How did me and my sister grow up so differently?

[Turin39789]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Turin39789
WTF ATOT! You are all slackers.


The correct form is "How did my sister and I..." . Stop putting yourself first.

Actually, I think it is "Me".

Worded as:
I grow up so differently - doesn't make sense, so i think ME is the proper word.

"Me grow up so differently" - doesn't sound too hot either. In this case your sister and you are the subjects of the sentence.


"Case and personal pronouns
Always use nominative case pronoun if pronoun is a part of the subject.
In the following example the pronoun is a part of the subject so subject pronoun should be used.
My sister and me went to the movie. (Incorrect)
My sister and I went to the movie. (Correct)

Always use objective case pronoun if pronoun is part of the object.
In the following example the pronoun is a direct object so object pronoun should be used.
My sister took a picture of him and I. (Incorrect)
My sister took a picture of him and me. (Correct)
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[eits]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Turin39789
WTF ATOT! You are all slackers.


The correct form is "How did my sister and I..." . Stop putting yourself first.

Actually, I think it is "Me".

Worded as:
I grow up so differently - doesn't make sense, so i think ME is the proper word.

WRROOOOOOOONG

"how did me and my sister grow up so differently?"

- if you remove your sister from the sentence, it should still make sense

"how did me grow up so differently"

- ... and it doesn't.


correct answer: "how did my sister and i grow up so differently?"

proof: "how did i grow up so differently?"

DING DING DING DING!

 

[theeedude]

Just let it go. The upside is that she is raising her kids the same way she is, so fast forward 20 years, she'll be in the same boat she's putting your parents in.
It's your parents' job to cut her off, if they want to keep feeding her high maintainance ways, not much you can do about it.

 

[Molondo]

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Turin39789
WTF ATOT! You are all slackers.


The correct form is "How did my sister and I..." . Stop putting yourself first.

Actually, I think it is "Me".

Worded as:
I grow up so differently - doesn't make sense, so i think ME is the proper word.

WRROOOOOOOONG

"how did me and my sister grow up so differently?"

- if you remove your sister from the sentence, it should still make sense

"how did me grow up so differently"

- ... and it doesn't.


correct answer: "how did my sister and i grow up so differently?"

proof: "how did i grow up so differently?"

DING DING DING DING!

BOOOM head shot.

Yea, one of the only things i remmeber from the english class.

 

[JeffreyLebowski]

Originally posted by: Tarrant64
Question:

Where the hell is the husbands money going?

Nose?

 

[Scarpozzi]

Anything over $20 and she should pay for it her own self. I'm 26 and have bought 2 refridgerators in the last 2 years. Both of them were high-end Kenmores to fill the two kitchens in my house. I paid for them myself and my parents are jealous because they have an old Amana from 1991 that should have been replaced years ago when the frost-free circuit stopped working.

Tell your sister to grow up.

 

[Anghang]

should you get involved, most definitely yes...your sister is trampling all over your parents, if they can't stand up to protect themselves from your psycho sister's manipulative begs, wants, etc...then you should definitely step in and take the stand on their behalf...

it's not just an indian thing, i've seen this happen with east asian families as well...family's scraping by, their child in the 30s-40s age range still mooching off them buying useless junk, at full retail price too! what kind of asian pays full retail?...o_0 (i'm chinopino btw) with no effort whatsoever to pay them back or help them financially...makes me sick...

please keep us updated, i'm very interested in seeing how this situation of yours turns out...

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: HomeBrewerDude
the problem is that your parents still tolerate and enable this behavior.

agrred enablers are not good.

 

[JS80]

why do you care so much?

 

[iRONic]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Anything over $20 and she should pay for it her own self. I'm 26 and have bought 2 refridgerators in the last 2 years. Both of them were high-end Kenmores to fill the two kitchens in my house. I paid for them myself and my parents are jealous because they have an old Amana from 1991 that should have been replaced years ago when the frost-free circuit stopped working.

Tell your sister to grow up.

Dude... Buy your mom a new fridge!!!

 

[ForumMaster]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Qwest

Originally posted by: Tarrant64
Question:

Where the hell is the husbands money going?

Yeah, he has a kid with your sister, fine. But 3 cars, an MBA degree, and high salary? For cultural reasons, if your parents can't do it, you need to set your sister straight.

"Sis, this has to stop. Mom and dad can't keep living like this and your husband makes plenty of dough, what's the problem?"

Best of luck either way...and yes, you are right to be angry.

Actually, she has her MBA and he's a lawyer. She's not working right now but their combined earning potential (he's senior counsel at a major firm) is astronomical while my parents are retired civil servents.

