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How does oneself get out of a depression?

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Quixfire

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I have been wondering this myself over the last several months. I have let my personal, spiritual, and work relationships slip. I find no pleasure in being with any of my friends or doing any hobbies. I don?t enjoy playing any computer games, reading, talking, or even loving anyone. My kids are becoming a nuisance to me and my wife is just someone I want to avoid more than I want to be with. I?ve started to hate being at work, on the Internet, or even at home. All I want to do is sleep once I get home. I?ve quit drinking, not that I was a big drinker to begin with, and I beaten my addiction to pornographic. I should have some pride in my accomplishments, even if pride is a sin, but I don?t care because I feel miserable all the time. I tried to avoid all personal contact because I don?t want to lash out at anyone for my own problems, or lack thereof. I only do what is expected of me, smile when smiled at, respond to questions but never start a conversation, service the cars that show up, but I don?t pursue any new business, and I?m always late on my deliverables at work.

Am I in a depression and if so what can I do to help myself or should I seek professional assistance?
 
Seek professional treatment immediately. You have a moral responsibilty to your family and the people that care about you to make things better. The road ahead will be a difficult one, but in the end you will come out stronger. I'm sure your kids would be a lot happier if Dad got divorced and left than if dad killed himself. You still have choices, seek help from an outside professional that can guide you in the right direction.
 
i am so sorry you have been feeling that way. I truly know how you are feeling as i was faced with the same thing a short while ago. I would definatly see a Dr ASAP and then get a good referral to a therapist.

I was on meds for a while but they ltierally made me trip out so i found that talking to someone who is completely non biased was good.

good luck, god bless. BTW, go to a bookstore sometime this week and take the time to look at some basic books about meditation. that really does help as well!
 
Originally posted by: DivideBYZero
Reality first, medication later. Not all can be fixed by a pill. Please...
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i agree, don't rush for medications. if you do seek medical assistance, get more than one opinion. anyone who wants to learn some interesting things about our drug culture and the companies behind it here in the US should check this out:

the truth about the drug companies

as for the depression, i found that I need a creative outlet. hobbies are great, but a lot of them don't let you create anything. for example following sports or watching a ton of movies isn't really a hobby. I took up running and play guitar, before i wouldn't want to do anything but sit around acting bored, after a year I now see that there isn't enough time in the day to do everything i want to. your reason for living shouldn't just be for the sake of others.
 
Originally posted by: Bumrush99
Seek professional treatment immediately. You have a moral responsibilty to your family and the people that care about you to make things better. The road ahead will be a difficult one, but in the end you will come out stronger. I'm sure your kids would be a lot happier if Dad got divorced and left than if dad killed himself. You still have choices, seek help from an outside professional that can guide you in the right direction.
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He's right, you need help. I'd look for a therapist first. The meds will change you as a person and IMO should only be used as a last resort.
 
Regardless of which road you choose - medications, therapists, etc. - I've found a good book that seems to be about the best there is when it comes to depression. Feeling Good: New Mood Therapy by Dr. Burns. This book looks at medications, but also suggests the non-med methods, too. Primarlily, cognitive methods along with some great exercises in the book to set you on the right path. Granted, the book is a bit long 650 or so paperback pages, but it is a great read.

 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Is there anything you do enjoy?
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I like watching fantasy based movies like The Lord of the Rings but I can't stand it if someone interrupts me. I also like working in my shop alone making parts for my customers. I repair classic musclecars for fun and profit, but its been less fun and more profit lately.

Does your family have a history of depression?
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I'm not aware of anyone in my family that has depression but my grandfather and my brother were alcoholics.

When did these feelings start?
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They started about four months ago.

 
How about a V8 swap into a Ghia? I'll bet driving the end result would put a smile on your face...
Sorry to hear about the troubles though, here's hoping you pull out of it before too long.
 
mid life crisis??
Youre gonna have to push through this, learn about it.....dont be afraid to talk about it with someone that can help you, and emerge on the other side no worse for the wear! Ok maybe alittle wear 😀
 
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
How about a V8 swap into a Ghia? I'll bet driving the end result would put a smile on your face...
Sorry to hear about the troubles though, here's hoping you pull out of it before too long.
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That actually made me smile. It reminds me of the time when I put a 460 in a 76 Pinto wagon. 🙂
 
Originally posted by: Quixfire
Originally posted by: welst10
you need a new hobby. I suggest downloading porn.
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My original post stated I have given up looking at porn.
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i cannot stand the fact that people will reply with a smart ass comment to such a serious and heart felt thread.
and never mind if he was joking by saying DL porn... it wasnt funny.
Quixfire, i truly hope you try talking to someone, you dont deserve to feel like this. 🙁
 
Originally posted by: Ogg
mid life crisis??
Youre gonna have to push through this, learn about it.....dont be afraid to talk about it with someone that can help you, and emerge on the other side no worse for the wear! Ok maybe alittle wear 😀
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It could be, I am in my mid-thirties but I don't want a sports car or a Barbie-type girlfriend. I still love my wife and kids and I have my dream car in storage.
 
Originally posted by: Lola
Originally posted by: Quixfire
Originally posted by: welst10
you need a new hobby. I suggest downloading porn.
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My original post stated I have given up looking at porn.
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i cannot stand the fact that people will reply with a smart ass comment to such a serious and heart felt thread.
and never mind if he was joking by saying DL porn... it wasnt funny.
Quixfire, i truly hope you try talking to someone, you dont deserve to feel like this. 🙁
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Thanks Lola 🙂

 
What people need to realize is that there is a difference between "the blues" and depression. Depression isn't very easy to climb out of - alone. It could go on for years. The blues, on the other hand, can usually be lifted by some moderate activity. The blues, while they make you feel a bit sad, do not lead you to the point where you think about no longer existing on this earth.

Then, there is also dysthymia - which is a low grade depression which people could live with for their whole life - unless treatment is sought.

Also, don't forget about SAD - or, Seasonal Affective Disorder - which is a depression that can be brought on by a change in seasons or experiencing shorter daylight hours - as we do in the winter months.

 
I would recommend seeing a therapist. Don't try to deal with this on your own. It may continue to spiral and get worse. Please do yourself a favor and you won't regret it. I do hope you feel better.
 
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