I have to disagree, Perky. This young girl is displaying behavior typical of children who have been sexually abused. Inappropriate dress, adult language, sexual response to non-sexual situations, attention-getting behavior.
On top of that, that kid went from taunting the trolls with aplomb to tormented crying. I would bet you that the back of dad's hand or worse was involved in that transformation.
There are a lot of people in the system who provide good short-term and long-term living situations with caseworker supervision. They have to go through training, selection, home visits, and regular contact with CWs. It takes sometimes up to a year to be approved as a foster family. Do regular parental situations have that level of accountability? No!
It's better for kids to be with their parents, yes, but sometimes it's just not. CPS should definitely be involved in investigating this situation, perhaps resulting in simple parenting classes, perhaps in taking away the child. That decision is up to the investigator with lots more data than we have available.
Uhhhh, and I with you, AreaCody. First off, I think you are wildly and emotionally confusing accelerated "internetiis" as one poster called it, with the behavior markers for sexual abuse.
I beleive you to be over-diagnosing, else there is an entire cohort of internet enabled tweens whose "inappropriate dress, adult language, sexual response to non-sexual situations, attention-getting behavior" would have you calling the lot of them ALL sexually abused.
Welcome to a not insignificant slice of 21st Century America, very few of have been actually sexually abused.
Secondly, I know several life long, down in the trenches professionals from four separate counties here in SE PA, from the uber urban Philadelphia County to the rich & rural Chester County (not to be at all confused with the blighted city of Chester, which is in Delaware County.)
Male, female, and all over the map in personal temperament, EACH AND EVERY ONE has said with equal fervor that
just about the very worst thing that can happen to any child is to go into the system.
They have said that, even in cases of actual hard-assed physical abuse, they have been
tremendously reluctant to separate a child from their mother (usually the mother that is left parenting alone in the worst of situations, you know.)
They say, bad as it is and almost as fucked up as they can be, that NO ONE cares for a child more than their biological parent.
I don't expect you or anyone else to believe the first hand reports of these varied, veteran workers, but there it is.
Even my old g/f (we're still friends) out in rural Chester County talks bemusedly about the unintentional MIND FUCK of placing urban black kids in otherwise "stable" and "clean" and "supervised" Amish country foster homes.
Hey, I'm just telling you what has been told to me, over and over and over again.