Originally posted by: Michelle
Now, please enlighten me as to how a ban on Gay Marriage will help deal with STD's among gay males ?
A ban on gay marriage will teach my children that gay relationships are not "normal." Gays cannot reproduce, the only benefit they get from having sex is pleasure.
Gay relationships are perfectly normal. They exist in every human culture. An absence of gay relationships within a culture would be abnormal or odd -- but of course a human culture has never been found where gay relationships do not occur.
And by the way, it is not the role of marriage law to "teach your children" anything. If you want to inculcate bigotry and prejudice in your children, you need to do that on your own time. Gay couples have the right to equal treatment before the law (with respect to heterosexuals) -- that is a fundamental and constitutional right, and it is a right that certainly trumps your silly notion that marriage law should be used to "teach" your children a lesson in bigotry and prejudice.
Infertile heterosexuals cannot reproduce -- according to your logic "the only benefit they get from having sex is pleasure"... is this a rationale for banning marriage among those who are infertile...? Lol. Right.
You can love many people, but gay marriage is not just about love, it's about sex and it's about telling society that gay sex is totally normal. A lot of gay men look for young men to have sex with because there is a better chance that the young guys aren't infected with the HIV virus. Gay men do not seem to be leading the best life. The majority of the people that have AIDS are gay men. A lot of gay men now think it's cool to ride "bare back" (without protection). It's like you're a hero if you sleep with someone who's infected. Then you have the bi-sexual people who sleep with the people that have AIDS and then carry it over to heterosexual people while we spend billions and billions of dollars trying to help people that get AIDS.
1. Are you suggesting that heterosexual marriage is just about love? (i.e., it is not about sex?) Every book on the psychology of human relationships I have read suggests that sex between a marital couple plays many roles other than a procreative role -- in particular, it enhances emotional closeness, and strengthens the bond between the couple. I see no reason why this wouldn't apply to gay couples every bit as much as it applies to heterosexual couples.
2. Gay sex is as normal and natural as the rain. IMHO.
3. The idea that in general, gay men prey on young men because young men are (paraphrasing you) "less likey to have the HIV virus" is to my mind absurd. I would love to know where you are getting this information from. You are really just spreading nasty lies, stereotypes, prejudices about gay men -- the sad thing is that you are putting forth your ignorant and stupid lies about gay people as if they are established, documented fact. Shame on you. Where is YOUR morality, integrity, decency?
4. You say gay men don't seem to be leading the "best life". What is "the best life" according to you? Do you think you have a right to coerce gay men into leading your idea of a "best life"? Do you understand that the purpose of a constitutional democracy is to allow citizens to make choices that are DIFFERENT from the choices that OTHER citizens make. There is NOTHING ILLEGITIMATE about people making "lifestyle" decisions that are different from your own. I find it bizarre and odd that you seek to demonize gay men simply because many of them do not share your own constricted, inflexible and illogical fundamentalist xian or social conservative dogma. Please, continue believing your silly beliefs--but realize that you have no right imposing those beliefs on others.
5. Sex feels better without condoms. Surprise, surprise! People within monogamous relationships will often get a health check-up; and then agree to not use condoms within the relationship. Most of the men into "barebacking" are already infected with the HIV virus. So far the evidence that individuals can be re-infected by HIV (once they already have it) is sketchy. So 'bare-backing' (sex without condoms) is predomently a phenomenon that occurs among people who already have the HIV virus. Barebacking is not a widespread phenomenon. Gay people have been very quick to change their sexual behaviors; that is one of the reasons the spread of the HIV/AIDS virus within the gay community has been dramatically reduced.
6. Are you "blaming" bisexuals who transmit the HIV virus from the gay to heterosexual community? I would have thought it is the responsibility of every individual to take measures to protect themselves from STDs.
If gay marriage is allowed it will affect everyone's children because your children will be playing with the adopted children of gay parents. Gay relationships will become the norm in the children's eyes. Maybe people in America aren't ready for gay marriage because they just don't like it and they don't want their children to grow up thinking that it's normal to want to have sex with someone of the same sex that provides no benefit whatsoever other than pleasure and possibly AIDS.
One in three lesbian couples are raising children; one in five gay couples are raising children. Your children are already playing with the children of gay parents. Some of those children are adopted; the majority of kids being raised by gay couples were produced by one or both of the gay partners in their former/ prior heterosexual relationships. Your desire to segregate children raised by gay couples from your own children is just noxious bigotry.
You keep coming back to this "pleasure" issue. Do you object to the idea that people might actually ENJOY sex?!? You know, the vast majority of sex is had for reasons of pleasure, not for procreative purposes. Two questions for you: How many pregnancies have you had? How many times have you had sex with your partner?? If the answer to the second question is much greater than your answer to the first question, it would seem to me that you are guilty of having sex with your partner because... YOU ENJOY IT. What does that say about you, I wonder?
