. It annoys me that someone would hold that power over they one person they are supposed to love more than anyone else.
Bottom line: there is an underlying reason why someone does not want sex. Find that out through talking and communication to try and resolve what issue there is.
Ok, Lola, but what if YOU wanted it and he said no, he wasn't in the mood, and when you try to talk about it, he just says that his drive isn't there, his mind is preoccupied, he's focused on other things. He loves you but just isn't feeling the sex thing right now.
How would you feel about that? How long until it became a problem?
I would feel upset beacuse i would know something is wrong. Whether it is because he is stressed about something, upset about something... what ever the reason... I would not be mad, but worried about him and why he was feeling that way. I am not sure how long it would take to become a problem. I would wait it out for him for who knows how long because i would know there was something else going on. I honestly would not know a time frame. I love him more than anything and only want him to be happy, but i know that is not reality. I know he would do the same for me too.
Originally posted by: amish
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: ITJunkie
You...madam...are a GEM!!! Please contact my wife immediately and explain this to her
Seriously though, my wife is of the same mind as you. She totally rocks my world!! :heart:
Thanks, but it is not as though i think women/wives/gf's are only there to be sex slaves for their partners, but i feel being intimate is a(n) (important) part of every healthy relationship. it is what makes that union special between those two people... something that (hopefully) only they share.
There should never be a time when a man or a women denies sex from the other spouse. It is one thing to be depressed, stressed, sick or over-worked versus just not wanting to be together because of whatever reason.
For example, holding out because they want something or they are trying to "win" in a fight. It annoys me that someone would hold that power over they one person they are supposed to love more than anyone else.
Bottom line: there is an underlying reason why someone does not want sex. Find that out through talking and communication to try and resolve what issue there is.
question, is it true that if women don't have it for a while they lose the desire? god i feel like the 40 year-old virgin, but i hear that every once in a while.
I don't personally think so. At least not for me.... Although some girls i know have told me flat out that they would not care if they never had sex again. I think it is just each females individual make up.
Avalon
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If she just doesn't feel like it, yeah, it can happen. I work from 8-5, and go to classes from 7-10:30 every day, so I'm usually pretty busy...my remaining couple of free hours goes to chores, cleaning up the place, taking care of the little things, relaxing, homework, etc. It gets stressful on me.
So...I've only got 3 free hours a day, max...which is often consumed by one of the things I listed above. It's not uncommon where I just don't feel like having sex with my S.O., either, and I know she complains about it because I've heard it. It just can't be helped. When I finish school (free up my time) and get out of debt I'll be feeling a lot better, and will be in the mood more.
*shrug*
So...I've only got 3 free hours a day, max...which is often consumed by one of the things I listed above. It's not uncommon where I just don't feel like having sex with my S.O., either, and I know she complains about it because I've heard it. It just can't be helped. When I finish school (free up my time) and get out of debt I'll be feeling a lot better, and will be in the mood more.
*shrug*
if she is just not in the mood, then it will take as long as it takes.
unless of course you want to have sex with someone who is only doing it just to do it.
if she is using sex as a weapon, you need to make other arrangements.
unless of course you want to have sex with someone who is only doing it just to do it.
if she is using sex as a weapon, you need to make other arrangements.
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That's the thing-I'm positive that it isn't being used as a weapon. But it is a disinterest. (or 'not in the mood').
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