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How do you deal with this (semi-mature)?

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Originally posted by: ggnl
The situation is a lot more common that you think. Just remember that it doesn't matter...unless her past partners were better endowed than you are, in which case you will just have to learn to deal with the fact that you can never satisfy her like they did.

:music: hey kid I hope you know, sometimes life is gonna suck.
hey kid I hope you know, sometimes everthing's gonna be fvcked up :music:
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bwahahahha!
 
Some of you are missing the point. I'm not insecure about HAVING sex. It's the fact that she has had so many partners. Sex, to me, should be shared with someone special, it should be meaningful. Not have sex because it's the thing to do.

I HAVE turned down sex throughout my life, one night stands, but that is me. Call me what you want, think what you want, but some of us do feel this way.

Enough said.

Thanks for the serious responses! I'm learning from your replies. Just reinforcing what I already know what is right.
 
The bizarre thing is your multiple sex partners. My previous gf had a bunch, but I had only had one other partner before her, so at first it was a challenge to not think about it. But it seems like once you bridge the gap from one partner to multiple partners (or perhaps it was just the passage of a couple of years?) it shouldn't be a concern. You've got a past, she's got a past, EVERYBODY got a past, so get past it (har har).

So it's surprising that it would bother you, but the key is don't think about it. It's not like if she was a virgin it carries the implication that she's never done *other* stuff anyway. So just put it out of your mind. If she wanted to be with those guys from her history, they would be a part of her present, not her past.
 
Originally posted by: BobMarley
Some of you are missing the point. I'm not insecure about HAVING sex. It's the fact that she has had so many partners. Sex, to me, should be shared with someone special, it should be meaningful. Not have sex because it's the thing to do.

I HAVE turned down sex throughout my life, one night stands, but that is me. Call me what you want, think what you want, but some of us do feel this way.

Enough said.

Thanks for the serious responses! I'm learning from your replies. Just reinforcing what I already know what is right.
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What do you know that is right?

How can you judge her when by your own omission you have commited the same act. Sin is sin there is no difference in the amount in my opinion.

 
The key for you Bob, is dump that slut cause what she told you about is just the tip of the Penis, and find a 10 year old virgin from a turd world country that you can mold into your personal little fantasy world...sick
 
Mmmm, no fantasy world here. Virgins do exist, suprisingly.

Ignorant freak, who said anything about 10 year olds, you FN child molester. That thought never crossed my mind ever in my life. But to a demented human such as yourself, I guess twisted thoughts are always swirling in your little mind. Pervert!



Originally posted by: RichPLS
The key for you Bob, is dump that slut cause what she told you about is just the tip of the Penis, and find a 10 year old virgin from a turd world country that you can mold into your personal little fantasy world...sick
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Originally posted by: BobMarley
It's sort of a double standard thing but...

How do you deal if your partner/gf/bf has had multiple sexual parntners?

I've had quite a few and she has too. But deep down I still have this burning hatred that she could be so loose with all those people.

It's a double standard, I know.

HOW DO/DID you deal with this?

Thanks!!!
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It's a double-stardard, and you admit it. The fault therefore lies with you. Grow up, move on, or just buy a RealDoll and be done with it. :roll:

 
So basically you want her to have:

one love, one heart..
Personally I think you should just get together and feel all right
 
i'll just put it this way....you're w/ her for herself now, not the person she was, nor the person she can be.....

and she's with you now...make the most of it...it's the only way the relationship will work...if those other guys are out of your life, hey...nothing to worry over then...

i find that girls which are experienced make better partners anyways...

1. They know what want (compared to the inexperienced who will later say, i need to explore before i can commit)
2. They don't just 'lie' there...

Seriously, don't even worry about it...She wants to be with you now..don't cause problems that aren't there...
 
Originally posted by: BobMarley
Some of you are missing the point. I'm not insecure about HAVING sex. It's the fact that she has had so many partners. Sex, to me, should be shared with someone special, it should be meaningful. Not have sex because it's the thing to do.

I HAVE turned down sex throughout my life, one night stands, but that is me. Call me what you want, think what you want, but some of us do feel this way.

Enough said.

Thanks for the serious responses! I'm learning from your replies. Just reinforcing what I already know what is right.
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you may know that it's right (that it's hypocritical of you to feel the way you do) but i get the impression that you still can't deal with it deep down. you're going to have to get over it or let her go, because as long as you feel (in the slightest way) that your gf used to be a slut (and that is the way you feel deep down) you will never be able to trust her.

are you afraid of bumping into some of her ex-lovers and being unable to handle the knowing grin, the sly "I used to bang your gf's back out" grin he'll have when he shakes your hand? get over it.

to some, "it's only sex". do her (and yourself) a favor and make up your mind and act accordingly.
 
How you deal with this depends on how serious your relationship is with this girl. If you're thinking about marring her, then you need to get this topic on table for discussion. Yeah, its awkward and painful, but you can't start healing unless you talk about it.

If you do talk about it, its only fair to expose your past as well. But just because your track record isn't clean, doesn't mean you have to let it go.

Now, if your not too serious, it may not be a good idea to bring this up yet. Like I said, its an awkward topic.
 
Originally posted by: BobMarley
It's sort of a double standard thing but...

How do you deal if your partner/gf/bf has had multiple sexual parntners?

I've had quite a few and she has too. But deep down I still have this burning hatred that she could be so loose with all those people.

It's a double standard, I know.

HOW DO/DID you deal with this?

Thanks!!!
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You grow up and realize that you should be thankful she's not holding you to the same standard.
GROW UP, ALREADY!!!!

 
I am sorry, I misread the OP.

Are you lookig for a virgin? How many lovers are exceptable to you?

Your relationship has serious problems if you feel a burning hatred towards her for her past experiences. Save your and her time by getting out of this relationship and look for someone who you will not hate.
 
mmmmmmmm, sluttylishous. *drool*

Seriously though, there is no how, there just is. It's a fact, accept it or kill yourself cause the odds are rapidly decreasing of marrying a virgin anymore. Furthermore, accepting that you are a hypocrite is the first step in ceasing hypocritical behavior. You've made a good start, now suck it up (bad choice of words for this topic) and move on.
 
Originally posted by: BobMarley
It's sort of a double standard thing but...

How do you deal if your partner/gf/bf has had multiple sexual parntners?

I've had quite a few and she has too. But deep down I still have this burning hatred that she could be so loose with all those people.

It's a double standard, I know.

HOW DO/DID you deal with this?

Thanks!!!
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Um unless you are dating a 13 year old... GET THE HELL OVER IT.... you really expect that any woman of age hasnt had multiple partners.. you need to go hand around a convent if you want a virgin..
or date the ugliest fattest girl you can find.. that is the only 3 ways to find someone thats never been done by someone else....

geez...
 
Originally posted by: BobMarley
Some of you are missing the point. I'm not insecure about HAVING sex. It's the fact that she has had so many partners. Sex, to me, should be shared with someone special, it should be meaningful. Not have sex because it's the thing to do.

I HAVE turned down sex throughout my life, one night stands, but that is me. Call me what you want, think what you want, but some of us do feel this way.

Enough said.

Thanks for the serious responses! I'm learning from your replies. Just reinforcing what I already know what is right.
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please go find skywalker and hang with him.. you two are made for each other...
 
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