How do you define cheating?

Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Slighty OT- Is there a way to see how voted for what in the poll? TIA.

No.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
None of those.

Cheating is only if you love someone and then decide you love someone else. It has nothing to do with physical actions.

So if your partner sleeps around on you, it's okay?

Yes.

you have different feelings on this subject than most people.

 

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
None of those.

Cheating is only if you love someone and then decide you love someone else. It has nothing to do with physical actions.

So if your partner sleeps around on you, it's okay?

Yes.

you have different feelings on this subject than most people.

I'm sure he's aware of that.

 

[BigLouis]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
None of those.

Cheating is only if you love someone and then decide you love someone else. It has nothing to do with physical actions.

Wow is that the wrong answer if I ever heard one. That's usually the excuse for suckers that accept cheaters back and try to rationalize it.

 

[bockchow]

better idea is never be in a relationship where "cheating" needs to be defined.

 

[BigLouis]

Originally posted by: bockchow
better idea is never be in a relationship where "cheating" needs to be defined.

Sounds like you only need to negotiate with your hand.

 

[Landroval]

Anything I would not do if my SO were watching.

 

[EKKC]

i dont masturbate when my SO is around. so masturbate = cheating (and god kills a kitten!)???

 

 

[Landroval]

Originally posted by: EKKC
i dont masturbate when my SO is around. so masturbate = cheating (and god kills a kitten!)???

I don't usually either. But I *would* without fear of upsetting him. Whereas I don't think he would like it if I started masturbating in front of the neighbor

 

[tfinch2]

Originally posted by: BigLouis

Originally posted by: bockchow
better idea is never be in a relationship where "cheating" needs to be defined.

Sounds like you only need to negotiate with your hand.

:thumbsup:

 

Originally posted by: Landroval

Originally posted by: EKKC
i dont masturbate when my SO is around. so masturbate = cheating (and god kills a kitten!)???

I don't usually either. But I *would* without fear of upsetting him.

In fact, he'd probably like it!

 

[eLiu]

i wouldn't be pleased if my gf slept in the same bed as another guy...wtf

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Landroval

Originally posted by: EKKC
i dont masturbate when my SO is around. so masturbate = cheating (and god kills a kitten!)???

I don't usually either. But I *would* without fear of upsetting him.

In fact, he'd probably like it!

hells ya :thumbsup:

 

[GrantMeThePower]

Originally posted by: eLiu
i wouldn't be pleased if my gf slept in the same bed as another guy...wtf

But does the fact that you are not pleased about it make it cheating?

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: meltdown75
one can cheat emotionally as well as physically.

explain that concept.

you can cheat with your heart, or you can cheat with your pecker (or both). either way, all it amounts to is selfish behaviour by someone that needs a serious head-check.

 

[mugs]

Definitely kissing and cuddling. Excessive flirtation also.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: meltdown75
one can cheat emotionally as well as physically.

explain that concept.

you can cheat with your heart, or you can cheat with your pecker (or both). either way, all it amounts to is selfish behaviour by someone that needs a serious head-check.

:thumbsup:

 

[Landroval]

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Landroval

Originally posted by: EKKC
i dont masturbate when my SO is around. so masturbate = cheating (and god kills a kitten!)???

I don't usually either. But I *would* without fear of upsetting him.

In fact, he'd probably like it!

Yes, but he always joins in

 

[shortylickens]

I define it by whatever my girlfriend says it is.
If she says grabbing another girls butt is cheating then I stop grabbing other girls butts.
However, I do require she follow the same rules as I.

Once had a girlfriend who didnt care if I deep frenched other ladies/old flames.
That was cool at first, because it never occured to me she may feel the same way about her and other guys.

 

[Kadarin]

I think of it this way: "Cheating" is when deception is involved, or when you are doing something with another person that your s/o would disapprove of. If I was in a relationship and was also having sex with another girl with the knowledge and approval of my g/f, that is not cheating.

 

[Dr. Detroit]

Is AMISH in a open marriage or a Swingers/Lifestyle marriage?

Swinging I can deal with but open is another level.



Cheating emotionally concerns me more than the physical sex aspect it. To me cuddling, cuddling is worse than a quickie as its emotional.

 

[Hossenfeffer]

 

[Rainsford]

There is no hard and fast rule, it really tends to depend on your SO. Emotional cheating, even if you don't DO anything, can sometimes be the worst for many people.

 

[KarenMarie]

If the SO really wants to be with someone else... that is cheating.

I do not mean looking at pics of gorgeousness and thinking WooHoo. And I dont mean harmless flirtation .... but if one partner has their desire and feelings somewhere else, they dont have to physically do it to be a cheater.