How do I get over a girl?

[DeeKnow]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Well the problem is that we're still in contact. She's going to be emailing me and calling me from where she is (I'll leave a little bit of anonymousity in this) and so even if I push her completely out of my mind, she'll bounce back in again. And like I said, she told me she loved me before she left ... she said if she wasn't leaving she would have wanted to work on things... so yeah, maybe she's hooking up with people while she's gone... but I know she loves me, and I don't think her feelings will change so quickly, but I have yet to hear from her to see what's going on. I know I need to pull away, because she even admitted to me that she wouldn't be able to be with me without seeing what else is out there (which I told her I understood). She just made me SO happy.... it sucks :-( She made me so incredibly happy and to this day does. There will be no one like her out there, I know it.

been there...done that... felt forever stupid afterwards

i may be wrong, but looks like she's trying her luck elsewhere, but holding on to you just in case.... tell her it's all or nothing for you, so you dont really want her calling up every now and then....

methinks you'll have your answer

 

[hellokeith]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
This thread is done.

She called me last night regretting everything she's said. She begged me to "not let her go". She didn't want to lose me.

Then, we talked tonight and she was COMPLETELY swung back to the other direction. THIS was the proof I needed that something is NOT right with this relationship. Who swings back and forth in 24 HOURS about their feelings?

I told her I needed a LONG break. I told her I couldn't stay friends: I would, but I can't keep letting my heart wander up and down. She cried. I didn't give in. I said warm wishes and politely ended the phone call. I WILL NOT be calling her again.

Thank you to all for your support. This thread does not need to exist anymore.




And tonight, at midnight, I'm calling a new friend I've made today, and hopefully getting some non-confused people in my life!

Thanks all.

Good for you dude. From experience, there is usually a day or week where you will be in the lowest point in the sadness valley. Get through that, and then you be going up the other side and things will get better every day, and you'll think about her less and less, and then one day you'll realize you haven't thought about her for weeks and you'll know you're over her.

 

[MadPeriot]

Originally posted by: Rudee
That line she fed you "knew I was the one for her but couldn't stay with me knowing I was her only boyfriend".. that's a crock of $hit. She simply grew tired of the relationship and wants to move on. If a woman truly wants you in her life, she will overcome all obstacles to keep the relationship in tact, otherwise, they'll give you some sappy line like the one she gave you, have herself a good cry, then move on to something new and exciting. Your relationship with her is just another chapter in the big book of life. Time to end that chapter and begin a new one. She is, so I suggest you do the same.

Don't listen to this guy, he has no idea what hes talking about. When you really love someone and obviously this guy probably never really felt love before except for probably by his own mom, you're able to let that person go and pursue something greater in life. Letting her go even for search for another partner to see what is out there will make her realize more if you two were meant to be. We all on ANANDTECH don't really know your relationship with her. But girls are known and nitorious to do what shes doing. It isn't crock of sh*t and trust me it is just life. People come and go, and I doubt this will be your last time either. Just learn from it.