How do you deal with stress and what helps you calm down?

[Ryan]

I smoke bud......

 

[K1052]

I used to go shooting to relax, but I can't do that anymore.

Now I usually go for a walk by myself.

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: Ryan
I smoke bud......

who is bud?

 

[Looney]

Originally posted by: Ryan
I smoke bud......

Bareback or covered?

 

[JDrake]

Headies?

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: Looney
Why do you rule out self-pleasuring and sex? Go to amazon and look up vibrators, and so many of them will list it as great for relieving stress. Freud, the founder of the psychiatry field, use to treat 'hysterical' women (pretty much any women issues) by having them masturbate (or he would help them - woot -... he even made devices to helped with this) beause he thought many of their issues came from that region (hence the term hysterical from the word hyster).

Anyways, what do you like to do for entertainment? Maybe a night out with some friends? A little vacation? Exercise? I find exercise one of the best... when i'm stressed or depressed, i don't have the motivation to actually go to the gym... but once i actually get there, i really go at it... and i feel great afterwards. I also like watching comedy sitcoms or cartoons. I like to just veg out on Seinfeld or Simpsons.

I love sex with my husband and it always works wonders but i simply don't have time to do that all the time.
thats all.
We just got back from vacation so that is not an option. i enjoy watching "mindless" TV but again, that cannot happen all the time!
PS.. the only reason i said no masterbation or sex in title because i was afraid of all the comments being about that!

 

[illusion88]

Originally posted by: Ryan
I smoke bud......

Wise advice. Smoke some bud and put on some chill music and read a book if you want to relax by yourself.

 

[Bryophyte]

long, hot bath
work in the garden or greenhouse
go for a long drive
watch a funny movie or something, laughing is one of the BEST ways to destress

 

[sigs3gv]

The best stress reliever has to be exercising IMHO.

 

[Lola]

I am stressed mainly because of this
I just found out some things that made things a bit more difficult in this situation.

Turns out that our corporate company looks down upon one agent hiring another agents employee and the guy that wants to hire me could lose everything if my aunt wants to be vendictive.
So, its not just my career we are talking about but his livelihood as well.
Once this is all behind me, things will get better, but right now, emotionally and physcially i am in a lot of pain.

I will take a walk tonight.
Our little dog is sometimes more stress than fun, but i will take her with me.

thanks guys (and girl)!

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: Mike
They say to never drive while you're angry, but I find going for a drive really helps me think about things and calm down.

usually, that will help me but i have a pretty annoying drive home too :|

Take a different route home. Something out-of-the-way, preferably with decent scenery.

 

[RMSistight]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I am stressed to the point that i am making myself sick.
I have a lot going on now and i am having a VERY hard time calming down.

I feel bad because i am taking out my stress on my hubby and that is not fair to him.
I cannot sleep, barely eat. i am just one huge bunch of twisted nerves.

What should i do? I don't drink, i don't need to pleasure myself, sex life is fine but only calms me for a little bit.

What do you do to calm down?

I go to the shooting range. I would rent firearms there and shoot off some bullets. Shooting a 12 gauge shotgun is VERY exhilarating. I would take a deep breath before firing. It's like taking all your stress, putting it on that shotgun slug, and then releasing it by firing. For me it's finally a constructive, closed environment experience. I literally go every week with some friends. They feel relaxed when they finishing shooting too.

 

[GTJoe]

Do you have a pet? My dog is a great stress reliever; she can be a total goofball and make me laugh, or she'll cuddle with me if I need her to (although she hates it), and she's always up for frisbee, ball, or walks/runs. She seems to have an inherent understanding of what I need, and will act accordenly, although she'd rather play constantly.

<atot answer>how about some more pics? </atot answer>

Joe

And I can't find the job thread, how is that going?

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: GTJoe
Do you have a pet? My dog is a great stress reliever; she can be a total goofball and make me laugh, or she'll cuddle with me if I need her to (although she hates it), and she's always up for frisbee, ball, or walks/runs. She seems to have an inherent understanding of what I need, and will act accordenly, although she'd rather play constantly.

