Similar thing happen to me, we even went on date, then one night the phone calls got cold. I talk to her honestly, and she just went cold. If you really like her then stick around but don't have any expectations. Don't get too attach. Just be there in the shadows. Remember, there are other women out there.
johnjohn320
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Originally posted by: bolido2000
I never thought I would do this on ATOT..oh well. I met this girl a couple of weeks ago who goes to my same school and she gave me her cell phone number and AIM SN without me asking for it. She flirt with me all night and kept reminding me to not forget her AIM SN. Ok, the next day I emailed her and ask her if you wanted to have lunch at school sometime during the week, but she never replied my email. Then one day I see her on AIM and we start talking and every thing goes well. One day I called her to her cell phone. I ask her some stupid questions and this and that, but all she kept saying was "hmmm yeah" or "right right" and we kept having those awkward silences. She just wasn't talking for some reason (this conversation lasted 5 min) and I know she is not a shy person.
Then on AIM again she seemed interested in talking with me and everything seems fine. The I called her again and is the same thing! I feel that I am just dragging the conversation so after 5 min I hung up.
I want to ask her out, but I am just wondering if the same thing will happen since we couldn't talk much on the phone.
What do you guys think?
It's a lot easier to talk over AIM to someone than in person or on the phone. Maybe she's shy about talking, but then it's easier with text. I dunno. if you like her, go for it. If not, then don't.
"I never thought I would do this on ATOT..oh well . I met this girl a couple of weeks ago who goes to my same school and she gave me her cell phone number and AIM SN without me asking for it. She flirt with me all night and kept reminding me to not forget her AIM SN. Ok, the next day I emailed her and ask her if you wanted to have lunch at school sometime during the week, but she never replied my email. Then one day I see her on AIM and we start talking and every thing goes well. One day I called her to her cell phone. I ask her some stupid questions and this and that, but all she kept saying was 'hmmm yeah' or 'right right' and we kept having those awkward silences. She just wasn't talking for some reason (this conversation lasted 5 min) and I know she is not a shy person."
Uhmmmm . . . interesting. At first it would seem that she's interested in you. But then comes the other. My guess is, you think that you know her well enough but you don't? Some people seem gutsy at the surface, but when you try to get close to them they shy away. It is also much easier to talk via the internet than it is to strike a conversation over the phone. Some people are better writers than orators.
Uhmm . . . she definitely expects you to initiate and lead the conversation over the phone. Try the phone one more time. Don't ask her things that can easily be answered with "yes" or "no". Try a question that requires more than one word or phrase. If in spite of your effort she doesn't open up, then you have only one more recourse: Ask her out. If she says no, then you know the answer. If she isn't straight-forward with you, then forget her and move on with your life. She isn't interested if she's playing so much games when you've approached her straight-forwardly and repeatedly.
Uhmmmm . . . interesting. At first it would seem that she's interested in you. But then comes the other. My guess is, you think that you know her well enough but you don't? Some people seem gutsy at the surface, but when you try to get close to them they shy away. It is also much easier to talk via the internet than it is to strike a conversation over the phone. Some people are better writers than orators.
Uhmm . . . she definitely expects you to initiate and lead the conversation over the phone. Try the phone one more time. Don't ask her things that can easily be answered with "yes" or "no". Try a question that requires more than one word or phrase. If in spite of your effort she doesn't open up, then you have only one more recourse: Ask her out. If she says no, then you know the answer. If she isn't straight-forward with you, then forget her and move on with your life. She isn't interested if she's playing so much games when you've approached her straight-forwardly and repeatedly.
Thanks for the responses
I don't know if she has a bf. My educated guess is she doesn't. She doesn't seem to be the playa type either (might be wrong though)
First time I asked to do lunch with her (AIM) she was in a hurry and she said "ok, we'll talk later". The next day she calls me saying that she can't (it was a good reason). The second time I ask (AIM again) she says she has to study for a test, so she doesn't have time and apologizes many times and says maybe next week. The thing is that her parents usually pick her up Friday afternoon to go home for the weekend. I asked her a long time ago if you would like to go out so time and she said yes. Since she already told me she had to go home I said then maybe the next week. The thing is that she goes home every friggin weekend (parents pick her up). Oh, well...I guess I'll ask one more time to do lunch (there aren't any excuses left). I am just wondering if she thinks I am after her or I am just being friendly.
