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How long did it take for you to get over your ex?
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took me a long time. Its been a year now. sometimes I still think about her and keep in touch occasionally.
Like many others have posted, I was ready to commit at the time but she wasn't.
I've had various short term relationships since then but nothing serious.
I think I did truly love her but I realized that if she is happier without me or with somebody else then so be it, I should wish the best for her.
It gets better day by day and eventually you don't really care and you will meet somebody who makes you feel just as wonderful or even better than you once did.
Like many others have posted, I was ready to commit at the time but she wasn't.
I've had various short term relationships since then but nothing serious.
I think I did truly love her but I realized that if she is happier without me or with somebody else then so be it, I should wish the best for her.
It gets better day by day and eventually you don't really care and you will meet somebody who makes you feel just as wonderful or even better than you once did.
Jeff7181
Lifer
Don't get me wrong... it was a rocky road for a while even after I met the new girl... but the easiest way to move on is to start caring about someone else, which just has to happen on it's own. You just have to try not to do things to prevent yourself from caring about someone else.
slightlyhuman
Lifer
I broke up with my gf of 3 years in December. We had break ups before but none this long and I have had no desire to go back although it still hurts me to see her cry and get upset about not having me anymore. We did fight a lot about stupid stuff and IMO was an unhealthy relationship.
The girl I'm dating now got out of an abusive relationship in October and still is not really over him. In a sense where she wants him to be miserable. She doesn't want him back and really gets sick at her stomach when she thinks of him. It's just hard to erase the memories since they will always be there. She is a great girl, we just had to have a heart to heart talk last night and it worked out well.
When she was 17 or so, she had a fiance who was 20+ and they were scheduled to get married. She called it off a month or so before and just didn't want to get married right out of HS. They are brother sister like friends today and I really think he's a great guy. He is married and even his wife loves Lauren(my new gf).
I'm over my exgf to the point where I won't get back with her but I still talk to her every few days either online or the phone. She is having a hard time couping with it and I'm trying to be there as a friend the best I can.
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The girl I'm dating now got out of an abusive relationship in October and still is not really over him. In a sense where she wants him to be miserable. She doesn't want him back and really gets sick at her stomach when she thinks of him. It's just hard to erase the memories since they will always be there. She is a great girl, we just had to have a heart to heart talk last night and it worked out well.
When she was 17 or so, she had a fiance who was 20+ and they were scheduled to get married. She called it off a month or so before and just didn't want to get married right out of HS. They are brother sister like friends today and I really think he's a great guy. He is married and even his wife loves Lauren(my new gf).
I'm over my exgf to the point where I won't get back with her but I still talk to her every few days either online or the phone. She is having a hard time couping with it and I'm trying to be there as a friend the best I can.
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My first relationship lasted 3 months (really), and it took me another month after that to break up with her because I felt bad about it.
My first sexual relationship lasted 3 months and she cheated on me (I was over that pretty quickly, needless to say).
My next sexual relationship lasted 3 months (see a pattern?) and was with a girl that just stopped returning my calls (which was weird because I wasn't even that interested, but she was coming after me).
My first REAL relationship lasted a year, I ended it last July and it's taking awhile to get over it. Even though I broke up with her, I'm still not completely over it. However, honestly, it's not her I miss, but the sex. Man... it was good. You just don't come by someone like that very often in life. It's almost worth over-looking the rest of the sh1t.
My first sexual relationship lasted 3 months and she cheated on me (I was over that pretty quickly, needless to say).
My next sexual relationship lasted 3 months (see a pattern?) and was with a girl that just stopped returning my calls (which was weird because I wasn't even that interested, but she was coming after me).
My first REAL relationship lasted a year, I ended it last July and it's taking awhile to get over it. Even though I broke up with her, I'm still not completely over it. However, honestly, it's not her I miss, but the sex. Man... it was good. You just don't come by someone like that very often in life. It's almost worth over-looking the rest of the sh1t.
slightlyhuman
Lifer
That can be good or bad. You don't want the first thing that comes avail. to you. Just hang out with you're friends and date different girls instead of just one.
GL
funboy6942
Lifer
Well first off you will never get over her if you two remain friends after the fact. You need to completly remove her from your life. All pictures, cards, gifts, everything.
2nd the saying if you let it go and set it free and if it comes back it was ment to be. Let her go. If she comes to her senses and sees she cannot be without you she will come back. But while you two remain as friend and in contact that will never happen.
3rd. Go get laid. Do you think she is not going to ??? Forget that idea. If you think she is not going to have sex with someone else that is wishful thinking. If your thinking of her feelings if you go get some and how she will be hurt oh well you two are not together. Your dink will fall off if you dont so go to it man. Besides nothing kills the pain better then boose and a loose woman.
