imported_Tomato
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My little sister just called me crying... she's 17 years old, a senior in HS, and enrolled in a new high school the second semester of her junior year (last year) because my family moved. It was a difficult transition for her, and she didn't make any new friends the few months she was there last year... this year, it looks just as bleak. She's observed everyone is established as friends. She's the outsider, and everyone has their "set" friends already (and have the "why are you talking to me?" attitude when she tries to say hi).
I think my sister's a pretty girl... she's sweet, funny, and kind-hearted... just very shy, and intimidated by the people at this new school. She's one of two Asians in her entire senior class (uppity upper-class mostly white-Texas high school), and tried talking to the other Asian kid but apparently he's one of the "weird/super-competitive types" (she asked him what colleges he was applying to, and he said he wouldn't tell her because if he told her and she applied to them, she would be competition for him... those types of kids make me sick, but anyway).
School started recently, and she's been eating lunch alone in the library. All she really wants is a few friends... to talk to, spend time with, be social with, eat lunch with, etc. The basics. And apparently everyone's already established in their little cliques (ugh, I HATED high school), and her shyness doesn't help.
I asked her if she could join some sports teams, but she said she's not good enough for Varsity, and the school doesn't allow seniors to join Junior Varsity teams. So sports aren't an option. She's going to try to join other clubs, but says everyone's already established their groups of friends in those, too... all she does now is go to school, come back home, go online (her only form of social interaction is there... with strangers, and friends from her old school), do her homework, and go to sleep.
For anyone in a similar situation, or with a sibling or friend who's been in a similar situation... what have they done to make friends? And how did they cope until then?
(if anyone lives near Plano/Frisco, TX and would like to be my little sister's friend, PM me)
I think my sister's a pretty girl... she's sweet, funny, and kind-hearted... just very shy, and intimidated by the people at this new school. She's one of two Asians in her entire senior class (uppity upper-class mostly white-Texas high school), and tried talking to the other Asian kid but apparently he's one of the "weird/super-competitive types" (she asked him what colleges he was applying to, and he said he wouldn't tell her because if he told her and she applied to them, she would be competition for him... those types of kids make me sick, but anyway).
School started recently, and she's been eating lunch alone in the library. All she really wants is a few friends... to talk to, spend time with, be social with, eat lunch with, etc. The basics. And apparently everyone's already established in their little cliques (ugh, I HATED high school), and her shyness doesn't help.
I asked her if she could join some sports teams, but she said she's not good enough for Varsity, and the school doesn't allow seniors to join Junior Varsity teams. So sports aren't an option. She's going to try to join other clubs, but says everyone's already established their groups of friends in those, too... all she does now is go to school, come back home, go online (her only form of social interaction is there... with strangers, and friends from her old school), do her homework, and go to sleep.
For anyone in a similar situation, or with a sibling or friend who's been in a similar situation... what have they done to make friends? And how did they cope until then?
(if anyone lives near Plano/Frisco, TX and would like to be my little sister's friend, PM me)
