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How did your parents react when you told them you were getting married?

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fbrdphreak

Lifer
Title says it all. What kind of reaction did you get? Did you tell them in person or over the phone? What kind of relationship do you have with your parents? Were they suspecting it was coming anyway?
 
They were very concerned, maybe it was the fact that I was 13, and not dating anyone. But what do I know?
 
We offically did not say anything to my dad at first... we just asked him where is the best place to get an engagement ring... so that kind of tipped him off. He was very happy and spent the rest of the day talking with us about everything.
His parents were just thrilled and told him it was about time!
Everyone was very happy.
We have good relationships with all parents!
 
The "not caring too much for the gf" part didn't apply in my case.

My parents were in league with my now-wife. All three of them were on my case to get off my butt and get engaged/married already.
 
Mine behaved like they were all cool about it and stuff. But then they came to visit us later and my Dad was very rude to her... and then she was mad... then all of them were mad... its a horrible situation... almost changed my married life... it sucks...
 
we got engaged in quebec. we called my parents and i spoke with my mother and said "we're getting married!".

her response: why are you getting married in quebec?

after clearing it up i speak with my father. i tell him "we're getting married!".

his response: why are you getting married in quebec?

true story.

anyway, my parents love my wife. i think they secretly like her better than me 🙂
 
Make sure your parents like your SO before even considering telling them what you are planning if you want to have a close relationship with your parents after marriage.
 
Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Title says it all. What kind of reaction did you get? Did you tell them in person or over the phone? What kind of relationship do you have with your parents? Were they suspecting it was coming anyway?
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My parents were not overjoyed when I told them and they made it pretty clear. They said things like "You know marriage is for life" and "Once this is done it is very difficult to undo".

A few things happened that allowed them to see why I fell in love with my wife and they backed off, but I don't know that they were ever very happy.

Remember you are marrying the person you like and love, not the one your parents do. When times get rough in your marriage (and they will) your parents are not the ones with whom you will work through the issues.
 
Originally posted by: DaShen
Make sure your parents like your SO before even considering telling them what you are planning if you want to have a close relationship with your parents after marriage.
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That's garbage. If your parents are too shallow to see past their prejudices for the sake of your happiness, then your relationship with them needs to change. If not, you will be unhappy for the rest of your life.
 
They were very excited and happy... they love my gf, and is helping us with a lot of our wedding planning etc...
 
Originally posted by: DaShen
Make sure your parents like your SO before even considering telling them what you are planning if you want to have a close relationship with your parents after marriage.
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Make sure you move out of your parent's basement before you start seriously dating. 😛

- M4H
 
Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Title says it all. What kind of reaction did you get? Did you tell them in person or over the phone? What kind of relationship do you have with your parents? Were they suspecting it was coming anyway?
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My parents were not overjoyed when I told them and they made it pretty clear. They said things like "You know marriage is for life" and "Once this is done it is very difficult to undo".

A few things happened that allowed them to see why I fell in love with my wife and they backed off, but I don't know that they were ever very happy.

Remember you are marrying the person you like and love, not the one your parents do. When times get rough in your marriage (and they will) your parents are not the ones with whom you will work through the issues.
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I have a feeling that will be what my situation is like. Thanks for the input, all very true words.

Also thanks HotChick for the PM and everyone else for your input...keep it coming :sun:
 
Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Title says it all. What kind of reaction did you get? Did you tell them in person or over the phone? What kind of relationship do you have with your parents? Were they suspecting it was coming anyway?
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My parents were not overjoyed when I told them and they made it pretty clear. They said things like "You know marriage is for life" and "Once this is done it is very difficult to undo".

A few things happened that allowed them to see why I fell in love with my wife and they backed off, but I don't know that they were ever very happy.

Remember you are marrying the person you like and love, not the one your parents do. When times get rough in your marriage (and they will) your parents are not the ones with whom you will work through the issues.
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I have a feeling that will be what my situation is like. Thanks for the input, all very true words.

Also thanks HotChick for the PM and everyone else for your input...keep it coming :sun:
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They will come around in time.

If not, you will see more of your parent's shortcomings and have to learn to live with them.

Good luck, but don't even think of not getting married because of your parents.
 
Me: Mom, Dad, I'm planning on asking Heather to marry me in the next week.
Mom: *happy cries*
Dad: Son, we're gonna have a talk about this...
Me: It's kind of too late... I already have a ring.
Dad: Oh, well, then congratulations son. *shakes hand*
Mom: *happy cries*
 
Me: Yall, I'm getting married to T
Mom: O pause K
Sister 1: Silence
Sister 2: Why?
Sister 3: I don't like that B*

I should have listened to them because it didn't work....
 
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