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hzl eyed grl

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Originally posted by: eits
Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl

LOL. But seriously, doesn't dental dam completely defeat the whole purpose of giving oral sex to a woman?
If she's wanting it badly enough and you don't know each other that well? Dental dam is better than nothing at all.

to be quite honest, i'd rather have nothing at all. i'd rather wait to know her better than to deal with that. plus, it'd make her want it more and guarantee another date.

And that's fine too. It's all about the decision. I was just saying that if the two of you are wanting it badly enough and don't know each other well enough, there are other ways than just the "bareback" way.
 

Whisper

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I've never used a condom in this circumstance, but I've always never been one to be interested in receiving oral sex--or sex at all--from someone I'm not dating.
 

hzl eyed grl

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Originally posted by: SirStev0
BJ's no, cunniling yes in the dental dam form

Same diseases can be spread in either form of oral. You know that, right?
 

mobobuff

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Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: mobobuff
I'm sorry, but the dental dam looks absolutely ridiculous.
So does herpes and chlamydia.

Which I wouldn't get if I started laughing hysterically and then just asked for a handjob during a good movie.
 

hzl eyed grl

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Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: mobobuff
I'm sorry, but the dental dam looks absolutely ridiculous.
So does herpes and chlamydia.

Which I wouldn't get if I started laughing hysterically and then just asked for a handjob during a good movie.

Unfortunately, the only thing between looking ridiculous with chlamydia and having a "happy ending" is the bolded word up there.
 

SmoochyTX

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Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: mobobuff
I'm sorry, but the dental dam looks absolutely ridiculous.
So does herpes and chlamydia.

Which I wouldn't get if I started laughing hysterically and then just asked for a handjob during a good movie.

Unfortunately, the only thing between looking ridiculous with chlamydia and having a "happy ending" is the bolded word up there.
The even sadder thing is that most guys will pass chlamydia on to females they're having sex with and they'll pass it on past that. Then it all kind of spreads itself around everybody. Most guys don't know they have chlamydia until they're told by a sex partner.
 

mobobuff

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Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: mobobuff
I'm sorry, but the dental dam looks absolutely ridiculous.
So does herpes and chlamydia.

Which I wouldn't get if I started laughing hysterically and then just asked for a handjob during a good movie.

Unfortunately, the only thing between looking ridiculous with chlamydia and having a "happy ending" is the bolded word up there.

You lost me after unfortunately.

And trust me, the joy I'd get from such a good laugh would make up for the lack of any "happy ending". The only "DD" I want to see is in my date's bra. Dental dam. Please. *

* Disclaimer: I'm attempting to be a jackass, I'm not really this shallow. But I'm still laughing at this idea. If anything ruins the whole point of a sexual encounter, it's over-engineered concepts like this. But if it makes me look more humble, I haven't had any sexual encounters in months. :(
 

hzl eyed grl

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Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: mobobuff
I'm sorry, but the dental dam looks absolutely ridiculous.
So does herpes and chlamydia.

Which I wouldn't get if I started laughing hysterically and then just asked for a handjob during a good movie.

Unfortunately, the only thing between looking ridiculous with chlamydia and having a "happy ending" is the bolded word up there.

You lost me after unfortunately.

And trust me, the joy I'd get from such a good laugh would make up for the lack of any "happy ending". The only "DD" I want to see is in my date's bra. Dental dam. Please. *

* Disclaimer: I'm attempting to be a jackass, I'm not really this shallow. But I'm still laughing at this idea. If anything ruins the whole point of a sexual encounter, it's over-engineered concepts like this. But if it makes me look more humble, I haven't had any sexual encounters in months. :(

lol I wasn't sure if that was clear enough. What I meant was that you said IF you laughed and had her give you a hj. IF. The other way is just getting a bj without a condom. (Okay, I'm losing myself here. It's late and I didn't get much sleep last night. lol)
 

mobobuff

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Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: mobobuff
I'm sorry, but the dental dam looks absolutely ridiculous.
So does herpes and chlamydia.

Which I wouldn't get if I started laughing hysterically and then just asked for a handjob during a good movie.

Unfortunately, the only thing between looking ridiculous with chlamydia and having a "happy ending" is the bolded word up there.

You lost me after unfortunately.

