Hmmm So I have a girl question...

[bolido2000]

I never thought I would do this on ATOT..oh well . I met this girl a couple of weeks ago who goes to my same school and she gave me her cell phone number and AIM SN without me asking for it. She flirt with me all night and kept reminding me to not forget her AIM SN. Ok, the next day I emailed her and ask her if you wanted to have lunch at school sometime during the week, but she never replied my email. Then one day I see her on AIM and we start talking and every thing goes well. One day I called her to her cell phone. I ask her some stupid questions and this and that, but all she kept saying was "hmmm yeah" or "right right" and we kept having those awkward silences. She just wasn't talking for some reason (this conversation lasted 5 min) and I know she is not a shy person.
Then on AIM again she seemed interested in talking with me and everything seems fine. The I called her again and is the same thing! I feel that I am just dragging the conversation so after 5 min I hung up.
I want to ask her out, but I am just wondering if the same thing will happen since we couldn't talk much on the phone.
What do you guys think?

 

[bmacd]

she sounds like a friend. Don't take it any further. Otherwise, she's a dick tease and A) too good for you or b) not worth your time.

-=bmacd=-

edit: why must every kid here try and make more of something that was never there in the first place? Crimony...she was probably looking for friendship...now you've lopped onto her like a bad trout smell and she can't get rid of you. You've probably already blown it.

 

[her209]

she's involving you in her evil plot. run as far as you can.

 

[eakers]

she is actually bi-sexual and screeing you for a threesome with her and her girlfriend.

 

[woodie1]

Her actions lead me to believe she is leading you on. Don't expect the relationship with her to improve.

 

[Deeko]

I'm not saying she is looking to take this any farther, but its quite possible that she is just shy, like you said. Shy people are able to be much more open on electronic mediums of communication.

 

[lilFajita]

I can kind of see what Deeko is saying, but on the same note, people are often friendlier than they mean to be on IM because it is easier. You can carry on a conversation without really concentrating. And anyway, how will a date be with someone with which you can't even carry on a decent phone conversation?

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: lilFajita
I can kind of see what Deeko is saying, but on the same note, people are often friendlier than they mean to be on IM because it is easier. You can carry on a conversation without really concentrating. And anyway, how will a date be with someone with which you can't even carry on a decent phone conversation?

Agreed.

 

[Deeko]

That's true, but often as they become more comfortable with that person things get easier in person/on the phone. Not always though.

 

[Gnurb]

She probably was just nervous. You'll never know unless you keep trying, and be confident. Watch the movie Rodger Dodger

 

[bolido2000]

Well...My first impression is that she is not shy, but I don't know her that well.
Ok..the reason I though something could happen was:

She gave me her cell number out of the blue.
Someone gave us a flyer to a party outside the club and she was like "so when are we going together to this party? You are going to invite me right?
On AIM she said "I need to go now, but I want to talk to you so bad"

Maybe I am just imagining things

 

[bolido2000]

Originally posted by: tdas2
Cut the chase - do something but this time ask her in person ?

Well...I asked her to do lunch a couple of times but she is always busy. If I ask her out it would be then.

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: bolido2000

Originally posted by: tdas2
Cut the chase - do something but this time ask her in person ?

Well...I asked her to do lunch a couple of times but she is always busy. If I ask her out it would be then.

what makes you think she wants anything more than friendship with you? She was just being nice and friendly. Don't blow what's left of your dignity and make a fool of yourself. You're jumping the gun first.

-=bmacd=-

 

[bolido2000]

Originally posted by: woodie1
Her actions lead me to believe she is leading you on. Don't expect the relationship with her to improve.

I think you are right.

 

[BD231]

Originally posted by: bolido2000
I never thought I would do this on ATOT..oh well . I met this girl a couple of weeks ago who goes to my same school and she gave me her cell phone number and AIM SN without me asking for it. She flirt with me all night and kept reminding me to not forget her AIM SN. Ok, the next day I emailed her and ask her if you wanted to have lunch at school sometime during the week, but she never replied my email. Then one day I see her on AIM and we start talking and every thing goes well. One day I called her to her cell phone. I ask her some stupid questions and this and that, but all she kept saying was "hmmm yeah" or "right right" and we kept having those awkward silences. She just wasn't talking for some reason (this conversation lasted 5 min) and I know she is not a shy person.
Then on AIM again she seemed interested in talking with me and everything seems fine. The I called her again and is the same thing! I feel that I am just dragging the conversation so after 5 min I hung up.
I want to ask her out, but I am just wondering if the same thing will happen since we couldn't talk much on the phone.
What do you guys think?

Never take an e-mail address and cell phone number as anything other than what they are, an easy way to screen the people trying to get hold of you. She could be crushing on you, or she's a complete b*tch leading you on. Be yourself, don't ask why she's acting funny, and try to set up a get together. If it works out it works out, just remember you have nothing to loose .

 

[LuNoTiCK]

Originally posted by: bolido2000

Originally posted by: tdas2
Cut the chase - do something but this time ask her in person ?

Well...I asked her to do lunch a couple of times but she is always busy. If I ask her out it would be then.

Just forget about her, not worth your time. If anything let her ask you out.

 

[bolido2000]

Originally posted by: bmacd

Originally posted by: bolido2000

Originally posted by: tdas2
Cut the chase - do something but this time ask her in person ?

Well...I asked her to do lunch a couple of times but she is always busy. If I ask her out it would be then.

what makes you think she wants anything more than friendship with you? She was just being nice and friendly. Don't blow what's left of your dignity and make a fool of yourself. You're jumping the gun first.

-=bmacd=-

Maybe you are right...but it would just be lunch. If she doesn't seem interested I would just keep my mouth shut. If I don't try I would never know. I have experience too many times the what-could-have-happened-if....I just don't want history to repeat again

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: BD231
If it works out it works out, just remember you have nothing to loose .

nothing to lose even

-=bmacd=-

 

[eakers]

perhaps she likes you but has a boyfriend and so her confusing actions are the result of her herself being confused.

 

[Deeko]

Originally posted by: tdas2
Cut the chase - do something but this time ask her in person ?

yes...doing relationship-related things online is a cardinal sin :|:disgust::|

 

[bolido2000]

Originally posted by: Deeko

Originally posted by: tdas2
Cut the chase - do something but this time ask her in person ?

yes...doing relationship-related things online is a cardinal sin :|:disgust::|

hehe I read your other thread. That was wrong. Sorry about that.

 

[Jfur]

he's already snared :Q

 

[chiwawa626]

I think that she mite just be intrested as a friend. Try to ask her to goto lunch with a group of friends or something. You don't want to come off to strong and ask her on a date or something and have her reject you. If it seems like a friendship i wouldnt take it far because once u ask her out and she says no, its going to be hard to look at eachother as friends again.

 

She talks like that on the phone because shes with another guy at the time you called.

Don't bother.

 

[bizmark]

very strange, mixed signals. Ask her to lunch again, but don't specify a time, just say "let's do lunch sometime this week, when would be best for you?" or better yet, figure out a time when you *know* she isn't doing anything (this could involve quite a bit of legwork on your part) and ask her to do something then.