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How does oneself get out of a depression?

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Have you had a vacation lately? Sometimes you need to get somewhere totally different and have some YOU time (or even US time w/ the wife). It helps you reboot the system so you can go back to your day to day life and once again see the good things that are there.

That and porn, booze & hookers...
 
As the others have said, get some professional help.
One thing that most all the professionals agree on though is physical activity. I get depressed too, and currently I am layed off from a hands on type of busy profession.
When I go to work, get physical, it really helps. I cannot emphasize this enough. I am not talking about the extremes of the "runners high", massive endorphins, etc.
Just a brisk walk, throwing the ball with your kids, the dog, walking the mall with your wife. Please try this, while considering getting professional help.
I posted this because no one else mentioned it, and none of your posts talked about that sort of thing.
 
Originally posted by: Mwilding
That and porn, booze & hookers...
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The porn will leave you feeling guilty.
The booze will make you more depressed, and
The hookers will leave you broke and possibly diseased.

Finally, as Quixfire indicated, he's not into those three things.



 
Originally posted by: Tiles2Tech
Originally posted by: Mwilding
That and porn, booze & hookers...
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The porn will leave you feeling guilty.
The booze will make you more depressed, and
The hookers will leave you broke and possibly diseased.

Finally, as Quixfire indicated, he's not into those three things.
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Did you miss the serious part of my post? 😕
 
I was diagnosed with depression 8 years ago and I take medication for it. If you would like advice PM me....most of the peeps on this BBS will give you a stupid answer.


Ausm
 
First, get a thorough physical checkup. Depression can be one of the signs, or side effects, of many easily-curable diseases or disorders. Thyroid imbalance, for example, can cause depression, or depression is an early sign of some heart disorders.

And don't settle for the quickie doctor's-office checkup, you need a really good one.

Did you make any kind of changes back when the depression started? New detergent, new cat, new brand of underwear? You could be allergic to something, or maybe the new tight underwear is cutting off blood flow somewhere.

If you come out fine, start looking for a therapist. This doesn't have to be a psychiatrist, but someone you can trust and talk to, who has some kind of training and expertise in seeing problems from the outside. We've had far better experiences with things like reiki therapists, "life coaches" and non-medical folk in this area, but there are a lot of really good medical folks out there, of course.

Clinical trials show that medication works best when used as assistance to therapy. To over-simplify, if you are depressed because your third-grade teacher humiliated you, drugs can alleviate that depressed feeling - but therapy can help you come to terms with that third-grade problem, and you can move on. The drugs make the therapy a lot easier and quicker. Many people find that the depression seeps into other parts of their life and then they can't uncover the original issues - drugs help you straighten out your thoughts. However, drugs can have a lot of side effects, and many drugs themselves cause depression.

Drugs may "cure" depression but that's like using a pain killer to "cure" the pain of a broken leg. Don't rely on drugs completely.

Many people find relief from herbal or non-drug things such as SAMe, Valerian, etc (google for that stuff). Usually, fewer side effects, but less direct relief. Also, they are not "safe" - gotta check out the proper uses, etc. There aren't enough herbalists around these days to help, and this stuff isn't really for self-administration.

Also, depression can just be a sign that you need to make some changes. Any thoughts on this?

Good luck & feel better.
 
Originally posted by: TwiceOver
Seriously. Talk to a doctor and don't be embarassed about it. Medications these days are simply amazing.
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Medication for depression is used by doctors to subjegate the patient too often these days. It is the easy fix but is merely a bandaid. Medication makes the body "feel" better but it doesn't heal the mind so all it accomplishes is masking the true problem and root cause of your depression. You need to see a therapist and find out what in your life is causing the way you feel and then work to overcome the cause and resist the temptaion to use drugs to treat the symptoms.
 
Originally posted by: Mwilding
Have you had a vacation lately? Sometimes you need to get somewhere totally different and have some YOU time (or even US time w/ the wife).
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It has been a while since I have had a vacation, February 04, but I do have a business trip coming up.

It helps you reboot the system so you can go back to your day to day life and once again see the good things that are there.
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Like my customer's 67 GT500?

 
Originally posted by: skyking
One thing that most all the professionals agree on though is physical activity. I get depressed too, and currently I am layed off from a hands on type of busy profession.
When I go to work, get physical, it really helps. I cannot emphasize this enough. I am not talking about the extremes of the "runners high", massive endorphins, etc.
Just a brisk walk, throwing the ball with your kids, the dog, walking the mall with your wife. Please try this, while considering getting professional help.
I posted this because no one else mentioned it, and none of your posts talked about that sort of thing.
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I haven?t done any physical activity with the exception of working in the shop. It would be nice to get away with the wife for a night or even a weekend but right now I don?t enjoy her company and I have lost the desire to be with her.

