hmmm :(

[pontifex]

So I joined match.com and had a girl email me through the service. said she liked my profile. i emailed her back and we started emailing each other back and forth, just general chit-chat type stuff. She hasn't responded to the last email i sent to her. Now, I know its christmas and the holidays but she also hid her profile, so no one can see it. its not like there's any personal info in the profile either.

so i thinking 2 things could have happened.
pessimistic side: for some reason she decided she didn't want to keep talking to me or wanted to stop me from viewing her profile. why she would do this, i don't know. all our emails were was general conversation type stuff or get to know you type stuff. i didn't ask to meet yet or anything like that.

optimistic side: she really likes me and doesn't want other people contacting her through her profile. one thing she said about my profile was that i was honest in it and she says she was the same way. if thats true, i would think she would say something if she's not interested.

so yeah, i'm kinda worried. i thought i hit it off with this girl. if she hadn't hid her profile i would just think that she wasn't responding because of the holidays. or am i just really overthinking this and it means nothing at all.

 

[scorpmatt]

maybe she had other guys emailing her and crap, stalkers ya know?

 

[KLin]

Move on to the next girl.

 

[Darthvoy]

Or her husband found out and she took it off?

 

[darkxshade]

obligatory pics?

 

[zoiks]

Could be anything. Just prepare yourself for the worst such as that this girl isn't available anymore. Lots of girls also tend to communicate with multiple men concurrently on an online service such as Match.com to find their best match.

If it works out for you then its great. But my advice would be that you do not immerse yourself in that girl alone.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: scorpmatt
maybe she had other guys emailing her and crap, stalkers ya know?

possible...
i'm just kind of disappointed atm because it seemed to be going well so far.

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Or option 3: She found someone else she likes and turned off her profile.

The internet is chock-full of women. Move on...

 

[SilentZero]

Maybe from the little bit she talked to you she decided she didn't want to get to know you more?

Congrats for being rejected by someone you never met!

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: SilentZero
Maybe from the little bit she talked to you she decided she didn't want to get to know you more?

Congrats for being rejected by someone you never met!

gee, thanks for cheering me up...
i think i'm used to rejection by now...its just basically story of my life

 

[zoiks]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: SilentZero
Maybe from the little bit she talked to you she decided she didn't want to get to know you more?

Congrats for being rejected by someone you never met!

gee, thanks for cheering me up...
i think i'm used to rejection by now...its just basically story of my life

You shouldn't think that way. I found my S.O online on Yahoo as well.

 

[pontifex]

well, its been 3 days since i sent my last email. i will wait until after the new year and if she doesn't reply by then, i will email her again and ask whats up and go from there.

 

[Compton]

She might not be a real person. Did you hear about the lawsuit against match.com?

 

[doze]

Don't you have to pay to have a profile up? Maybe she got cheap or forgot to renew

 

[Firebot]

It's either a fake profile done by people paid by match.com, or she simply found a guy she likes and decided to see how that pans out. She went to pick a lobster and simply didn't pick you out of the bunch. Welcome to the wonderful world of online dating.

 

[SuperSix]

Originally posted by: Darthvoy
Or her husband found out and she took it off?

FTW!

 

[Skunkwourk]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: SilentZero
Maybe from the little bit she talked to you she decided she didn't want to get to know you more?

Congrats for being rejected by someone you never met!

gee, thanks for cheering me up...
i think i'm used to rejection by now...its just basically story of my life

Stop saying crap like this and just relax. Online dating is usually hit or miss, but at least there are more to choose from...

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: KLin
Move on to the next girl.

Ayup.


And prepare yourself for that happening again.....a LOT!

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: Compton
She might not be a real person. Did you hear about the lawsuit against match.com?

no, i didn't

i'm pretty sure she's a real person though. she knew stuff about the town she lives in that people who don't live there or or people who don't go there wouldn't know.

not saying that its not possible, but i think its highly unlikely in this case.

 

[sniperruff]

maybe it's some 12-year old kid from match.com baiting you to buy their email points.

 

[Taggart]

Don't get all worked up over this one match. It will probably take a few weeks to get solid prospects.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: KLin
Move on to the next girl.

Ayup.


And prepare yourself for that happening again.....a LOT!

yeah, well, i emailed 3 other girls and none of them have replied yet. of course none of them have logged on for 5 days or more...

and there's a few other girls that i haven't emailed yet but they don't match up too well.

for you people who used match.com, did you email people even if you didn't match up on certain things? i figure if i don't match what they want in their date, there's no sense in contacting them.

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Or option 3: She found someone else she likes and turned off her profile.

The internet is chock-full of women. Move on...

that is what i thought. i would bet that you were not the only person she was emailing with and found someone she liked better.

at least that is how i would look at it if i were i your shoes... and move on... then if it turns out that she was just busy and she contacts you... it will be a nice surprise.

 

[Cattlegod]

it sounds like you messed up by not asking her out after the first email. most likely she didn't feel like waiting for you anymore.

your probably blew it, but after the new year when you email her, if you ask her out in that email on a REAL date - it might work. might be a long shot though.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
it sounds like you messed up by not asking her out after the first email. most likely she didn't feel like waiting for you anymore.

your probably blew it, but after the new year when you email her, if you ask her out in that email on a REAL date - it might work. might be a long shot though.

i didn't want to just jump into it right away. i didn't want to seem too eager or anything, you know?
i'm just gonna wait and contact her later, like i said.