How do you punish your children? *update with retort*

[Tauren]

And why?
Looking at the related thread, it made me wonder.

Personally I don't hit. I take away priviledges. I do this because of how my father treated me. I don't want to be like him. He was WAY over board.




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[JLindo]

I don't have any children yet, but I can tell you that hitting, smacking and swatting definetely won't be a part of how I punish my children. That is not punishment and shouldn't be considered as such. Punishement as far as I see it means exactly what you've already said Tauren. I've seen kids who were better behaved when they weren't smacked or hit. It teaches them the wrong lesson, that hitting is ok when you're mad.

 

[zodder]

I have a black lab and a chocolate lab. I just say "bad dog".

 

[gittyup]

With my 3 yr old, we usually only spank her if she is doing something that will hurt herself or hurt someone else. Otherwise, either she or her toys goes into time-out for 3 minutes.

 

[GasX]

front of hand if they are bad
back of hand if they are really bad
closed hand if they need something to really cry about...

 

[jeweleeann]

The purpose of spanking your children is not to hurt them or to get out your fustrations. I have a 7 year-old daughter and I spanked her when she was younger and once in a great while I will spank her now. I was abused as a child my Mother would beat me with anything she could reach at the time she would make buises and give me bloody noses and all kinds of stuff. I have never done anything remotely close to that to my child. I think there is a big difference between spanking and beating. I think because I spanked her when she was little I have little to no problems with her now. She is not perfect by any means but she is a very well-mannered child. I think it also depends on the child some children respond better to different types of punishment. My nephew will not listen if he is spanked but put him in the corner and he will straighten up really quick. My daughter is just the opposite. Beacuse I was abused I made sure that I was/am very careful about spanking my daughter.

 

[Urinal Mint]

spare the rod and spoil the child.

My parents were able to keep me on the straight and narrow by instilling in me the fear of disappointing them... I'm not real sure how they did this, but when I have kids I'm going to ask for some help on it.

To this day I'm still deathly afraid of disappointing them, even though they tell me I've already exceeding their expectations tenfold.

 

[MrCodeDude]

Don't have any. All I know is that spanking will be the only physical punishment I'll choose to do. However, picking them up and shaking them while yelling at them when they're a little older sounds fun
-- mrcodedude

 

[Viper GTS]

I wipe them off the ceiling & flush them down the toilet.

Strangely, they never say a word.

Stoic little bastards, all 2 million of them.

Viper GTS

 

[Elita1]

I hear people critisize parents who smack their kids bums, but I also hear them complaining when they see a child misbehaving in public and the parents do nothing about it.
"look at that"-they say-"how shameful. Those parents can't control their own kids".
Drives me batty. It's a double standard!
A lot of people think spanking is abuse and often go overboard in thinking when a parent is disciplining their child they're being evil and cruel.
It gets to the point where one can be wary of what you do in public with your kid cause you never know what loser busybody will think you're being a creep to your own kid and call children's services.
It's nuts.
Jeweleeann was correct when she said the spanking should be used as DISCIPLINE and not as a reaction or a tool to let out your frustration.
In some instances with some kids, spanking may be appropriate, and in others it's not.
At least that's my philosophy.
And if my kids are being demons in public and way out of line, I will discipline them, but probably take them home first or just find a quiet spot and give them a severe talking to.
Luckily my kid is unnaturally good and obedient, we have never resorted to any serious punishment. We keep saying this next one is going to be the antichrist

 

[Anghang]

i don't have kids yet, but as a kid i got the slipper, belt, hanger and hand...
i know some of chinese background that got the stick end of the feather duster...*OUCH!*
plus..there's always "timeout"...hehe...or squatting down and holding your ears facing the corner
till the other parent comes home....

 

[myputer]

<< spare the rod and spoil the child.

My parents were able to keep me on the straight and narrow by instilling in me the fear of disappointing them... I'm not real sure how they did this, but when I have kids I'm going to ask for some help on it.

