My parents aren't asian and they are still pains in the ass. The summer after my freshman year was a mind fudging... you go from absolute independence to back to pain in the ass parents. Soph year I got a job at school and had one of the best summers ever. A summer in a college town is great... and townies are some of the best friends to make. Made junior and senior year even more of a blast.
My parents aren't asian and they are still pains in the ass. The summer after my freshman year was a mind fudging... you go from absolute independence to back to pain in the ass parents. Soph year I got a job at school and had one of the best summers ever. A summer in a college town is great... and townies are some of the best friends to make. Made junior and senior year even more of a blast.
I hate summer... all these threads pop up...
Why do i still view them? i don't know.
If you don't like it, move out.
Why do i still view them? i don't know.
If you don't like it, move out.
ViviTheMage
Lifer
stfu, they are paying for your school , to me you can't complain about anything!
I have to pay for it all bucko, no sympathy here.
I have to pay for it all bucko, no sympathy here.
moshquerade
No Lifer
- Nov 1, 2001
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dude, i feel you.
i'm 23 and korean. my parents still treat me like i'm little kid. right now, i'm about to enter my 5th year at RIT. i share an off campus house with three other roommates and my parents still pay for the rent. i constantly telling them i can pay off on my own but damn asian parents.
asian parents are willing to do anything until children are grown up and live on their own then expect something in return from them. ugh.
i'm 23 and korean. my parents still treat me like i'm little kid. right now, i'm about to enter my 5th year at RIT. i share an off campus house with three other roommates and my parents still pay for the rent. i constantly telling them i can pay off on my own but damn asian parents.
asian parents are willing to do anything until children are grown up and live on their own then expect something in return from them. ugh.
here comes my patented devil's advocate responses.
They are right, you should eat your vegetables. If you are 20 and still don't know this, maybe they feel guilty for not harping on it enough and are making up for it now.
Doesn't matter what he does. Maybe he regrets his lifestyle and wants better for you. If you are only getting 6 hours of sleep per night it's bad for your long term health. You should try to get 8 hours. Maybe they care about your health.
That's because they are making you dinner and planning other daily life activities around your schedule, and do not like to be awakened if you come home drunk or make lots of noise at 3am.
What's "too much" here? It's critical to the legitimacy of the compaint.
They are right, you should eat your vegetables. If you are 20 and still don't know this, maybe they feel guilty for not harping on it enough and are making up for it now.
Doesn't matter what he does. Maybe he regrets his lifestyle and wants better for you. If you are only getting 6 hours of sleep per night it's bad for your long term health. You should try to get 8 hours. Maybe they care about your health.
That's because they are making you dinner and planning other daily life activities around your schedule, and do not like to be awakened if you come home drunk or make lots of noise at 3am.
What's "too much" here? It's critical to the legitimacy of the compaint.
Exactly. Move out - are you a man or still a little boy who lives with mommy and daddy?
I do sympathize with those who cannot afford to move out, but you make it sound as if you've got the money to do so. Besides, you don't need to be on economic outpatient care, take out loans if you need to. You need to learn how to live and subside without mommy or an RA to take care of business for you. just my $.02 since you asked.
Gamingphreek
Lifer
- Mar 31, 2003
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I'm 19 and I have some of the same things except I'm not Asian and my parents don't seem as strict.
1. Never really get yelled at for more vegetables. My Mom likes to make sure to push them right in front of me- but its no worries. Eating a few carrots or a bowl of salad is fine by me- it only keeps me healthy.
2. In college on days with an 8AM class I most definitely went to bed at Midnight. Makes it a whole hell of a lot easier to get up the next day, grab coffee with some friends, grab a shower, and head to class.
3. They are just concerned. They want to know how you are doing. Saying "No" is one thing, but give me a break- humor them and tell them what you are doing; it isn't a big deal. I tell my parents the plans for my week most of the time just to make sure everyone is on the same page (I have 2 younger sisters and my parents need my help taking them places at times as well as other chores).
4. So get outside or go visit some friends. To be honest, I haven't sat down and played a computer game for more than 10 mins since early first semester this past year (September or so). TV watching is limited to Sporting Events and Sportscenter (House and 24 are over). Everyone is different, if you want to stay in they'll respect that.
I'm a year younger and I understand that my parents care for me- you need to realize the same thing. They lecture you on things that they know aren't the best- not one point on your list included your parents forcing you to do something. Seems to me you have the proper amount of freedoms, you live under their roof right now- deal with the lectures.