If you do this you will get over her sooner then you think but if you dont break off the friendship it will drag on for a long time and when she goes and dates someone else and you see it its only going to hurt again and even more. Set yourself free man set yourself free.
2nd the saying if you let it go and set it free and if it comes back it was ment to be. Let her go. If she comes to her senses and sees she cannot be without you she will come back. But while you two remain as friend and in contact that will never happen.
3rd. Go get laid. Do you think she is not going to ??? Forget that idea. If you think she is not going to have sex with someone else that is wishful thinking. If your thinking of her feelings if you go get some and how she will be hurt oh well you two are not together. Your dink will fall off if you dont so go to it man. Besides nothing kills the pain better then boose and a loose woman.
If you do this you will get over her sooner then you think but if you dont break off the friendship it will drag on for a long time and when she goes and dates someone else and you see it its only going to hurt again and even more. Set yourself free man set yourself free.
doesnt really matter what you do.. when you find the right one and if things go wrong...
you never truely get over them...
I was married to my dream girl but the Navy tore us apart... I made the mistake of choosing it over her...
big mistake..
10 years and a few girlfriends later I still miss her every day..
sometimes you just dont get over the one you truly loved.
you never truely get over them...
I was married to my dream girl but the Navy tore us apart... I made the mistake of choosing it over her...
big mistake..
10 years and a few girlfriends later I still miss her every day..
sometimes you just dont get over the one you truly loved.
edmundoab
Diamond Member
Yes i guess precisely what is happening like on valentine's day she had a one on one date .. and painful enough someone I know.
and it really brought my whole day down crashing ...
so are you confirming that there is no way I can keep it as friends and move on in life?
it will keep hurting me over and over again?
here is what I say about the friend after relationship thing. what do you really gain in keeping her as a friend? Is it really that important to you?
Anyways, if you go in the friendship with the idea that you aren't using this as a springboard to get back together then I guess fine but otherwise keep to yourself.
I personally think 2 months is way too short to get back together as friends.
edmundoab
Diamond Member
ok...
fact is I don't even know if its a springboard,
but i guess deep down inside me I still have a hope that later in the future.. like 2 years down the road.. anything can happen..
when she starts to mature and knows what she wants..
of course the if and ands.. like provided she don't find another guy by then and still keep single..
I know its naive.. but im speaking whats in my heart right now
fact is I don't even know if its a springboard,
but i guess deep down inside me I still have a hope that later in the future.. like 2 years down the road.. anything can happen..
when she starts to mature and knows what she wants..
of course the if and ands.. like provided she don't find another guy by then and still keep single..
I know its naive.. but im speaking whats in my heart right now
funboy6942
Lifer
If everytime you think of her you hurt, if everytime she goes on a date you hurt, if you had a tumor that hurt and the doctors can cut it off and make you feel better afterwards would you keep the tumor?
She is your tumor. She doesnt care about your feeling and hate to say it but we as men have ways of playing sick mind games and keeping your gf after your guys split and to stay as friends is thier sick mind game of keeping you inches away to pull you in some more then to crush you again.
Cut off your tumor, get chemo treatments, and next thing you know your all better. If you dont your only going to get sicker and sicker. Throw a party wth your friends. Bring all the crap she gave you, some beer, music, can of gas and a 55 gallon metal drum and have fun. And no matter how much it hurts to ignor her calling you, or stoping by tell her to get. That short pain telling her to get bent is going to be alot less as the months/years go by you stand in the shadows feeling sorry for yourself watching her get on with her life.
funboy6942
Lifer
If you let her go who knows in two years you may be in a better situation and wont want her back.
It took me a good 6 months I would say. Just because it was a 2 and a half year relationship and she cheated on me; when I we were going to get married after we finished college. It killed me, but I went through it, recovered, and now I found someone who can run circles around my ex. So it wasn't meant to be.
When I was going through the process, I just concentrated on other things such as working out, school, and my job. It all worked out in the end, and it always will. 🙂
When I was going through the process, I just concentrated on other things such as working out, school, and my job. It all worked out in the end, and it always will. 🙂
edmundoab
Diamond Member
Don't you think this world is just full of irony,
there are girls who are complaining that the guy hasn't been giving them enough sense of security and break of with them for being a playboy,
and then on the opposite end there are men like me who are ever so willing to commit and the girl just wants freedom and being single by choice
there are girls who are complaining that the guy hasn't been giving them enough sense of security and break of with them for being a playboy,
and then on the opposite end there are men like me who are ever so willing to commit and the girl just wants freedom and being single by choice
piroroadkill
Senior member
Still am not totally, have my s hitty moments, but I'm generally better now, in about 7 months.
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