None. Her sister and her drink Tequila like water, so you'd think that would bring her out of her shell, right? Nope. On her birthday, I was thinking she would at least open up some, but the stuff had no effect. I watched her down 7 or 8 tequila shots on top of her drinks (this is a fit, athletic woman, mind you) and she wasn't even slurring her speech. Impossible but true.
:thumbsup: Her friend would get mad if I just stopped calling. That's just not right. You have to at least tell people to their face if things aren't working out.
Dude, I'm just wondering if someone can think of a good excuse to go over there without dragging her to an uncomfortable dinner. I'm merely claiming I'm mature, not creative. I'm not asking for advice on how to run my life, just seeing if someone can think of a good excuse. That's it. Not a big deal. If I don't see something that sounds like a good idea, I'll just have her out for dinner Thursday and be done with it.
GAAAH!!! Where did I say that?! I'm saying that we've done nothing but kiss in the 4 months we've been dating, and I just don't feel like there's a connection beyond friendship. Maybe the REASON we haven't done anything is BECAUSE there isn't a connection. I don't know. I SPECIFICALLY said that I don't think sex would solve everything, I just think that after 4 months something should be progressing there. We're still kissing like it was after the first date. If I try to hold the kiss longer or pull her close, she backs off. C'mon.
Exactly. Instead of taking her to dinner, just meet her near her house and ask her to go for a walk with you. Stop at the nearest quiet place where you can talk, and break it off.
If you think she might flip out, take her somewhere crowded and near the cops instead.
there is no rules about telling someone you dated a few times to there face. a fone call is fine a text message is ideal.
pontifex, your input on girl threads is about as relevant and useful as you giving recommendations on which tampon to use. The only difference being that you have more experience with tampons.
It's been four months. Who the hell waits four months? Id say, unless there is some religous or medical reason behind it, the person holding out on the fun stuff needs to grow up.
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"Sexual?" Of course it's sexual. If it's not a sexual relationship I'm having with her, then it's friendship, isn't it?
So, it doesn't have to be full-on intercourse, but prolonged kissing (never kissed her for more than maybe 15 seconds), maybe even having her sleep at my place rather than going home without actually having sex. I realize that a lot of these things lead to sex, but that doesn't mean that A) I expect them or require them to, or B) that we don't have to progress to SOMETHING in 4 months.
you cant force it. Its either there or its not. I recently ended something with what many would describe as an ideal girl. There wasn't a spark there though.
You're saying that you would stay with a girl that wouldn't kiss you for more than 15 seconds after being together 4 months? There's something seriously wrong with either the girl or the relationship.
OP, don't even bother defending yourself against people on here who act like you're out of line. Either they didn't read your explanation of what's going on, or they have never been with a woman and are thinking that 15 seconds of kissing after a date is more than they've ever gotten.
The fact that you've been with her 4 months trying to see if your relationship progressed shows that you are not shallow. You haven't pressured her for sex, but like any sane man you'd would like to know that there is mutual physical attraction. You're right that a relationship without any sexual chemistry is simply a friendship. There's no reason to have an exclusive friendship. Tell her you'd like to be friends, find a healthy relationship.
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First... this is ATOT, bad place to ask for relationship advice.
Second... with some thought, you could handle the situation much better than most of the pubes here offering "advice" to "hit it".
Third... it sounds like she's reluctant to let the relationship advance because of something in her past. If you're still interested, give her time. Everyone opens up eventually (I can be described as pretty uptight about some things except to close friends).
Your SO should be someone who you would love to be friends with. There's less conflict that way.
Second... with some thought, you could handle the situation much better than most of the pubes here offering "advice" to "hit it".
Third... it sounds like she's reluctant to let the relationship advance because of something in her past. If you're still interested, give her time. Everyone opens up eventually (I can be described as pretty uptight about some things except to close friends).
Your SO should be someone who you would love to be friends with. There's less conflict that way.
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