And trust me, the joy I'd get from such a good laugh would make up for the lack of any "happy ending". The only "DD" I want to see is in my date's bra. Dental dam. Please. *

* Disclaimer: I'm attempting to be a jackass, I'm not really this shallow. But I'm still laughing at this idea. If anything ruins the whole point of a sexual encounter, it's over-engineered concepts like this. But if it makes me look more humble, I haven't had any sexual encounters in months. :(

lol I wasn't sure if that was clear enough. What I meant was that you said IF you laughed and had her give you a hj. IF. The other way is just getting a bj without a condom. (Okay, I'm losing myself here. It's late and I didn't get much sleep last night. lol)

It's okay, I'm about to ah heck off too. I'd be alright with a bj with a condom on, if that was what she wanted, although it probably wouldn't be fun for either of us, as she would taste the latex, and I wouldn't reach a climax for a long long time, which would just be awkward and annoying for her, what with the taste and mouth exhaustion. If it was foreplay, that would be alright, only mildly pointless. I'd imagine the latex taste would still be there even with flavored condoms.
 

hzl eyed grl

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Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Originally posted by: mobobuff
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: mobobuff
I'm sorry, but the dental dam looks absolutely ridiculous.
So does herpes and chlamydia.

Which I wouldn't get if I started laughing hysterically and then just asked for a handjob during a good movie.

Unfortunately, the only thing between looking ridiculous with chlamydia and having a "happy ending" is the bolded word up there.

You lost me after unfortunately.

And trust me, the joy I'd get from such a good laugh would make up for the lack of any "happy ending". The only "DD" I want to see is in my date's bra. Dental dam. Please. *

* Disclaimer: I'm attempting to be a jackass, I'm not really this shallow. But I'm still laughing at this idea. If anything ruins the whole point of a sexual encounter, it's over-engineered concepts like this. But if it makes me look more humble, I haven't had any sexual encounters in months. :(

lol I wasn't sure if that was clear enough. What I meant was that you said IF you laughed and had her give you a hj. IF. The other way is just getting a bj without a condom. (Okay, I'm losing myself here. It's late and I didn't get much sleep last night. lol)

It's okay, I'm about to ah heck off too. I'd be alright with a bj with a condom on, if that was what she wanted, although it probably wouldn't be fun for either of us, as she would taste the latex, and I wouldn't reach a climax for a long long time, which would just be awkward and annoying for her, what with the taste and mouth exhaustion. If it was foreplay, that would be alright, only mildly pointless. I'd imagine the latex taste would still be there even with flavored condoms.
Yeah, somewhat. Agreed that it isn't the most fun, but a lot better than a potential STD. :)
 

aidanjm

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I think the number of dates you have had with someone is kind of irrelevant. She isn't somehow less likely to have hiv or other stds on the 4th date versus the 1st date. The only way you know for sure is if she gets a test, and then get tested again 6 months later. But heterosexual people don't usually do that unless they have entered a relationship.

the various hiv organisations say that the risk of contracting hiv from receiving oral sex is very low (but not zero). unless there is some gaping cut on your genitals, and a bleeding cut or ulcer in the mouth of the person giving you a blow job, it would be a fairly low risk activity (for you) as far as hiv transmission is concerned. but maybe you should go to one of the hiv web sites and read for yourself. or speak with your doctor. I guess there is always a risk for other stds as well.

Personally I don't have a problem with giving or receiving oral sex with no condom with a complete stranger (which is what a 'first date' is). But I guess you have to work out the level of risk you are comfortable with.
 

mobobuff

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Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
Yeah, somewhat. Agreed that it isn't the most fun, but a lot better than a potential STD. :)

Okay, I can certainly agree with that.
 

AntareStar

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Assuming you're talking about getting a bj from your gf then I'd say no condom (you should know your gf well enough, to realize if that's safe).
Any other woman giving you that treatment, I'd use one.
 

DanTMWTMP

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oh god..her breath smelled like latex for the duration of the night... screw that man.

EDIT: growl!!! i pressed vote too fast! :(. i meant to say no, not yet. but then again, to follow up on what other's have said, it is better safe than sorry.
 

hzl eyed grl

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Originally posted by: AntareStar
Assuming you're talking about getting a bj from your gf then I'd say no condom (you should know your gf well enough, to realize if that's safe).
Any other woman giving you that treatment, I'd use one.

Well when you're in a committed relationship and you know you're both clean, I'd agree.