How does it affect you when you feel like your SO doesnt appreciate the things you do?

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: shimsham
eh, im kinda odd about this stuff. i dont need to hear thanks or any fuss when i cook, keep up the lawn, take out the trash, fix the cars, or do home repairs. i do it because i love her and thats my role in the marriage. as long as she does laundry and dishes, and writes the checks for the bills, i feel she appreciates what i do for her. same goes for special things.

i always make a point to thank her for the things she does, tho.

i'm betting your wife is a happy lady.

in all seriousness, i try to do as much as i can. seeing as how my life is pretty much devoid of responsibility and my wife barely has time to breathe... that's that way it should be, for now at least (me trying to help).

it is true though, that when I do something, she is pretty appreciative. i wouldn't care if she didn't thank me, but i try to remember to thank her for everything. when i cook dinner, even if it's easy, i get HUGE props... saves her a lot of time.

basically, anything i can do that will save her time is sure to get some thanks, and she really appreciates it.

still would like some context on this issue if possible.

9yrs and going strong.

it makes me feel awkward when she makes a "big deal" about me doing something for her. but hell, i dont like getting gifts either, so im just kinda fvked up like that.

 

[hjo3]

Eh, I've yet to feel un-appreciated.

 

[Megadeth]

I didnt really know how important it was until I had gotten near the end of a 3 year relationship... Now I'm in a relationship with a woman who really does appreciate me and everything I do... The best part is that she does so much for me taht we are in an equal give/take relationship which pretty much never seems to happen. I couldnt be happier.

 

[MX2]

I dont necessarily mean your SO jumping up and down, blowing whisltes, letting balloons down kind of appreciation. I just mean a kind word once in a while saying something to the effect of ..."Hey, what you do for me makes me feel good and I appreciate you."

I know all of us tend to get busy and get caught up in everyday life's worries and woes, but I think we all need to go home tonight or pick up the phone and say what needs to be said for those we love and care for. It DOES make a difference whether you are the one hearing it, or saying it

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger
I always get the big piece of chicken.

:thumbsup:

 

[franksta]

Make me feel like I really am the better half.

 

[pontifex]

i'd be appreciative to just have an SO.

 

[TallBill]

I really dont need a pat on my back every day letting me know how swell I am.

 

[GeekDrew]

I've yet to feel appreciated.

Then again, I've yet to find a SO. lol