I was ready to call her and bitch her out right then and there. But I think I'm going to go the embarassment route - poking fun at her husband for being poor since she still asks for things, so that he has a nice talk with her. I don't fear confrontation but she goes for the jugular.. Seriously, she's punched me to win arguments.. Left scars even. Fighting with her is not something to take lightly, especially when you're not allowed to punch back!

she punched you? oh i hate this taboo that you can't hit girls. if this turns into a physical conflict at your age i would question your maturity. offer your parents help.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: daniel49
your parents need to level with her so she can grow up.

I think it's cultural, indian parents tend to avoid confrontation. I'm ready to bitch her out about this, I don't care that she gave birth.. But I don't know if I want to get involved....

My suggestion to them was to joke to her husband and ask if things weren't going so well at the job.. "Are things ok, financially? I would think you two could handle buying a microwave but if you need any help, just ask!"

This is called making excuses.

 

[ed0ggyd0gg]

Stop talking to her. All the money in the world can't defeat someone ignoring you. That much of an attention grabber will HATE it when you pretend like she doesn't exist.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: ForumMaster

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Qwest

Originally posted by: Tarrant64
Question:

Where the hell is the husbands money going?

Yeah, he has a kid with your sister, fine. But 3 cars, an MBA degree, and high salary? For cultural reasons, if your parents can't do it, you need to set your sister straight.

"Sis, this has to stop. Mom and dad can't keep living like this and your husband makes plenty of dough, what's the problem?"

Best of luck either way...and yes, you are right to be angry.

Actually, she has her MBA and he's a lawyer. She's not working right now but their combined earning potential (he's senior counsel at a major firm) is astronomical while my parents are retired civil servents.

I was ready to call her and bitch her out right then and there. But I think I'm going to go the embarassment route - poking fun at her husband for being poor since she still asks for things, so that he has a nice talk with her. I don't fear confrontation but she goes for the jugular.. Seriously, she's punched me to win arguments.. Left scars even. Fighting with her is not something to take lightly, especially when you're not allowed to punch back!

she punched you? oh i hate this taboo that you can't hit girls. if this turns into a physical conflict at your age i would question your maturity. offer your parents help.

I called her a c*nt after she hit me, I'm sure that hurt her more. Then a b*tch.. then a.. well... Who keeps track of these things?

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
My sister, who recently gave birth to my awesome nephew, called my parents yesterday basically demanding that they get her a fridge and microwave, so that she doesn't have to walk down a flight of stairs to feed him. Considering that my parents are both retired and that my sister's husband makes probably 5 times more than my parents do right now...Well.. It pisses me off. My parents drive a 95 town and country minivan and my sister owns 3 cars, a BWM SUV, a cadillac, and a brand new Mazda cx9, yet she's demanding that they buy her stuff.

Where does this mentality come from? I've always felt extremely guilty whenever my parents buy me anything. In fact, I recently posted a thread about how I felt guilty about them buying me a computer and recently bought them a tv and dvd player to help deal with my guilt. Yet my sister has always demanded things from them and continues to do so when she's 32 and I'm 26. She even sends Christmas lists in November! I haven't gotten christmas or birthday gifts since I turned 21 because I prefer buying things for myself (and prefer going out with the family for dinner/movies vs. tacky sweaters) yet she sends out details lists... What's ironic is that her wedding and college education are major reasons my parents have a ton of loans. She has her MBA and her husband is a lawyer - they could at least lend a hand with those loans but they flatly told my parents that it's their responsibility.

I don't get it... Do I have a right to be angry? My mom and dad vent to me all the time and I feel like just telling her to grow the fvck up, because my parents aren't rolling in the dough and, while a fridge and microwave might seem trivial to her, it'll probably just be another credit card debth my parents have to add to the pile. It's so strange that, growing up, my sister used to call me spoiled because I "always" got what I wanted. What was the last thing I begged for before getting a job and buying things for myself? A super nintendo system..And she still brings that up.

Your sister sounds like a complete punk...what sort of attitude is THAT? It's BS.

Koing

 

[slackerinabox]

UPDATE
Had a long talk with my parents. Convinced them that giving into her will like this could have horrible repercussions on her life. I said that, if they want her to stay happily married and not continue being this overbearing child, that they should set limits. I told them, since they promised already, I'd find them a good deal ($35 microwave and $50 used mini-fridge) but that they need to set limits. I then talked to my sister after I saw my niece acting up to my mom. I said that the disrespect my sister shows to my mom is just being absorbed by her child - "i can be a b*tch too!" She agreed with me and thanked me for my observation.

Lastly, I kept on talking over dinner that, since the baby would be coming home in 4 weeks that the whole thing might be redundant - she should be healthy enough to walk by then and that the extra stuff would be clutter. Her husband agreed and suggested we return everything.. Her husband is a reasonable guy and said that he had no idea and would have picked something up if she just asked him to.