<atot answer>how about some more pics? </atot answer>

Joe

And I can't find the job thread, how is that going?

I linked it a couple of posts up. that is what is creating this.
I have never been able to handle stress well though. It has always been a problem.

 

[Looney]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I am stressed mainly because of this
I just found out some things that made things a bit more difficult in this situation.

Turns out that our corporate company looks down upon one agent hiring another agents employee and the guy that wants to hire me could lose everything if my aunt wants to be vendictive.
So, its not just my career we are talking about but his livelihood as well.

Only if she's vindictive... do you really think she is? She's not sympathetic enough to know that you've got a much better opportunity here, and would put up a fuss about it?

Can you afford to quit for a month... then just say he offered you the position? Would that violate any corporate policies?

 

[Papagayo]

Drink till you passout..

In the morning, you'll be hurting (hangover) too much to be stressed about a job..

 

[farmercal]

Get another job somewhere else that pays the same you are making there for a month. Then get hired by the other party. That way, he isn't taking you away from your aunt and everything is legit. Also, you will not have the stress factor to deal with.

 

[Kelvrick]

Originally posted by: RMSistight

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I am stressed to the point that i am making myself sick.
I have a lot going on now and i am having a VERY hard time calming down.

I feel bad because i am taking out my stress on my hubby and that is not fair to him.
I cannot sleep, barely eat. i am just one huge bunch of twisted nerves.

What should i do? I don't drink, i don't need to pleasure myself, sex life is fine but only calms me for a little bit.

What do you do to calm down?

I go to the shooting range. I would rent firearms there and shoot off some bullets. Shooting a 12 gauge shotgun is VERY exhilarating. I would take a deep breath before firing. It's like taking all your stress, putting it on that shotgun slug, and then releasing it by firing. For me it's finally a constructive, closed environment experience. I literally go every week with some friends. They feel relaxed when they finishing shooting too.

Do you need to take any safety classes or anything before they rent to you?

 

[essasin]

Go to the shooting range it really helps me.

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: Looney

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I am stressed mainly because of this
I just found out some things that made things a bit more difficult in this situation.

Turns out that our corporate company looks down upon one agent hiring another agents employee and the guy that wants to hire me could lose everything if my aunt wants to be vendictive.
So, its not just my career we are talking about but his livelihood as well.

Only if she's vindictive... do you really think she is? She's not sympathetic enough to know that you've got a much better opportunity here, and would put up a fuss about it?

Can you afford to quit for a month... then just say he offered you the position? Would that violate any corporate policies?

i was thinking about that, but we couldnt afford for me to take off a month. plus, i guess i could take another job but thats a HUGE waste of time and training to just know i plan on leaving in a month. That would be SO easy, but its a copout

 

[aidanjm]

is this the situation at work?

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: aidanjm
is this the situation at work?

look above

 

[GTJoe]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

I linked it a couple of posts up. that is what is creating this.
I have never been able to handle stress well though. It has always been a problem.

You must have posted while I was writeing it. Anyways, I thought today was a big day (meeting with dude) for that, and looking for updates on it. I found out I could deal with a whole lot more then I thought I could recently; I'm sure your the same way, find another hobbie or something to fill your mind. And do something physical, I've found sitting around doesn't do much (like reading atot).

Joe

 

[dirtboy]

Get rid of whatever is causing you the stress. duh!

Just finished reading through the thread... if it's work related, find a completely different job or start drinking. Oh, and stop caring. I have found that since I care very little about the things around me, they don't bother me so much.

 

[rezinn]

I skimmed over your other thread just now. I have been really stressed out lately, to the point of being ill. I think it happens to all of us every once in a while. The best thing for me is to just deal with it and get it over with, and seek empathy in others during the process. You're coping right now by coming here to talk about it, so just endure until the ordeal is over and you'll be fine. It wouldn't hurt to try fitting some time in for things you like to do to get your mind away for a bit, either. Thinking about something over and over just makes it that much worse for me.