How long after a break-up would you start dating again?

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joeryu

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just broke up with my gf...and i was wondering...how long after a break up would you start seeing other people? we ended on good terms, and when i tried to bring up the subject she said she'd be pissed if i started seeing someone else? :confused:
 
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You should wait until you think you are emotionally ready to start another relationship.

She has not right to be mad at you for wanting to move on. She should too.

Why do women have to be so difficult?
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: ) Amanda
 
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bolido2000

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If you find someone you like, then just go for it. She will likely be uncomfortable with the idea for the next 5 years anyways
 
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Semidevil

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I say you can date if/when you are ready....

why would your ex-gf even care? unless she still has feelings for you...
 
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joeryu

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we both saw the break coming, so i have already had time to adjust and get over, but i guess she hasnt yet?
 
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BCYL

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Right away :D

j/k...

I dont set these time limits on myself... if the right person comes along, then I would go for it... otherwise I would just wait...
 
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Tsaico

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I would say be single till you no longer think of her on a daily basis.
 
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Lifer
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Originally posted by: jOjO316
we both saw the break coming, so i have already had time to adjust and get over, but i guess she hasnt yet?
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If she is acting like that then she probably isn't over you yet. It takes woman longer than men to get over a serious relationship. You really should move on whenever you feel ready. It's not fair to you to wait until she's over you. Maybe you moving on will clue her in on the fact that she should do the same.


: ) Amanda
 
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amnesiac

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To put a specific time on it, the general rule of thumb is 1/2 the length of the relationship (i.e. takes 6 months to get over a 1 year relationship). I think it's phooey but it's the only one I've heard.

Personally, my last relationship was 6 months and 1 week. She gave me a month's warning that she'd be moving across the country to be with her family and start a new career, so I made it clear that we'd just break up.
Well, she left and I had another girl waiting for me that same day (yeah, she *waited* until I was single. I'm that good.) It's more complicated than I let on so ask for details before you judge..

In any case, it all depends on how prepared you are for a new relationship. my first breakup left me emotionally unstable for over a year (3 year relationship). My last one, well, I was over it before it ended.
 
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joeryu

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In any case, it all depends on how prepared you are for a new relationship. my first breakup left me emotionally unstable for over a year (3 year relationship). My last one, well, I was over it before it ended.
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kinda my situation, i was over it before it ended. i kinda have someone that i wanna start seeing...but then again i dont want to hurt my ex's feelings, cause we're still great friends and i wanna keep it that way. i guess ill kinda hint it to her that i wanna move on...maybe she'll get the point and do the same. thanks for the help peeps.
 
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Originally posted by: jOjO316
In any case, it all depends on how prepared you are for a new relationship. my first breakup left me emotionally unstable for over a year (3 year relationship). My last one, well, I was over it before it ended.
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kinda my situation, i was over it before it ended. i kinda have someone that i wanna start seeing...but then again i dont want to hurt my ex's feelings, cause we're still great friends and i wanna keep it that way. i guess ill kinda hint it to her that i wanna move on...maybe she'll get the point and do the same. thanks for the help peeps.
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i think you should move on.. dont' pass up the oportunity to date another girl just because you think you will hurt your ex's feelings.. if she really is your friend, she'll get over it, and be happy for you.. if she still has feelings for you, well then (to put it bluntly) it's her problem...

i recently broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years, and i was on the receiving end.. i don't know if i still have feelings for her or if i'm just hiding them so well even i don't know.. but if she started seeing someone else it'd be wierd.. but there's really nothing i can do about it but be happy for her
 
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Right away, you're a free man now! Don't listen to her and let her play you for a fool!
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man, if there is play to be had, you better be taking care of it. :)
 
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not too soon or the breakup would seem like you were cheating on her with another girl. I'd say a month or two at least
 
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Tarfin

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Originally posted by: ChefJoe
Wait until after the breakup? Youth is fleeting.
Before ... that's why you broke up with her, isn't it?
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You guys are cruel....funny but cruel! :D
 
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stonecold3169

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It's an answer that has no true answer. Me, I tend to take a long, long time to recover because I usually only ever date people that mean a whole lot to me before we start dating, whereas some people date people they almost don't know...
 
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