 
Have a mod ban your account for a month, and start working out. You'll begin producing more testesterone which will make you feel better.

You can also PM me because there is something you can do that won't require you to go to a doctor...
 
It can be really difficult to "get youself" out of feeling depressed, especially the longer you've been feeling this way. Sometimes it's impossible to do it yourself. I would suggest trying to get some sort of regular exercise (it helps to boost positive brain chemicals) and make sure you are getting adequate, good-quality sleep (during my periods of depression, getting quality sleep makes a huge, positive difference). Since this is something that's been going on for a while, I would also suggest that you talk to your doctor and/or a therapist/counsellor. They can help you to find the best way(s) for you to get out of the depression - meditation, counselling, medication, lifestyle modification, etc. Feel free to PM me.
 
Joseph Luciani has written some grat books if your problem is not serious enough to ~require~ professional help. I recommend both. It sounds like your situation would greatly benefit from a professional counselor as well.

I wish you luck! But alot more depends or your desire to change your perspectives than on luck!

Here is his web-site.
 
I dont want to sound like a saint, but here's what I did. I was depressed after I lost my daughter and my girlfriend left me. I started drinking and took a break from things. I went and lived with my parents and then with a friend for a couple of months. I could'nt sleep anymore. I knew I was depressed. So I started running for 20 mins everyday. I got back to my studies and started doing well. I dont believe in medication. I think the mind is very powerful and willpower is more than enough. My friend used to tell me, decide on your priorities and then fight one battle at a time. Dont try to give up on your addictions and solve your problems all at the same time. Live one day at a time. Try to be happy one moment at a time. Its a lot easier that way. Do some community work, like hands on work at a charity or a local shelter. It'll help you take your mind off things which sadden you now.
Work at your relationship if you can. A broken family isnt going to help your children. Think about it.

Hope you can work things out and be happy.

CD.
 
Originally posted by: Quixfire
Originally posted by: Mwilding
Have you had a vacation lately? Sometimes you need to get somewhere totally different and have some YOU time (or even US time w/ the wife).
Click to expand...
It has been a while since I have had a vacation, February 04, but I do have a business trip coming up.

It helps you reboot the system so you can go back to your day to day life and once again see the good things that are there.
Click to expand...
Like my customer's 67 GT500?
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Exactly like that. You get to work on and play with the ultimate muscle car. You need to find a way to get to the point where that is cool again. Maybe a vacation, maybe a shrink, maybe some happy pills, maybe nice girl named Jenna.... You need to find out what it is that will get you back to that place...

Good luck, buddy 🙂

 
Zooloft! It worked for my depressed angst teen sister, it'll work for you. But it fvcked her up pretty good too, she turned to a hippie.
 
Seek professional help and physical activity (cardiovasular).

Exercising releases Endorphins. Endorphins make you happy... 🙂
 
Ok, it has been said numerous times before in this thread but it cannot be stressed enough: you need to speak to an analyst/psychologist first and possibly a psychiatrist if it's determined that you need medication. Depression symptoms have a tendency to escalate and it sounds like you have a job and I presume some sort of health insurance. While most health insurance policies will not cover all of the analyst's charges they will cover 50% or sometimes more.

One thing that I noticed is not stressed in this thread is that you should not self-medicate. Whether it's alcohol, illicit or prescription drugs stay away from it till you see the doctor. Don't listen to anyone who says that such and such med helped my so and so, have a few. It's a very sensitive subject and anti-depressants and mood stabilizers get prescribed based on your particular symptoms and physical condition (get a complete physical if you go to a psychiatrist, they'll probably make you do it anyway). Another thing with antidepressant meds is that with a lot of them there is a titration period where basically it needs to build up in your body before it starts doing its stuff. So make sure to ask a lot of questions when and if you go in for meds.

And keep in mind that it's nothing to be ashamed off, thats what those bastards get paid for so be sure to get all your issues addressed.

On a ligter side, try to keep your sense of humor thru the toughest times and flirt/make friends with nurses and assistants from the get go because if you end up going for therapy for a while it helps to have friends on the inside.

I also found something on Amazon that may give you a chuckle
 
I talked to psychologist back when i was 19 at school, it was a school run service where most of the psychologist were on there graduates program etc.
Well I didn?t want to do it and only did it because of ex-girlfriend thought could help me. I really didn?t want to do it because I didn?t want it to come back and bite me in the ass later when applying for jobs. Well it did when applying to become a cop they asked me if I ever had seen one and ask for records so I had to go to school and get the notes taken by the psychologist and now I have to have a more involved meeting with the police psychiatrist and it?s holding me from getting into the academy.

By the way going to those meeting was the most boring time ever.

Edit: i'm not putting down seeing a psychologist, just in my case it has hurt me instead of helped.
 
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