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how come i get dirty looks from white guys when im on a date w/ a white chick?
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My brother-in-law and his wife are an interracial couple (he's white, she's black). She gets MUCH more flack than he does -- she's been threatened a few times for being a 'traitor', complaints that she must 'think she's too good for a brother', et c. It actually got to be a big deal with her friends, and her social circle got much smaller because of it. The crap she got was exclusively from other blacks. My brother-in-law, on the other hand, got hardly any hassle, in no small part due to the fact his wife is beautiful. Even a mildly racist guy can be persuaded by a bona fide hottie.
I think MEN of any race always get edgy and irritable when MEN of another race 'take their women.' I know when I've tried to date black girls I've been warned off by male family or male friends, sometimes friendly-like, sometimes with threats on my bodily safety. It's aggravated if the woman being "taken" is particularly attractive. That's probably partly why sister-in-law gets so much headache; if she was an UGLY or STUPID black girl it wouldn't be such a big deal, but she's a PRETTY and SMART girl.
Maybe you could get your girl to wear some of those redneck teeth and sweats and see if you get less glares? 😉
I don't think that this resentment is neccesarily intentional; I think men are just territorial and it affects some guys more than others. As somebody else said, you're probably noticing the few jerks more than the majority of well-adjusted folks.
I think MEN of any race always get edgy and irritable when MEN of another race 'take their women.' I know when I've tried to date black girls I've been warned off by male family or male friends, sometimes friendly-like, sometimes with threats on my bodily safety. It's aggravated if the woman being "taken" is particularly attractive. That's probably partly why sister-in-law gets so much headache; if she was an UGLY or STUPID black girl it wouldn't be such a big deal, but she's a PRETTY and SMART girl.
Maybe you could get your girl to wear some of those redneck teeth and sweats and see if you get less glares? 😉
I don't think that this resentment is neccesarily intentional; I think men are just territorial and it affects some guys more than others. As somebody else said, you're probably noticing the few jerks more than the majority of well-adjusted folks.
AccruedExpenditure
Diamond Member
You'd get more mean looks from black girls than white guys out here...
NFS4
No Lifer
The only flak I've gotten over dating my GF (coming up on three years, WOOT) has been from her grandparents. They're stuck in the 50's or something and think that black folks are inferior to them. Then again, they have a lot of issues. They hate fat people and they also think that people who have more money than them must be crookish...but that's another story.
Grandma-ma has come around and even **gasp** hugs me whenever I see her. She even introduced me to the rest of her family and introduced me as Elizabeth's BF at a wedding we attended last year instead of just ignoring that I was there (shocked the hell out of me). Her Granddad is alright, I have no real beef with him.
Her parents are totally cool with it. My parents are cool with it. Her brother is my best friend. Everything is all hunky-dory. I've never really noticed any looks when we're in public, but then again, I don't take time out of my day to actually care or observe what other people think about me/us. I have better things to do. If it was something blatant, I'm sure I'd notice, but I really don't have time to guage everyone's reactions.
Bottom line:
IT'S THEIR ISSUE, NOT OURS. YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT, GO *#^# YOURSELF
Time to go to bed, peace!
E and I on the start of our hike last weekend (even after I told E that she would warm up after a few minutes of hiking and wouldn't need my windbreaker)
My new background 🙂
Grandma-ma has come around and even **gasp** hugs me whenever I see her. She even introduced me to the rest of her family and introduced me as Elizabeth's BF at a wedding we attended last year instead of just ignoring that I was there (shocked the hell out of me). Her Granddad is alright, I have no real beef with him.
Her parents are totally cool with it. My parents are cool with it. Her brother is my best friend. Everything is all hunky-dory. I've never really noticed any looks when we're in public, but then again, I don't take time out of my day to actually care or observe what other people think about me/us. I have better things to do. If it was something blatant, I'm sure I'd notice, but I really don't have time to guage everyone's reactions.
Bottom line:
IT'S THEIR ISSUE, NOT OURS. YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT, GO *#^# YOURSELF
Time to go to bed, peace!
E and I on the start of our hike last weekend (even after I told E that she would warm up after a few minutes of hiking and wouldn't need my windbreaker)
My new background 🙂
NFS4
No Lifer
judasmachine
Diamond Member
they're racist arseholes.... duh.
Because she's tracking mud on the carpet.
But I kid. Seriously, it does bother some whites; just like it bothers some blacks when they see a white guy with a black chick.
Some people just aren't "there" yet, but I think over the last 15 years or so it has become much more widely accepted.
krunchykrome
Lifer
:roll:
rhino56
Platinum Member
It stems from how us white kids were raised. being born in 66 there was alot of division between whites and blacks in schools and society.
they see it as your a filthy n***** defouling something that is pure and holy.
so it disgusts them.
The problem stems from their own lack of control in their life. there are many things we cant control in life ,weather, clouds, but the things we can yet still elude us would become frustrating.
they think that a woman is something that is a conquest or property. thats their first bit of frustration stemming from their childhood.
its not nearly as simple as something that can be defined by a term like racism, its never just one thing, its a combination of hatred that goes back before africans were even used as slaves. so your question is a good question but would take a long time to answer.
and by the time you attained the answer you would find yourself on a parallel course with the hatred that you posted about just by making this post.
No it's not a joke. I live in Cincinnati and drive through the inner city and happen to have to travel through some of the worst parts on a daily basis. I've called 911 five times so far this year because of people showing firearms on the street. That is not a joke.
Obscene? When I see guys with their pants around their knees and their boxers showing, I call that obscene.
Offensive? I call showing firearms and shooting police officers offensive. It's happened more times that I can remember seeing on the news already this year. Not to mention the attitude they give you if you even makeeye contact with them.
Disrespectful? Please. Thugs live to break the law and make law enforcement's job a living hell.
Rebellious? Thugs are not thugs until they've served time.
Imagine this: A group of guys on a street corner in over-the-rhine, all 5 of them with black jeans more than 10 sizes too big for them, in long white T-shirts that fal to their knees, with gold chains around their neck and some bling hanging on the end big enough to act as a (necessary) bulletproof vest, who you drive past, accidentally make eye contact with one of them, and they all turn around and start yelling at you because you're a white person in a nice car and somehow in their minds you just commited a hate crime. I call them thugs. They are thugs and look it because they choose to be.
If I see a black guy walking down that same street with well-fitting pants around his waist and a shirt that doesn't hang to the knees, I do not call him a thug.
Why the heck would you dress that way if you didn't want to be identified with thugs? I head a while ago that if you wore a red shirt on the first Monday of the month that meant you were gay. I do not want to be associated with that group so I don't wear red shirts on Mondays. It's a very simple concept.
GuitarDaddy
Lifer
ROLF! I almost pee'd my pants
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