(Note: I love visiting with my family, but I absolutely can't wait until I go back to Virginia Tech )
-Kevin
1. Never really get yelled at for more vegetables. My Mom likes to make sure to push them right in front of me- but its no worries. Eating a few carrots or a bowl of salad is fine by me- it only keeps me healthy.
2. In college on days with an 8AM class I most definitely went to bed at Midnight. Makes it a whole hell of a lot easier to get up the next day, grab coffee with some friends, grab a shower, and head to class.
3. They are just concerned. They want to know how you are doing. Saying "No" is one thing, but give me a break- humor them and tell them what you are doing; it isn't a big deal. I tell my parents the plans for my week most of the time just to make sure everyone is on the same page (I have 2 younger sisters and my parents need my help taking them places at times as well as other chores).
4. So get outside or go visit some friends. To be honest, I haven't sat down and played a computer game for more than 10 mins since early first semester this past year (September or so). TV watching is limited to Sporting Events and Sportscenter (House and 24 are over). Everyone is different, if you want to stay in they'll respect that.
I'm a year younger and I understand that my parents care for me- you need to realize the same thing. They lecture you on things that they know aren't the best- not one point on your list included your parents forcing you to do something. Seems to me you have the proper amount of freedoms, you live under their roof right now- deal with the lectures.
(Note: I love visiting with my family, but I absolutely can't wait until I go back to Virginia Tech
)-Kevin
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I hate summer... all these threads pop up...
Why do i still view them? i don't know.
If you don't like it, move out.
Yeah, I hate reading threads like this too and I always avoid them, yet I still posted one...
But like I've said before, I can't really move out again until my senior year since I can no longer find an apartment. If they want me to live at home, they can at least give me a fraction of the independence that would've gotten from living on my own.
You're making me sound like I'm complaining about eating vegetables, I actually like to eat fairly healthy and have no problems with them. My parents been telling me the same thing for 20 years. I think I get the point, I do eat my vegetables and I eat plenty even when I ate dinner at the dorms. It's like they have to be watching every bite of food I eat to make sure there are enough vegetables in there. If they don't see it or don't think there's enough, they get mad.
I do try and get 8 hours whenever possible and I've done a know all too well the long term affects of not enough sleep. However, as a college student sometimes it's hard to do. As for my dad, he stays up late playing online card games, and there are better ways to get someone to sleep more than trying to tell that person that he is sick and has a disease because of not sleeping enough (and this is coming from a professor of microbiology).
If I'm not coming home to dinner, I will tell them. I just don't think they need to ask me about every single place I go to each day. Also, when I do come home late, I'm always quiet enough that they never even know what time I come back, they have never complained to me about noise.
Taking out loans to live on your own when you don't have too is horrible advice. I'd rather be a little boy with no debts than the "man" who is going to have $600 month loan payments for the next 10 years. The OP should just deal with it for a couple more years and then move out when he graduates and finds a real job.
Because your parents like your sister better. Solution: become your sister. Grow long hair, dress and talk like her. Get implants, get surgery to remove your jimmy. Be her and even if that means "permanently" replacing her. Then you will be happy.
neutralizer
Lifer
- Oct 4, 2001
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They get pissed when I go out a lot and they get pissed when I stay in too much (or what they think is too much), there really isn't much of an in between. Also, with Asian parents, there's no such thing as respect towards their children.
As for the other stuff you said, I do understand that all my parents want is the best for me. You are right that they don't actually FORCE me to do anything, but with the way I was raised, it's hard not to obey what they say. Also, they don't actually "lecture" me, it's usually just straight to getting pissed and yelling at me.
I just think that I am old enough make decisions on my own and to not need all the constant input and nagging. I did fine for almost two years on my own and with little to no input, questions or help from them. I just don't understand why they feel the need to start it up again, it's not like I'm less capable now of taking care of myself now that I'm at home.
Best advice yet and I'm sure they'll love me even more after that.
Mermaidman
Diamond Member
- Sep 4, 2003
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"Azn" eh? It's hard to do when you're still living with your parents. Moving out doesn't make financial sense, so I suggest that you:
-work hard and succeed in school or at your job
-don't get in trouble with the law; display utmost common sense
-don't let your parents know about your foibles
-DON'T ARGUE WITH YOUR PARENTS. Let your achievements speak for themselves.
Basically, if you prove your maturity and display the ability to 'be a man,' your parents would hopefully ease off. My mother still nags me to eat right, exercise, etc, but it's infrequent and perfunctory. Good luck
pretty simple really
to your mother, you are still her "baby" no matter what your age.
i get it all the time now and im 21. vegetables, sleep, here ive made this soup its good for you, dont just eat with a fork, tidy your room etc etc
they've been doing it for like 15-17 years of your life....heh why stop now
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