Earth to Luvya.... SHE IS BANGING ANOTHER GUY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think there is a good chance he is right!
She would not want to talk to you about that right...
Earth to Luvya.... SHE IS BANGING ANOTHER GUY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Originally posted by: N8Magic
luvya,
Even if you use the *67 per-call-blocking as suggested earlier, she may not answer. In many areas, long-distance numbers ring differently (eg. ring-ring-ring instead of riiiiiiiiiiing-riiiiiiiing) and she may be screening your calls that way. Unfortunately, you can't change the ringing pattern even if you do manage to block your number from her CallerID unit.
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Maybe it's your grammar.Originally posted by: luvya
Don't it feel strange that one day she was so nice to you and next day it's all over? And I shouldn't even try to at least find out why? This is bullsh#t! I am not an @$$hole, I make it very clear once I know the reason ...whatever it is, I will accept it and move on. So...it's really up to her now.
Originally posted by: pulse8
Originally posted by: obiwaynekenobi
Originally posted by: pulse8
Originally posted by: luvya
Don't it feel strange that one day she was so nice to you and next day it's all over? And I shouldn't even try to at least find out why? This is bullsh#t! I am not an @$$hole, I make it very clear once I know the reason ...whatever it is, I will accept it and move on. So...it's really up to her now.
That's such a fuggin' cop out. "I need a reason. All she has to do is give one and I'll leave her alone. It's all on her now." blah blah blah
Even if you know the reason, what the hell does it matter? How will that information make your life better? I mean, aside from just knowing why the girl stopped calling you, the reason is meaningless. It helps nothing. All you're doing is aggrivating what sounds like an already deteriorating situation.
Just let it go, keep your pride and move on.
Pulse?? WTH? It's about getting some closure you sometimes have to have a reason explained to you so you can get past that part of your life and move on. Some of us just can't brush it off like it's no big deal. It is a Big deal. if you can't get the closure you can't get past it and it makes it really hard to get into another realtionship, and NOT have it affect you.
Closure is a load of horse sh!t.
Now let me explain what I mean by that. You can get over just about any problems you had in your relationship. Some are harder than others, of course, but I believe anyone can overcome anything. If you are being abused by your boyfriend, that can be overcome and you don't have to know the reason why you're boyfriend was beating you. Why don't you need to know? Because it's totally irrelevant. Time is a better method of healing yourself than closure. Obsessing over what happened and why will not get you back together with that person and it won't make things easier for anyone.
The only reason he wants to know why is probably because he'll want to try and fix it. The problem with that is that the girl has obviously made herself clear in what she wants. If she's not taking his calls, she doesn't want to be with him. It sucks, but it happens. Regardless of how long they've been together, if she doesn't want to give him a reason, then she doesn't have to. He needs to accept that and move on. Tricking her into answering the phone and then confronting her about what happened is only going to creep her out, make her afraid of you and piss her off.
You cannot make her tell you what is going through her head. You just have to accept that the two of you aren't right for each other and get on with your life. It's definitely easier said than done, but it's something that's completely possible. It may not seem like you'll ever be able to forget her and move on, but it you will. Chances are in a few months, you'll get so fuggin' tired of thinking about her and the situation, that you'll just get sick of the whole thing.
I'm not just talking out of my ass here. I'm speaking from plenty of personal experiences. If she wants to tell you, she would've told you. If she doesn't want to tell you, there's nothing you can do to make her. Either way, the reason she doesn't want to be with you isn't as important as saving your pride and accepting her decision like a man.