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You know a lot of you people think too much in the gray, like there is no right or wrong and that people have no right to believe in right and wrong. Well we all have a right to believe the way we want and I'm sick and tired of people telling me how I'm supposed to think when it comes to homosexuals, women, minorities, who to hire, and who to fire. If the American people are not ready for gay marriage then they're not ready for it! Move somewhere else! It should be up the people. This is OUR country, we share it, and everything we do affects others. Some of you people say that gay marriage doesn't affect anyone else. It affects our children and it affects our health insurance rates.
Historically, majorities have a poor record of protecting the rights of minorities in the US (and just about every other country). The beauty of a constitutional democracy is that certain inalienable rights are specified in the constitution, and those rights cannot be taken away from citizens simply because an "angry mob" thinks they should be. Gay people in the US are absolutely entitled to be treated equally before the law (with respect to heterosexual citizens) and they also have a right to due process. Eventually the gay marriage ban will hit the US federal supreme court; and that court will likely (IMO) find that denying gay people access to marriage IS unconstitutional.
Someone mentioned that encouraging the gay community to stay with one partner would help slow these diseases. I honestly don't think that the people that are spreading these diseases are the same ones pushing for marriage!
If that is your belief, then WHY are you using examples of the former (people who are--allegedly--spreading disease) to oppose gay marriage? That is sheer dishonesty on your part.
You know, maybe if the gay community tried to tone down the gay parades that have floats of all kinds of body parts for our children to see, as well as men strutting around in little g-strings, society would be more accepting. Maybe if gays started using protection and actually took on a little more responsibility with regard to the fight against AIDS, society would more accepting. Maybe if gays were not as sexually promiscuous as they are, society would be a little more accepting of them. Maybe if they hadn't attacked the Boy Scouts, society would be a little more accepting. Maybe if they didn't try to shut Dr. Laura up (because she of course has no rights when it comes to freedom of speech), society would be more accepting.
The spread of HIV/AIDS has been drastically reduced in the gay community. That is due to the efforts of gay community health programs -- most of which have been funded by the gay community itself, because the US federal government does not like federal money being used to provide sexually explict (i.e., accurate) information to citizens on ways to prevent the transmission of STDs.
Most gays aren't sexually promiscuous. I am amazed at your nastiness. You seem to be quite deliberately slandering gay people, evoking and perpetuating all the old stereotypes of gays as sexual predators, gays as promiscuous, gays as irresponsible and careless, etc. Frankly, *I* don't think that "people like you" SHOULD be trusted with the important task of raising children. What can you possibly offer a child, other than hatred, bigotry, prejudice? On the other hand, I won't be seeking to pass legislation banning social conservatives or xian fundamentalists from raising children. Even "people like you" have the right to be treated equally before the law.
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These gay right organizations are already targeting children in our schools. It's not about teaching children not to bully others in general, this organization is teaching children that it's okay to be gay. How in the heck am I supposed to respect an organization that is teaching my children something that I do not approve of and that goes against everything I've taught them? Children do not need to learn that it's okay to be gay in school. Why? Because you would have to explain sexual pleasure, not reproduction, and that's the difference. Parents should be the ones who decide what to teach their children. Gay sex is not something that needs to be learned in elementary schools. Yes, elementary schools. You cannot make the general public "accept" something that is FORCED on it. We don't have to "accept" anything we don't want to. That's supposed to be the great thing about being an American. Gays can keep trying to push their lifestyle on Americans but Americans have the same right to refuse to accept it. We are allowed to think what we want to think last time I checked. Oh, but with all the speech codes, political correctness, and thought reform, maybe we won't be able to in the very near future.
Note: The Massachusetts Department of Education and GLSEN co-sponsored a conference at Tufts University entitled "TeachOut." There was one workshop entitled, "What They Didn't Tell You About Queer Sex & Sexuality in Health Class." Children between the ages of 12-21 were welcomed to attend. They learned about cum and calories, spit vs. swallow and the best thing for a man to eat if he wants his ejaculate to be sweeter. One boy suggested that if you're going to go down on a guy, you shouldn't brush your teeth for four hours prior to going down on him. This is to avoid HIV/AIDS transmission. Oh, they also discussed fisting. Yes, this is just the kind of lifestyle I want my children and grandchildren to be a part of. Don't you?
Google "It's Elementary: Talking About Gay Issues in School" if you really want to know why Americans do not respect these organizations that "represent" the gay community.
Whatever. Please crawl back into your hole.