that's some interesting logic... so because she didn't press charges against him, she doesn't want help? i think many domestic abuse victims might tell you differently. if what mith said is true, the boyfriend should be warned at very least.
My logic comes from my personal experiences. Nothing more nothing less.
I saw my mother beaten several times while I was growing up. She had 3 well built brothers that were more than capable of handling the situation but she continued to go back to my father.
The last straw for me was a different situation.
I had a female friend that was dating/ living with a guy for 2/3 years. Late in their relationship she had let on that he had a temper and over the last couple of months that I was in contact with them she would often call me crying with this guy screaming at her in the background. Apparently he was regularly taking out whatever frustrations he had on her face too because she started to turn into one big bruise.
Anyway, I always told her to call the police but she claimed she would "work it out". I think she was afraid to be on her own.
The last time I talked directly to her she called me on the phone crying and pleading for me to come over because he was beating the hell out of her. I heard him in the background say something to the effect of "hang up the phone you stupid bitch!" and the line went dead.
Like a dumba$$ I went over there. He was pissed because I came, she was bleeding from the mouth and nose and things went WAY out of control from there. Both myself and the BF wound up going to the hospital.
While we were being checked out at the hospital my "friend"
told the police that I had come over and attacked her and that her BF had been trying to defend her!
I was arrested, charged, and
convicted of assault when this "friend" looked right in my face in court and testified against me.
Was I mad? Not at the time. I was depressed and near suicidal. I had never been so hurt in my entire life.
So I repeat. If she won't help herself than stay away.