stev0,
First of all, just ignore all the rude people here. I've heard all of it myself posting things like this.
I'd say a few things... first, forget about her as something more than a friend. It ain't gonna happen.
Next, when you're with a girl, don't spend a lot of time thinking about what you do. (Initially, that is... once you are where you want to be, you can change that.)
Think about it this way: which would be worse... (a) you get a girl very angry with you for touching her or kissing her and she never wants to speak to you again (highly unlikely) or (b) you never make a move and post your desparation on an internet forum?
She's not going to ask you out... you have to ask her out.
What else can I say... don't be afraid to practice on every girl you know. Become good at flirting casually and then lay it on when you find someone you really like.
Don't second guess yourself... eg. last week I gave a comforting touch to this girl because and she recoiled... I thought that she was trying to tell me she didn't like it, but when I asked her about it it turns out she was still angry with me (we were in a bit of a fight earlier) and she was just demonstrating that fact.
This is my personal advice and I'm not 100% sure it works all the time, but try to sound like you know what the heck you're talking about -- that you have experience. And I don't mean physics formulae. I think this is part of the reason why it's easier to get younger girls than same age or older. Younger girls are more easily impressed if you have some experience with alcohol or clubbing or racing down the main street with your buddies... or anything that could be interpreted to that girl as being a bit wild.
Despite the fact that some girls might seem timid and helpless, they will love you if you show them some fun and excitement. For example imagine how much fun it was when my best friend and I raced each other home, each of us with a girl in the passenger seat. I beat him.
It makes for a good story later, too. *Don't try this at home, I take no responsibility, lol*
Definitely complement girls as much as possible. If you feel uncomfortable in the 'aftermath' of a compliment, lighten it up a bit. "You smell so good!" ... silence might follow so try throwing in "how do you do that, anyway?!" Know the right time to do it though... I screwed up a few days ago at breakfast and complimented a girl when there were other guys and girls around. It has to be in a more controlled social environment (i.e. just the two of you)
First of all, just ignore all the rude people here. I've heard all of it myself posting things like this.
I'd say a few things... first, forget about her as something more than a friend. It ain't gonna happen.
Next, when you're with a girl, don't spend a lot of time thinking about what you do. (Initially, that is... once you are where you want to be, you can change that.)
Think about it this way: which would be worse... (a) you get a girl very angry with you for touching her or kissing her and she never wants to speak to you again (highly unlikely) or (b) you never make a move and post your desparation on an internet forum?
She's not going to ask you out... you have to ask her out.
What else can I say... don't be afraid to practice on every girl you know. Become good at flirting casually and then lay it on when you find someone you really like.
Don't second guess yourself... eg. last week I gave a comforting touch to this girl because and she recoiled... I thought that she was trying to tell me she didn't like it, but when I asked her about it it turns out she was still angry with me (we were in a bit of a fight earlier) and she was just demonstrating that fact.
This is my personal advice and I'm not 100% sure it works all the time, but try to sound like you know what the heck you're talking about -- that you have experience. And I don't mean physics formulae. I think this is part of the reason why it's easier to get younger girls than same age or older. Younger girls are more easily impressed if you have some experience with alcohol or clubbing or racing down the main street with your buddies... or anything that could be interpreted to that girl as being a bit wild.
Despite the fact that some girls might seem timid and helpless, they will love you if you show them some fun and excitement. For example imagine how much fun it was when my best friend and I raced each other home, each of us with a girl in the passenger seat. I beat him.
It makes for a good story later, too. *Don't try this at home, I take no responsibility, lol*Definitely complement girls as much as possible. If you feel uncomfortable in the 'aftermath' of a compliment, lighten it up a bit. "You smell so good!" ... silence might follow so try throwing in "how do you do that, anyway?!" Know the right time to do it though... I screwed up a few days ago at breakfast and complimented a girl when there were other guys and girls around. It has to be in a more controlled social environment (i.e. just the two of you)
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