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How do you plan to live with your parents after they are retired?

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Mixolydian said:
Please explain why children are morally OBLIGATED to care for their elderly parents.
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I wish someone would answer that. I'll be on the hook for this till I or they die. It's their culture and their morals not just in general. Not all parents are so Americanized.
 
Mixolydian said:
Please explain why children are morally OBLIGATED to care for their elderly parents.
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If you have to ask, there is simply no way I can EVER explain it to you. And you would never understand/get it anyways.

But don't worry, you are not alone....most Americans leave their elders to rot.....with 0 companionship or love..

sze5003 said:
I wish someone would answer that. I'll be on the hook for this till I or they die. It's their culture and their morals not just in general. Not all parents are so Americanized.
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In your case, since your parents aren't exactly all that great. Even I would tell you that you have 0 obligation/morals to apply my comment to them.

I wouldn't

For people that have decent/good or great parents, it's a different story. There is always an exception to the rule.
 
davis_lsu said:
Its called a natural obligation. They did raise you and never asked to be paid back, right?
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It was their choice to have kids. What do people with no kids do when they are too old to live independently?

Vdubchaos said:
If you have to ask, there is simply no way I can EVER explain it to you. And you would never understand/get it anyways.

But don't worry, you are not alone....most Americans leave their elders to rot.....with 0 companionship or love.
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Because you can't explain it, obviously. Quite honestly I doubt I would ever have to deal with this issue anyway. There's a very slim chance my parents would live to be that old. They were very smart about saving money for retirement, so if the time comes they can move to a senior home.

Sorry, I don't do "quid pro quo"
 
Mixolydian said:
They were very smart about saving money for retirement, so if the time comes they can move to a senior home.
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I don't think it will change you opinion, but you should read some of my medical malpractice cases about senior homes. Actually just got off the phone about another one.

Is no one compassionate about their parents? I wonder if those who are making these statements have kids of their own yet. Maybe having children would change your opinion on what your parents went through.
 
Platypus said:
pretty much this... and before anyone presumes to make statements about me as a result of that they can gladly go get fucked. walk a mile and then get back to me.
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This.

davis_lsu said:
I wonder if those who are making these statements have kids of their own yet. Maybe having children would change your opinion on what your parents went through.
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I would NEVER expect my kids to care for me when I'm unable to do so. That's just wrong, IMO.
 
Mixolydian said:
It was their choice to have kids. What do people with no kids do when they are too old to live independently?


Because you can't explain it, obviously. Quite honestly I doubt I would ever have to deal with this issue anyway. There's a very slim chance my parents would live to be that old. They were very smart about saving money for retirement, so if the time comes they can move to a senior home.

Sorry, I don't do "quid pro quo"
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Not because I can't explain it, I can. I just don't think you are the type of person that would even remotely understand (based on what you wrote).

Not worth trying.

And "having money and being able to take care of themselves" has VERY little to do with companionship and love they deserve from their family/children. Rest of your statement confirms what I said above.

Senior home.......riiiighht

Mixolydian said:
I would NEVER expect my kids to care for me when I'm unable to do so. That's just wrong, IMO.
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Cause you have NO idea about the cycle of life.

Its not a matter of IF, it's a matter of WHEN you will NOT be able to take care of yourself.

But that's ok, leave it to people that get make minimum wage to give you companionship.......and crucial care.....at the final moments of your life.

"its easier that way"

Unreal

People like YOU are the reason why so many elders are left to rot in this country....
 
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Vdubchaos said:
Not because I can't explain it, I can. I just don't think you are the type of person that would even remotely understand (based on what you wrote).

Not worth trying.

And "having money and being able to take care of themselves" has VERY little to do with companionship and love they deserve from their family/children. Rest of your statement confirms what I said above.

Senior home.......riiiighht
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I'm sure you know the ins and outs of everyone's situation. And nobody is entitled to love or companionship. That's just bullshit.
 
Mixolydian said:
I would NEVER expect my kids to care for me when I'm unable to do so. That's just wrong, IMO.
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Most parents don't expect their kids to raise them. But they eventually can't help themselves anymore. Hopefully, their kids won't simply ignore them until they die then bitch about how little they inherit and wonder why the parents left things to the church or other family members....
 
Vdubchaos said:
Not because I can't explain it, I can. I just don't think you are the type of person that would even remotely understand (based on what you wrote).

Not worth trying.

And "having money and being able to take care of themselves" has VERY little to do with companionship and love they deserve from their family/children. Rest of your statement confirms what I said above.

Senior home.......riiiighht



Cause you have NO idea about the cycle of life.

Its not a matter of IF, it's a matter of WHEN you will NOT be able to take care of yourself.

But that's ok, leave it to people get make minimum wage to give you companionship.......and crucial care.....at the final moments of your life.

"its easier that way"

Unreal

People like YOU are the reason why so many elders are left to rot in this country....
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Can I interest you in the purchase of the new ACME Model 1440 Guilt Projector? It shoots rainbows out the back end as you sweep away all before you.
 
davis_lsu said:
Most parents don't expect their kids to raise them. But they eventually can't help themselves anymore. Hopefully, their kids won't simply ignore them until they die then bitch about how little they inherit and wonder why the parents left things to the church or other family members....
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People are not entitled to their parents' wealth either. If they want to will all their money to charity, that's their prerogative.
 
Mixolydian said:
I'm sure you know the ins and outs of everyone's situation. And nobody is entitled to love or companionship. That's just bullshit.
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No I don't know ins and outs. My opinion/advice does NOT apply to everyone (I clearly stated that already).

davis_lsu said:
I doubt you will sit idly by when your parents are unable to care for each other on their own.
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I'm pretty sure he probably will. That or wip out a check book and sign them up for seniors home.

🙂

These god damn old people are just a freakin "hassle" man.
 
davis_lsu said:
I doubt you will sit idly by when your parents are unable to care for each other on their own.
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Not sitting idly by is one thing, being forced into an obligation to take care of them constantly is another.

The dichotomy that you guys are projecting between those that have parents live with them, take care of them constantly, etc, and those that leave thier parents to rot ignoring them forever is a false one. There is a wide variety of middle ground.
 
thecrecarc said:
Not sitting idly by is one thing, being forced into an obligation to take care of them constantly is another.
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Ok but NOBODY is forcing ANYONE.

What are you talking about willis?

thecrecarc said:
The dichotomy that you guys are projecting between those that have parents live with them, take care of them constantly, etc, and those that leave thier parents to rot ignoring them forever is a false one. There is a wide variety of middle ground.
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Sure, no one is arguing that.
 
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