How do I break up with this girl?

[Ilmater]

Situation:

- Tried to break up with her a week ago. My fault. Should have done it then.
- Girl said her friends said she was as happy as they've ever known her to be with me and that she still wanted to stay together.
- This talk was in person as I feel obligated to tell this girl in person if it's over.
- We've been going out for 4 months in which time we've basically kissed after each date. That's it.

So, I only ever see her when we go somewhere together. We don't just hang out for no reason. But I don't want to take her to dinner again because it will be uncomfortable the entire time.

My question: if I have to see her in person but don't want to talk to her for 2 hours uncomfortably before ending things, what do I do?

 

[MisterJackson]

Give me her number, I'll take care of it for ya

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: Ilmater
Situation:

- Tried to break up with her a week ago. My fault. Should have done it then.
- Girl said her friends said she was as happy as they've ever known her to be with me and that she still wanted to stay together.
- This talk was in person as I feel obligated to tell this girl in person if it's over.
- We've been going out for 4 months in which time we've basically kissed after each date. That's it.

So, I only ever see her when we go somewhere together. We don't just hang out for no reason. But I don't want to take her to dinner again because it will be uncomfortable the entire time.

My question: if I have to see her in person but don't want to talk to her for 2 hours uncomfortably before ending things, what do I do?

You've been with this girl for 4 months and you havent hit it yet?

 

[MisterJackson]

DP

 

[Jeeebus]

well from the sounds of it you're gay, so I'd go with that.

 

[imthebadguy]

hit and acquit?

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: Jeeebus
well from the sounds of it you're gay, so I'd go with that.

lol

 

[iamwiz82]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: Ilmater
Situation:

- Tried to break up with her a week ago. My fault. Should have done it then.
- Girl said her friends said she was as happy as they've ever known her to be with me and that she still wanted to stay together.
- This talk was in person as I feel obligated to tell this girl in person if it's over.
- We've been going out for 4 months in which time we've basically kissed after each date. That's it.

So, I only ever see her when we go somewhere together. We don't just hang out for no reason. But I don't want to take her to dinner again because it will be uncomfortable the entire time.

My question: if I have to see her in person but don't want to talk to her for 2 hours uncomfortably before ending things, what do I do?

You've been with this girl for 4 months and you havent hit it yet?

That's hard to do when Mom is waiting in the car for him.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
You've been with this girl for 4 months and you haven't hit it yet?

Ridiculous, eh? I'm not even talking about sex necessarily, just something. The funny part is, she is clearly still into me, and yet it's been so long I'm no longer interested in her romantically. I'm not saying it wasn't a good thing that we didn't do anything, but at the same time, maybe if we had tried something my opinion would have changed.

She said sometimes she puts up too many walls and can't let go, and that's been exactly the problem. She just seems too uptight.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: iamwiz82

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: Ilmater
Situation:

- Tried to break up with her a week ago. My fault. Should have done it then.
- Girl said her friends said she was as happy as they've ever known her to be with me and that she still wanted to stay together.
- This talk was in person as I feel obligated to tell this girl in person if it's over.
- We've been going out for 4 months in which time we've basically kissed after each date. That's it.

So, I only ever see her when we go somewhere together. We don't just hang out for no reason. But I don't want to take her to dinner again because it will be uncomfortable the entire time.

My question: if I have to see her in person but don't want to talk to her for 2 hours uncomfortably before ending things, what do I do?

You've been with this girl for 4 months and you havent hit it yet?

That's hard to do when Mom is waiting in the car for him.

She can wait

 

[IceBergSLiM]

ummm you dont have a relationship with this girl if you just kissed. just stop calling she'll get the hint.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: iamwiz82That's hard to do when Mom is waiting in the car for him.

Just because establishing maturity is important to getting any semblance of a straight answer, I'll go ahead and respond to this.

I'm 28, and I've been on my own in all respects since I left for college.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
ummm you dont have a relationship with this girl if you just kissed. just stop calling she'll get the hint.

Can't do that. She's friends with someone I work with that I frequently talk to. Upsetting that relationship would be bad.

I have a strict policy about not dating women I work with, but I need to extend that to friends of women I work with.

 

[sixone]

Don't promise dinner - just tell her you want to see her. Then say what you need to say. Man up, and stop putting it off.

 

[Dirigible]

Do or do not. There is no try.

Just break up with her. Tell her it's over. Stop putting her wants and needs ahead of yours when it won't really save her any pain in the long run.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
You've been with this girl for 4 months and you haven't hit it yet?

Ridiculous, eh? I'm not even talking about sex necessarily, just something. The funny part is, she is clearly still into me, and yet it's been so long I'm no longer interested in her romantically. I'm not saying it wasn't a good thing that we didn't do anything, but at the same time, maybe if we had tried something my opinion would have changed.

She said sometimes she puts up too many walls and can't let go, and that's been exactly the problem. She just seems too uptight.

Any idea why she's so uptight?

 

[psteng19]

It's the TSX. You gotta get rid of it.
That thing is a babe magnet.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
ummm you dont have a relationship with this girl if you just kissed. just stop calling she'll get the hint.

Can't do that. She's friends with someone I work with that I frequently talk to. Upsetting that relationship would be bad.

I have a strict policy about not dating women I work with, but I need to extend that to friends of women I work with.

why would her friend get mad? YOU TWO WERENT IN A RELATIONSHIP!!! you ckissed a couple times!! whoopty friggin do. Its part of dating, things dont always work out. dont make this such a big deal. its not like you impregnated her and are ditching her.

 

[z0mb13]

make her an offer: put out or its overrrr

 

[wheresmybacon]

Ask if you can stop by her place for a minute. Do NOT take her to a public place. Tell her it isn?t working and you want to break up. Go home.

 

[FallenHero]

Grow some nuts. Just tell her you no longer want to date.

 

[funboy6942]

Say baby things just aint working out, so, you take care ok?
Um I have to tell you that the reason we havent had sex is because, well, Im gay, and I'm breaking up with you. Sorry, but I still like you as a friend
Hey listen I tried to make this work between us but I just cant do it, I like men. So unless you have a wang under there I have to call it quits.

Im 28 and I went on a public forum because I didnt know how to approch this. I just dont like you they told me and I should call you a doo doo head, and moms waiting back in the car for me so I got to make this quick. I dont like you, never have, I need other things, and <honk honk>, ok, i got to go, mom needs to go to the store and buy some more milk so I can eat my Lucky Charms in the morning.

But OP your 28, you say you live alone, you trully dont know how to break it off with someone? Just be truthful with her and treat her with respect she deserves and do it right. Dont keep dragging it on and on. Show some class man.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: Dirigible
Do or do not. There is no try.

Just break up with her. Tell her it's over. Stop putting her wants and needs ahead of yours when it won't really save her any pain in the long run.

But you have to understand, this girl has EVERYTHING I could want in a woman otherwise. Secure, independent, let's me do my own thing, does her own thing, very nice, personable, the kind of person you'd be happy to be associated with... you get the picture.

You have to understand that every cell in my brain is telling me I should like this girl, I just don't. When she said that she still wanted to try, I couldn't say no because it wasn't like I was DYING to end things, I just didn't feel like there was that extra connection.

 

[Journer]

dont see in person...call...dump...

if u must see in person...go to her place...never good to let a sad girl drive

 

[Chaotic42]

Leave her a phone message:

Hickory Dickory bump,
Your ass got dumped.