I don't know if she has a bf. My educated guess is she doesn't. She doesn't seem to be the playa type either (might be wrong though)
First time I asked to do lunch with her (AIM) she was in a hurry and she said "ok, we'll talk later". The next day she calls me saying that she can't (it was a good reason). The second time I ask (AIM again) she says she has to study for a test, so she doesn't have time and apologizes many times and says maybe next week. The thing is that her parents usually pick her up Friday afternoon to go home for the weekend. I asked her a long time ago if you would like to go out so time and she said yes. Since she already told me she had to go home I said then maybe the next week. The thing is that she goes home every friggin weekend (parents pick her up). Oh, well...I guess I'll ask one more time to do lunch (there aren't any excuses left). I am just wondering if she thinks I am after her or I am just being friendly.
MrDudeMan
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Originally posted by: bolido2000
Thanks for the responses
I don't know if she has a bf. My educated guess is she doesn't. She doesn't seem to be the playa type either (might be wrong though)
First time I asked to do lunch with her (AIM) she was in a hurry and she said "ok, we'll talk later". The next day she calls me saying that she can't (it was a good reason). The second time I ask (AIM again) she says she has to study for a test, so she doesn't have time and apologizes many times and says maybe next week. The thing is that her parents usually pick her up Friday afternoon to go home for the weekend. I asked her a long time ago if you would like to go out so time and she said yes. Since she already told me she had to go home I said then maybe the next week. The thing is that she goes home every friggin weekend (parents pick her up). Oh, well...I guess I'll ask one more time to do lunch (there aren't any excuses left). I am just wondering if she thinks I am after her or I am just being friendly.
just dont make her feel like you are stalking her. i think you will be fine as long as you dont bother her.
but, like you said, ask her 1 more time and then that would probably do it for me also. if you have already resorted to asking for help online, its probably almost too late for this one and you need to hurry up and get it over with.
"First time I asked to do lunch with her (AIM) she was in a hurry and she said "ok, we'll talk later". The next day she calls me saying that she can't (it was a good reason). The second time I ask (AIM again) she says she has to study for a test, so she doesn't have time and apologizes many times and says maybe next week. The thing is that her parents usually pick her up Friday afternoon to go home for the weekend. I asked her a long time ago if you would like to go out so time and she said yes. Since she already told me she had to go home I said then maybe the next week. The thing is that she goes home every friggin weekend (parents pick her up). Oh, well...I guess I'll ask one more time to do lunch (there aren't any excuses left). I am just wondering if she thinks I am after her or I am just being friendly."
Okay, Bolido2000, frankly, when a girl finds every excuses in the world not to go on a date with you, she's simply not interested. And she's enjoying you chasing her like that. You didn't say all of these things earlier. Had you said it earlier, I would have told you to start looking elsewhere. Girls who're really interested in a guy make room, even if they're very busy people. My guess is, she was probably interested in you at some point, but she's no longer interested. And she probably enjoys leading you on 'cuz it sounds like she is doing that. If you really care for something real, stop hoping. Wait for the next and actual person to come your way.
Okay, Bolido2000, frankly, when a girl finds every excuses in the world not to go on a date with you, she's simply not interested. And she's enjoying you chasing her like that. You didn't say all of these things earlier. Had you said it earlier, I would have told you to start looking elsewhere. Girls who're really interested in a guy make room, even if they're very busy people. My guess is, she was probably interested in you at some point, but she's no longer interested. And she probably enjoys leading you on 'cuz it sounds like she is doing that. If you really care for something real, stop hoping. Wait for the next and actual person to come your way.
Bwahahahahaha!!! You guys are so cruel, lol.
Move on man. Shes making excuses, and if she wasn't she would be the one trying to make contact with you. I know its hard seeing this view andI highly doubt you'll take the advice because you don't want to... But oh well, live and learn.
johnjohn320
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here is what I see...
She is using you as just "someone" to talk to, when the rest of her time isn't being occupied..
with her short responses on the phone, and very limited talking.. you are most likely calling her at a time when she is probably busy, and doesn't want to say much, and seem friendly (The real boyfriend MOST likely there with her)..
and, when you talk to her online, on AIM, thats pretty much when she doesn't have nothing to do at all, and is bored, boyfriend not there as well.. so, she is thinking.. "what the heck, this guy is online; i'll just talk to him".. blah blah...
She is using you as just "someone" to talk to, when the rest of her time isn't being occupied..
with her short responses on the phone, and very limited talking.. you are most likely calling her at a time when she is probably busy, and doesn't want to say much, and seem friendly (The real boyfriend MOST likely there with her)..
and, when you talk to her online, on AIM, thats pretty much when she doesn't have nothing to do at all, and is bored, boyfriend not there as well.. so, she is thinking.. "what the heck, this guy is online; i'll just talk to him".. blah blah...
Well the first time she said she got to her apt and she has no reception there (Cingular).
I usually when I call she is with her parents.
I usually when I call she is with her parents.
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