Help: Friendship Advice

[virtueixi]

Well early April me and a friend are driving down to miami from new york (1300 miles each way) for spring break. We have been friends since JHS up till now: 2nd term college. Since about I started college I lost touch with one of our other friends and haven't spoken to him whats so ever in 8 months. He didn't even visit me at college, I called him right before I moved (only 60 miles) and he said that when I start college that would probably be it and we wouldnt really be hanging out anymore.

We didn't speak online or anything. The friend that i'm going down there with keeps occasional contact with him but its not a close relationship by any means. So during a converstation the lost contact friend tells my current friend that he was really offended that we didn't invite him and that we talked about road trips since JHS and said that he would like to go.

This person takes drugs and I am concerned that he might flip out or bring some with him. He took drugs before but only small stuff like weed and stuff. Now he takes prescription drugs and LSD and I havent seen him in so long, so I dont know how its effected his personality/mental state. Do you guys think we should let him go? I feel bad because we were really good friends at one point. I don't know what to do.:frown:

 

[Yossarian]

there's something about a solid block of text that makes it so inviting and readable.

 

[virtueixi]

Originally posted by: Yossarian
there's something about a solid block of text that makes it so inviting and readable.

Hope this helps.

 

[deejayshakur]

Originally posted by: Yossarian
there's something about a solid block of text that makes it so inviting and readable.

where's your sensitive side?

i think that if you want to take a last shot at recovering the friendship, it's now. talk to him about his drug problem, the old days, etc., and see how he responds. then go from there. sometimes you just have to take the initiative, especially if the other guy's too high to do it. let us know what happens.

 

[tweakmm]

Not prescription drugs and LSD!:Q
I would stay as far away from him as I could, who knows when he'll snap and kill somebody. He might even try to rape you. You should definetly forbid him from going because it would be simply horrible if he brought drugs on a road trip.

 

[virtueixi]

Dee, the thing is if I talked to him and then decided, it would be pretty obvious that I'd be like judging/evaluating him. I think I have to decide now and tell him. It would be cool to become friends again but I don't know if he just wants to go to Florida or high on drugs. I mean if he wanted to we could of hung out at anytime. I just don't want to take the chance that he would ruin our vacation.

Tweak, lol I hope he doesn't try and rape anybody.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

If you want his company then invite him. But don't invite him out of guilt. You'll resent him for it.

 

[tweakmm]

Originally posted by: virtueixi
Dee, the thing is if I talked to him and then decided, it would be pretty obvious that I'd be like judging/evaluating him. I think I have to decide now and tell him. It would be cool to become friends again but I don't know if he just wants to go to Florida or high on drugs. I mean if he wanted to we could of hung out at anytime. I just don't want to take the chance that he would ruin our vacation.

You sound like a great friend, I can't imagine why he didn't want to see you after you started college.

 

[virtueixi]

Originally posted by: tweakmm

Originally posted by: virtueixi
Dee, the thing is if I talked to him and then decided, it would be pretty obvious that I'd be like judging/evaluating him. I think I have to decide now and tell him. It would be cool to become friends again but I don't know if he just wants to go to Florida or high on drugs. I mean if he wanted to we could of hung out at anytime. I just don't want to take the chance that he would ruin our vacation.

You sound like a great friend, I can't imagine why he didn't want to see you after you started college.

Thx, that means a lot. I'm going to sleep on it and hopefully I'll be able to come up with some sort of decision.

 

[IBuyUFO]

Ok, so if you can't judge/decide or whatever then I'll do it for you. If it was my trip I would never ever bring a druggie with me. If I found out he had drugs during the trip I'd kick him out in the middle of the road. Tell him the tribe has spoken and he has been voted out of the trip

 

[caitlion]

ok since you didnt get the sarcasm from the other people here you go, translated:

you are retarded and probably live a very sheltered life to think that acid and prescription drugs can be so dangerous.

this guy was smart to stop talking to you.

 

[TitanDiddly]

No. Drugs = bad.

 

[Azraele]

I wouldn't. Posting what you did shows that you have some concern. Drugs are not cool, and I would stay way if I were you.

Also, let me give you an example. Suppose you get stopped for speeding. Suppose he's got his drugs stashed under his seat or on his person. Trip turns sour.

 

[Rufio]

drugs = bad news.

cut him off. druggie friends suck.

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: caitlion

you are retarded and probably live a very sheltered life to think that acid and prescription drugs can be so dangerous.

Bah! That's the funniest thing that I've heard in a while. Prescription drugs and acid aren't harmful? Riiiiiiiight - keep telling yourself that.




You haven't talked to him in 8 months for a reason. You've outgrown each other and are moving in different directions. This is common and normal. You will have different friends at different stages in your life. If it was me, I would not invite him. Like someone else said, an invitation out of guilt isn't good.

 

[Aharami]

dont invite. how about a poll?

have fun on your trip. miami is A LOT of fun!!! explore the clubs too.

and since you are driving there, go to ft. lauderdale one night. really good party scene....LOTS of hot (classy) chicks. but beware...the place is not cheap.

also check out Key Biscayne. one of the nicest beaches Ive seen (next to cancun)

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: caitlion

you are retarded and probably live a very sheltered life to think that acid and prescription drugs can be so dangerous.

Bah! That's the funniest thing that I've heard in a while. Prescription drugs and acid aren't harmful? Riiiiiiiight - keep telling yourself that.




You haven't talked to him in 8 months for a reason. You've outgrown each other and are moving in different directions. This is common and normal. You will have different friends at different stages in your life. If it was me, I would not invite him. Like someone else said, an invitation out of guilt isn't good.

Ditto.

And caitlion thats just not very smart.

I'd rather not take risks like that on trips with a guy on lsd and prescribed drugs coming along. I don't care what other people do but when they are with me then I care for myself and others with me.

Call him up and chat. See how he responds. If he seems interested in being friends again then go for it. If not you could try again some other time or see if he calls you or message etc. If he doesn't then he probably doesn't care too much about the friendship.

I had the same situation. I didn't sweat it. I knew that the friends that were closer would keepin contact. We keep in contact still. I call them when I am free and they call me.

Hope it works out.

Koing

 

[skull]

Bring him and drop some acid with him its good stuff you will probably like it.

 

[virtueixi]

After a good nights sleep, I've pretty much decided that we shouldn't let him go. Thanks for your advice everyone it was quite helpful minus caitlion:disgust:. It pretty much comes down to the drugs and the fact that he most likely isn't interested in the friendship so much as the trip. So when it comes down to it I think bringing him can only bring bad things to the trip and few if any good things.

Aharami, we are definitly going to ft. Laudurdale and the keys, should be a blast!

Thanks again all!