How do you mentally get over something?

[0]

I tend to dwell on mistakes or setbacks a lot - constantly thinking them over, what I should of or could have done differently. It then takes on kind of a life of its own and consumes "energy" that could be applied to more useful things.

I'm just wondering how others deal with this sort of thing, or if anyone understands what I'm talking about.

 

[ric0chet06]

I usually just say "$#@! it". It works.

 

[Chronoshock]

Make a newer, bigger mistake

 

[Elstupido]

It's easy to dwell on past fuck ups.... do it myself more than I should. However, you are faced with the one of the best learning experiences life has to offer. You can never learn anything better until you actually live that fuck up, no matter how much you are told not to make that particular mistake.

We are all stronger and better prepared, to face the next challenge by real experience.

 

[Mide]

I keep on thinking of how I'm gonna screw up the next thing/decision that comes along. I think all of us would do something differently in our lives, but as ric0chet06 pointed out, F*ck it, is a pretty good mantra to go by. You can't do anything to really change things if it's one of those types of decisions, so just deal and move on.

 

[Mo0o]

Step 1. Quit being an emo bitch
Step 2. Success

 

[Sentrosi2121]

What you need to do is recognize where the error took place and be aware of it the next time you're in that situation. Also realize this; that we're all human and we all make mistakes. Mistakes is how we learn.

 

[tasmanian]

Originally posted by: ric0chet06
I usually just say "$#@! it". It works.

Same but I say "fuck it".

 

[0]

Originally posted by: Mide
I keep on thinking of how I'm gonna screw up the next thing/decision that comes along. I think all of us would do something differently in our lives, but as ric0chet06 pointed out, F*ck it, is a pretty good mantra to go by. You can't do anything to really change things if it's one of those types of decisions, so just deal and move on.

I think its the "deal with it" part I'm not understanding.

 

[Colt45]

see sig.

 

[Eeezee]

By dwelling on mistakes, you're less likely to make those mistakes again. It's part of the learning process

Unless you're still dwelling on a spelling mistake you made when you were 8, then you should probably see a psychiatrist.

 

[ranmaniac]

Matt Foley has some good advice. Matt Foley

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: ranmaniac
Matt Foley has some good advice. Matt Foley

:laugh:

 

[Zee]

Originally posted by: Chronoshock
Make a newer, bigger mistake

this is actually true :laugh:

 

[Fayd]

Originally posted by: Chronoshock
Make a newer, bigger mistake

win.

 

[Fayd]

Originally posted by: Colt45
see sig.

i had to google c2h6o to understand what that was.

that's what i get for getting a B in chemistry in HS.

 

[JJChicken]

Originally posted by: 0
I tend to dwell on mistakes or setbacks a lot - constantly thinking them over, what I should of or could have done differently. It then takes on kind of a life of its own and consumes "energy" that could be applied to more useful things.

I'm just wondering how others deal with this sort of thing, or if anyone understands what I'm talking about.

Just note what you did wrong, admit it, even say it aloud - "i screwed up by ..." because words are powerful, note what you could do better in the future, say it "i will improve myself by ..." and then write it down in a diary so you keep track of it in the future and then shrug it off and move on. The following lines from Frank Sinatra, 'My Way', hit this home for me:

Regrets? I've had a few,
but then again, too few to mention.

 

[OCGuy]

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[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: 0

Originally posted by: Mide
I keep on thinking of how I'm gonna screw up the next thing/decision that comes along. I think all of us would do something differently in our lives, but as ric0chet06 pointed out, F*ck it, is a pretty good mantra to go by. You can't do anything to really change things if it's one of those types of decisions, so just deal and move on.

I think its the "deal with it" part I'm not understanding.

Here's what I did to get over it ( sorry, couldn't help it), divide things into what do I have control over and what I don't. Things I can't control, I don't trip over.
As long as nothing is killed or hurt in error, it's all good.
An audible "oops" helps also.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: 0
I tend to dwell on mistakes or setbacks a lot - constantly thinking them over, what I should of or could have done differently. It then takes on kind of a life of its own and consumes "energy" that could be applied to more useful things.

I'm just wondering how others deal with this sort of thing, or if anyone understands what I'm talking about.

pretend your in a movie theater. the movie showing is your life.

there's a 2nd person in the movie theater watching you watching the movie called your lie.

everytime the movie shows a screwup, you cringe. the 2nd person sees this and thinks no big deal. why is he so worried about that?

you are the 2nd person.

/thread

 

[TestedAcorn]

Don't think about it and just think ahead about what you'll be doing that day.

 

[0]

Originally posted by: JEDI

Originally posted by: 0
I tend to dwell on mistakes or setbacks a lot - constantly thinking them over, what I should of or could have done differently. It then takes on kind of a life of its own and consumes "energy" that could be applied to more useful things.

I'm just wondering how others deal with this sort of thing, or if anyone understands what I'm talking about.

pretend your in a movie theater. the movie showing is your life.

there's a 2nd person in the movie theater watching you watching the movie called your lie.

everytime the movie shows a screwup, you cringe. the 2nd person sees this and thinks no big deal. why is he so worried about that?

you are the 2nd person.

/thread

nicely said!

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: 0
I tend to dwell on mistakes or setbacks a lot - constantly thinking them over, what I should of or could have done differently. It then takes on kind of a life of its own and consumes "energy" that could be applied to more useful things.

I'm just wondering how others deal with this sort of thing, or if anyone understands what I'm talking about.

I first correct the mistake if I can, if not I deal with it by considering it could've been a lot worse. Usually afterwards I'll see something that makes me feel fortunate that things aren't as bad as they could be.

And what's done is done. There is no sense beating yourself up over it.

 

[aesthetics]

Originally posted by: 0
I tend to dwell on mistakes or setbacks a lot - constantly thinking them over, what I should of or could have done differently. It then takes on kind of a life of its own and consumes "energy" that could be applied to more useful things.

I'm just wondering how others deal with this sort of thing, or if anyone understands what I'm talking about.

I'm the same exact way, to be honest. In fact, a perfect example is about a month ago I was driving and going a bit too fast around a curve... didn't turn in time, and I slammed right into a curb. I completely effed the alignment on my car, destroyed the engine cradle, buckled the control arms, knuckles, struts, tie rods, as well as scraped up my GXP aluminum wheels. I was completely unharmed, and I didn't damage anyone else's property... but I was just kicking myself for like a week after that happened. Had I just slowed down, it wouldn't have happened and I wouldn't have had to pay 2 grand to have it fixed.

But I know you probably mean more along the lines of relationship/friendship related mistakes... and I definitely feel you there, too. It's hard to let go.

You just have to keep telling yourself that it's in the past and you can't take it back. You can apologize to the people you've wronged, but there is no going back in time and after a certain point, there is nothing you can do.

Just move forward.

 

[Scarpozzi]

Since I wasted a click on this thread, I'm going to just click the back button to get to the main ATOT page and try again. It's kind of like roullette.