how can I reply to this..

[TechBoyJK]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
I have a friend that I grew up with. I've been giving him a hard time lately, and imho rightfully so. He'll be 29 in a few months.

-has never moved out.
-living in same bedroom his whole life
-doesn't work
-went to college and got 2 associate degrees in graphic design and publishing
-did pretty good in high school, so he isn't dumb
-hasn't had a consistent job in about 10 years
-parents babied him growing up and were very over protective
-drinks alot, admits he's an alcoholic
-plays poker online alot, admits he is addicted
-accordingy to his mom, he gets "mad and violent" when the threaten to kick him out
-has totaled 2 cars in less than 3 years due to drunk driving
-parents won't buy him another car until he has a job
-is a small guy, probably 5'6, and is now in terrible shape (has gross pale skin)
-used to be a very spunky, fun, and energetic guy

This guy used to be a fun person to be around. He was always humurous, cracked jokes, and would always be willing to get in trouble with his boys. hahah

Anyways, that was when we were kids, now we have all grown up, except him.

Don't know what the when we were 'kids' has to do with shit unless that was what you 'thought' was cool versus really doing what you wanted.

I haven't changed much since I was a 'kid'. I didn't do much stupid stuff, I like drinking, women and cars. Still do.

It's called what 90% of those in their 20's are doing today...living life on another's dime.

IMHO unless you have a plan, the parents are doing a big disservice to any child that is not forced to move out around 18, if they are in college go dorm or rent. Feel free to come home during the summers to work and save.

Feel free to come home for the first year out of college to save for a downpayment.

What most do is just live at home and brag that they are saving for a house but in reality have nothing in the bank and are blowing dough each day.

Personally though WTF are you getting involved in this.

i dont know.. just trying to wake a brother up

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: TechBoyJK

i dont know.. just trying to wake a brother up

Just kiss him and let him know how you really feel then.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: TechBoyJK

i dont know.. just trying to wake a brother up

Just kiss him and let him know how you really feel then.

yeap. seems something more then just friendship.


tell the guy what you feel and let it go.

 

[krunchykrome]

His parents need to kick him out. And his close friends need to give him a tough lecture, and maybe an ultimatum. Anything less than that would seem like a slap on the wrist to him, and he will continue his ways.

 

[Gothgar]

Originally posted by: Kadarin
You can show him and/or his parents this excellent article on the subject.

that was a great article, thanks for the link!!!

I know a few sets of parents and a few (very childish) friends whom I am going to send it to.

 

[TechBoyJK]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: TechBoyJK

i dont know.. just trying to wake a brother up

Just kiss him and let him know how you really feel then.

lol, you're terrible.