how do you get over embarassing situations quick?

[CRXican]

DGAF

 

[rasczak]

Laugh. That's all you can do.

 

[gevorg]

Most of social awkwardness is caused by lack of sex. Start fucking and enjoy life. When you've fucked half of people in the room, you won't feel embarrassed no matter what you do.

 

[mnewsham]

Most of social awkwardness is caused by lack of sex. Start fucking and enjoy life. When you've fucked half of people in the room, you won't feel embarrassed no matter what you do.

So true. Walking into a room with 2 or 3 ex's is a lot less awkward or alot more awkward if you are somehow uncomfortable with your body and knowing they have seen you naked embarrasses you.

 

[Fritzo]

Laugh. That's all you can do.

I do. Problem is, my laugh sounds a lot like this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U7liS-WlT6g&feature=player_detailpage#t=8s

 

[TallBill]

I don't really get that embarrassed

 

[Schfifty Five]

I tend to be really hard on myself and lose sleep over stupid embarrassing moments. Not talking about stuff like falling on my face in front of people in public.. that I can get over quick. But embarrassing myself in front of people I see often. For ex.. introducing myself in front of people at work and stutter/mumbling due to nervousness.. I'll end up feeling uncomfortable after that.. Need to learn how to get over situations like this and not dwell on it so much but I find it difficult.. any tips?

Turn the situation around and think about a time when someone else did something "embarrassing". Did you even consider it something embarrassing? Did you even remember it the next day? Did you even care that the person mumbled, or stuttered, or said something wrong?

If you answered 'No', then most likely other people would answer 'No' as well when you did something embarrassing.

Point is, no one cares or really remembers if you did something embarrassing.

 

[clamum]

Drop your pants and start furiously masturbating.

Seriously though, just ignore it. My thought upon embarrassing myself, which I guess really doesn't happen that often, is "who gives a fuck?".

 

[Cerpin Taxt]

I usually have sex with an attractive female. Delivering multiple orgasms to a desirable woman is a great confidence booster, especially when she swallows and says "thank you" after doing so.

 

[sonambulo]

Combination of self-effacing humor and exercise.

If you make fun of yourself before others get the chance to it softens the blow and teaches you not to take yourself too seriously. Exercise will sweat the stress out. Both over time will help you get over the anxiety.

 

[PingSpike]

I remind myself everyone will forget all about that when I do something even stupider five minutes from now.

 

[Atomic Playboy]

Drink until you can't feel feelings.

 

[TraumaRN]

Remind myself that most of the shit that happens doesn't really matter and most people will forget about it within a day or so. Then it really doesnt matter. Nothing to get too embarrassed over as far as I'm concerned.

 

[DrPizza]

Humor. I've made more than enough embarrassing mistakes while teaching - most recently, I was flying through a quick synthetic division of a 5th degree polynomial, answering a question at the same time to a student, and added 1 + 1 and got something that wasn't 2. About 1 second later (i.e. I finished the problem), a student pointed it out. "I did that on purpose to see who was paying attention! Only one of you knows what 1+1 is?!" Of course, they all knew it was carelessness (and multitasking), but coupled with trying to look innocent about it, when I'm obviously guilty, and making that statement, it's more or less a joke within class.

 

[Udgnim]

if you are not in some type of high profile position, unless you do something monumentally embarrassing, people will forget about it

they have more important things to worry about/talk about

 

[RichUK]

Eating the right food (vegies, get you vitamins) and going to the gym will boost your confidence.

Think before you speak and don't say more than you have to.

 

[Murloc]

Think before you speak and don't say more than you have to.

I think this can work against you.
If you say think before you speak to a patologically anxious person, he'd get so worked up about what he's about to say that he'd subsequently forget all of it and stutter anyway.

Also in the long term it's better to learn to say stuff even if it sounds stupid afterwards: you will learn not to care about it and say it anyway. Obviously there's a limit to this: don't be an ass.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

like when you accidentally use an adjective instead of an adverb?

try putting yourself in uncomfortable and awkward situations you would normally avoid until you just get used to it

or work on your confidence until you realize most of the stuff you are stressing about arent BFDs

 

[Glitchny]

Humor, or making fun of the embarrassing thing that I just did seems to be the easiest way.

 

[mrSHEiK124]

Every month. I get 30 dollars in pennies. Then I stick them up my butt. After crapping them out I spend them freely. Then whenever I do something embrassing I just laugh at whoever witnesses it knowing statistically there's a very good chance they've handled one of my ass pennies.

:awe:

So some pennies just came out of my air conditioner...

 

[Patranus]

Continuing to act a fool makes it 100x worse.
Just forget it and move on.

 

[Audit]

What if the embarrassing moments were a bit more extreme like you starting to sweat or you start shaking uncontrollably..

 

[AMCRambler]

I used to have that problem, but lately I embarrass myself so frequently it doesn't even bother me anymore. Basically I just do what TechNoob said. If I say something stupid before the old brain filter kicks in, I just follow up by pointing it out and making a joke out of it. People get a laugh out of you and realize you're human, just like everybody else. It's when you try and pass it off like you didn't just say something completely retarded that you look like a total tool box.

Had a good one the other day. In a meeting with a bunch of colleagues and we're talking about another co-worker in relation to a project and somebody pointed out that her last name had changed, she was no longer Jill X. Like an idiot I blurt out "Oh cool, she got married, I didn't even know." Then two seconds later I realize she's in her early 50's and more likely she got divorced. Major duh moment, so I proceeded to add "orrrrr she got divorced and I should just shut up now..." Turned kind of an awkward situation into something we could all laugh at.

Seems like the older I get, the more I say stupid shit. Easier just to own it then to try and pretend it never happened.

 

[SaDiZTiKStyLeZ]

i just say fuck it, shit happens. shrug. over and done.

Then continue to be embarrassed by it for years. Only hoping, that everyone else forgot about it.
I'm still deeply embarrassed by things from my childhood.

 

[SandEagle]

the fatter you are, the more likely you are to embarrass yourself.