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How intimate do you get with your coworkers?

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imported_Tomato

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Not physically, but in terms of conversation.

One of my gay male coworkers (who I've gone out dancing with in the past... a big group of us met up at a gay club in West Hollywood to celebrate his bithday a few months back) has suddenly taken a notable interest in my love life, stopping by to insist on "all the juicy details".

He calls me at my cubicle and gives me tips/advice on things, starting out "It's time to have another girl-to-girl talk!" He's a really nice guy (a bit of a queen, but a nice queen) and I appreciate his wanting to help, but am a bit puzzled by his sudden enthusiasm.

Not sure if getting TOO intimate detail-wise is a good idea... on one hand, he could be a cool friend to talk to/party with. On the other hand, he is still a coworker in my division... ranking slightly above me, albeit not directly.

Has any had any positive/negative experiences in terms of "getting personal with coworkers" in the past?
 
Maybe he found out that you talk about yourself a lot on ATOT and got hooked... you know, like some ppl do after watching a couple episodes of All My Children, even though it's crappy and boring.
 
I've gone out with a few of my couple workers before. Its cool to ask what they have been up to or what they're doing for the weekend. But I wouldn't want to go into much detail about my personal life because coworkers love gossip about their fellow associates.
 
I don't get personal with coworkers, only friends. If a coworker happens to segue into a state of friendship with me, then I would welcome conversations that I would otherwise not have with my other coworkers.
 
Originally posted by: MrAwesome
Gay people say the darndest things.
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lol

Maybe it's this season. Feeling lonely and you're friendly enough to talk to? (or you don't blatantly ignore him) I have the opposite problem where co-workers or people I barely know want to dump their personal life out on me. And I haven't the heart to tell them that I don't give rat's ass about their latest dating troubles.

Maybe I should put on a priest's collar and set up a little curtain over my shoulder. 😛




EDIT: [TMI]I have hooked up with co-workers before. 🙂[/TMI]
 
Intimate as in my relationships and such? Not at all. But then i don't go into details with even my closes friends on such matters.

But i don't have a problem telling coworkers or even recent acquintance on personal stuff... like if they ask what i'm doing when i'm walking by their office, i tell them i'm taking a dump. Or why i'm scratching my groin often, because i just shaved down there. Etc etc.
 
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Originally posted by: MrAwesome
Gay people say the darndest things.
Click to expand...
lol

Maybe it's this season. Feeling lonely and you're friendly enough to talk to? (or you don't blatantly ignore him) I have the opposite problem where co-workers or people I barely know want to dump their personal life out on me. And I haven't the heart to tell them that I don't give rat's ass about their latest dating troubles.

Maybe I should put on a priest's collar and set up a little curtain over my shoulder. 😛




EDIT: [TMI]I have hooked up with co-workers before. 🙂[/TMI]
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Heh... or become a psychologist. 🙂

How didi the hooking up with your coworkers go/turn out? :Q Most of mine are gay or married with kids, so there's no chance of that happening. 😛
 
Originally posted by: Dezign
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Originally posted by: MrAwesome
Gay people say the darndest things.
Click to expand...
lol

Maybe it's this season. Feeling lonely and you're friendly enough to talk to? (or you don't blatantly ignore him) I have the opposite problem where co-workers or people I barely know want to dump their personal life out on me. And I haven't the heart to tell them that I don't give rat's ass about their latest dating troubles.

Maybe I should put on a priest's collar and set up a little curtain over my shoulder. 😛




EDIT: [TMI]I have hooked up with co-workers before. 🙂[/TMI]
Click to expand...

Heh... or become a psychologist. 🙂

How didi the hooking up with your coworkers go/turn out? :Q Most of mine are gay or married with kids, so there's no chance of that happening. 😛
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And has that stopped anyone before?
 
never date coworkers. i learned the umm .. "HARD" way. it's ok i wasn't expecting much from them but it was fun at the time.

in conversation, i tend not to talk about my life or experiences. i'd rather listen to other people talk.
 
Originally posted by: Dezign
Not physically, but in terms of conversation.

One of my gay male coworkers (who I've gone out dancing with in the past... a big group of us met up at a gay club in West Hollywood to celebrate his bithday a few months back) has suddenly taken a notable interest in my love life, stopping by to insist on "all the juicy details".

He calls me at my cubicle and gives me tips/advice on things, starting out "It's time to have another girl-to-girl talk!" He's a really nice guy (a bit of a queen, but a nice queen) and I appreciate his wanting to help, but am a bit puzzled by his sudden enthusiasm.

Not sure if getting TOO intimate detail-wise is a good idea... on one hand, he could be a cool friend to talk to/party with. On the other hand, he is still a coworker in my division... ranking slightly above me, albeit not directly.

Has any had any positive/negative experiences in terms of "getting personal with coworkers" in the past?
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You definitely have an interesting life 🙂
 
Who cares. Just don't give up anything that would be possible blackmail material, or grounds for being fired.
 
heh, I don't think that'll be happening too much...the new job consists of other sales men anywhere from 9 to 20 to 30 years older than me, and a receptionist 6 years older...attractive, but not enough, plus she has a kid.

I'd say that's kind of weird, anyway...understandable that he might be interested in different things, due to his orientation, but still. Safety bubble go pop.
 
I'm pretty good friends with the guy I used to share an office with, to the extent of hanging out after work on occasion and discussing personal stuff, but I don't really talk to anyone else at my job.
 
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