If she never calls and doesn't want to be around you if it is just the two of you then she really doesn't want to be friends and is just doing it out of politeness.
No, because you are over-analyzing her actions, or lack thereof. You also say you are concerned with "hurting your chances with her". Why should her actions after the relationship ends concern you to the extent that you get hurt, angered, and worrry alot? This is a telltale sign that you are still far too emotionally involved at this stage.
you know, despite that this is ATOT, registring here and using your first posts for posting a YAGT thread is not the purpose of this site. if you want to post YAGT thread, go to http://www.yagt.org/forums/ not atot
You need to let her go. Stop phoning her, stop talking to her and stop seeing her. Start dating someone else and move on.
It's over. You can't be friends, because you have an alterior motive. You're just waiting around to see if she'll let you back in her pants... that's not a real friendship.
I won't say never, but vry few men and women can be friends, especially when they were involved with one another in the past. You are not one of these people.
Don't invite her. When she finds out, tell her that you can't just be friends with her, and that it's all or nothing. Most likely, it will be "nothing", but it's for the better in either case.
I won't say never, but vry few men and women can be friends, especially when they were involved with one another in the past. You are not one of these people.
Don't invite her. When she finds out, tell her that you can't just be friends with her, and that it's all or nothing. Most likely, it will be "nothing", but it's for the better in either case.
You need to move on. You obviously haven't accepted the fact that she doesn't want to be with you anymore. The sooner you move on the better life will be.
I agree that he must have another sign on, but why deny him his YAGT. If you don't want to hear it don't read or post. I for one enjoy these YAGTs they are often funny and we all enjoy putting in our 2 cents.
BTW what is the official Mod position on YAGT's
Well, if the mod's could ever find a girl, we might actually get one from them....
*I KEED* *I KEED*
Seriously, I doubt they care as long as they are legit, have substance, and it isn't someone making new accounts just for the YAGTs.
As you've said, you want to get back together with her...which is going to make a normal, platonic friendship all but impossible. I'd suggest just breaking off contact completely for at least a few months. Being upset that a friend doesn't make any attempt to contact you can be a valid complaint, but in this case, it is (or at least appears to be) obvious that:
1) You're upset not entirely because of the friendship component, but because you have emotion tied up into the situation, and that emotional connection isn't being returned
2) She knows how you feels, and is likely making a conscious effort not to initiate contact in the hope that you'll "get the hint" regarding the situation
1) You're upset not entirely because of the friendship component, but because you have emotion tied up into the situation, and that emotional connection isn't being returned
2) She knows how you feels, and is likely making a conscious effort not to initiate contact in the hope that you'll "get the hint" regarding the situation
QFT. You are buying the oldest line in the book "Let's just be friends." They say that to let you keep some semblance of dignity rather than stomping on your sack.
Isn't it obvious? Stop inviting her. If you're meeting some friends and she happens to be there, so be it.
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I've been there. Cut all ties with her. There are much better women around, ones who will make you much happier, ones who you will love far more than you ever loved your ex, AND who will love you back.
Right now, you are chasing a dollar bill you dropped into the sewer drain when a man is handing away free $100 bills across the street for the next 10 minutes. It doesn't matter how much you want that $1, you are stupid to give up everything else and dirtying your hands at the same time.
Right now, you are chasing a dollar bill you dropped into the sewer drain when a man is handing away free $100 bills across the street for the next 10 minutes. It doesn't matter how much you want that $1, you are stupid to give up everything else and dirtying your hands at the same time.
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Why the hell would you want to see her knowing that she has flat out told you she does not want to get back together?
Get some self-respect. She's stringing you along.
Lose her number. Move on.
Get some self-respect. She's stringing you along.
Lose her number. Move on.
Hey, I was in a fairly similar situation with my ex, well, no, let me put that differently, I got on like best friends with my ex too, we split up about 3 weeks ago, it was amiable, but, after reading enough YAGT's on ATOT, I knew what was necessary. I said to her that, at least for now, I wouldn't be able to speak to her at all, as it'd just make it harder for me, so we agreed not to speak at all, and we'll see how it goes like that. Once I'm over her (i.e screwing other people) then fine, I might be ok to talk to her and so on, but until then, just get out of my life basically.
You are being pathetic, you're chasing after her, making her feel wanted etc and just hurting yourself. Best thing you can do is just forget about her, get out with your friends, keep busy and just realise that life is about yourself, ignore her and enjoy yourself. As everyone always says, it'll get better with time, and it will. Even if you still want to get back with her, she's FAR more likely to be interested in you if you appear to be getting on fine without her, being a generally cool guy and seeing other people/uninterested in her. If you continue being this lame puppy dog best friend BS, you will continue to get nowhere and just cause yourself more pain.
Forget her. Get everything about her out of your life. You can tell her the reasons if you want to be reasonable etc, but just be mannish, don't speak to her, ignore her texts/calls/glances, everything. Far as you're concerned, she should be dead.
It's the best way mate, honest. Oh, and :beer: it up
That OP is a sure way to get abused on ATOT. You just lost your man card.
EDIT: Speeeeling/Grammar/removing drunkenness.
You are being pathetic, you're chasing after her, making her feel wanted etc and just hurting yourself. Best thing you can do is just forget about her, get out with your friends, keep busy and just realise that life is about yourself, ignore her and enjoy yourself. As everyone always says, it'll get better with time, and it will. Even if you still want to get back with her, she's FAR more likely to be interested in you if you appear to be getting on fine without her, being a generally cool guy and seeing other people/uninterested in her. If you continue being this lame puppy dog best friend BS, you will continue to get nowhere and just cause yourself more pain.
Forget her. Get everything about her out of your life. You can tell her the reasons if you want to be reasonable etc, but just be mannish, don't speak to her, ignore her texts/calls/glances, everything. Far as you're concerned, she should be dead.
It's the best way mate, honest. Oh, and :beer: it up
That OP is a sure way to get abused on ATOT. You just lost your man card.
EDIT: Speeeeling/Grammar/removing drunkenness.
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