To this day I'm still deathly afraid of disappointing them, even though they tell me I've already exceeding their expectations tenfold. >>



My parents did the same thing, and it worked great. I was spanked once my entire childhood. I had taken off on my bike (we used to live in Queens, NY) and had rode like 30 blocks away from home. I think it was a fear induced spanking!

 

[Raspewtin]

i don't believe in negative reinforncement so i just stop hitting them when they are good.



j/k I will never raise a hand to my kids, or verbally lash out at them.

 

[Bateluer]

You know, when I was a wee lad, I used to say that I would never spank my future children. Now that I am older, two revelations have come to me. 1) I'll probably never have any children. 2) Spankings are VERY effective, when used properly.

I'll just share a quick story with all of you. I was taking a walk around my local neighborhood yesterday. A man was out in his driveway washing his pickup truck. His wife and two daughters were playing in a kiddie pool on the lawn. The younger daughter ran across the street. This is not a busy street, but there could have easily been a car coming and that child did not exactly look both ways. The father darted across the street, grabbed his daughter, pulled her back across the street, and gave her a tap on the rump. It was not a hard spank, but it was enough.

Physical punishment needs to be applied in the proper context and in the proper degree in order to buy effective.

 

[layne151]

I say when kids are bad make them spend an entire day with the inlaws!

 

[BigToque]

I don't have any kids (hey I'm only 18), but I do know that I will spank them (gotta have 2 of them ) when they are bad.

I will never hit them, or try to hurt them, or abuse them in anyway. There is a big difference between a spanking and abuse. A good spanking will make sure your kids know that what they did was wrong and that there are consequences for causing trouble, but do not leave marks or any lasting pain. It should leave a quick sting and nothing more (no open skin spankings for my kids. My parents did it every once and a while when I was really bad, and those hurt much more than when I had my pants on)

Spilling milk isn?t a cause for a spanking, but if my child was yelling (using foul language) at me or was knowingly doing something wrong, they would get a smack on his/her booty.

There is also an age where they are just too old to spank them anymore. At a certain point (where they have reached a level of maturity), only conversation and revoking of privileges will be punishment.

My parents did it to me (and I turned out just fine), and I will do it to my kids as well.

 

[Cosmo]

spanking is only used as shortcut for the parents who don't want to or fail to understand how a child can be raised without physical punishment by simple application of psychology. How parents can choose not to invest this time in learning about how a young mind works and instead teaching their children (by showing them) how to settle arguments by physical punishment is really too bad.

 

[GrumpyMan]

The way I punish children is that I drink alot of beer, eat a ton of chile and eat a ton of raw vegetables. Then I lock them in with me in a small closet and I start farting away. They are good for years after that and I never even spanked or yelled at them.

 

[Noriaki]

<< I wipe them off the ceiling &amp; flush them down the toilet.

Strangely, they never say a word.

Stoic little bastards, all 2 million of them.

Viper GTS >>

Hahahahahahahaha. Those are only half children though

 

[amdforlife]

i see these kids nowadays...and all i can say is, &quot;that kid needs his ass whipped&quot; therefore, i say beat your kids in line. bring back the wooden paddle.

 

[venk]

Don't have kids, but when i do i would not hit either. I would give SEVERE non physical and non Pyschological punishments

 

[Cougar]

The only way possible........beat them into submission.

 

[LordSandMan]

<< To this day I'm still deathly afraid of disappointing them, even though they tell me I've already exceeding their expectations tenfold. >>




With a name like Urinal Mint, what parent wouldn't be proud.

 

[shiner]

Two words....Donny &amp; Marie

 

[Dually]

<< With my 3 yr old, we usually only spank her if she is doing something that will hurt herself or hurt someone else. Otherwise, either she or her toys goes into time-out for 3 minutes. >>



That is right cause only you are allowed to hurt her.

I think people that hit or spank are dumb and mean.