Hell is pleasing other people.

[Braznor]

I hate pleasing other people. Shoot me already.

And No, you can't please them with a BJ

 

[Darwin333]

You can please me with a BJ.

 

[Ken g6]

Depends on the people.

Edit: Re: the title

 

[shortylickens]

I actually like eating pussy.

 

[pcgeek11]

I actually like eating pussy.

So, you are a cannibal.

 

[highland145]

So, you are a cannibal.

Nope. He's on a life long diet.

 

[pete6032]

And No, you can't please them with a BJ

Sounds like you need to work on your BJ skills, then.

 

[nakedfrog]

Sounds like you need to work on your BJ skills, then.

I think ATOT can pull together and help him out with this. Practice makes perfect, right?

 

[FeuerFrei]

Try thinking of it as "doing it right" or "finishing the task." Don't get hung up on the idea that you're "pleasing other people." Sure it's a hassle. And maybe you would've quit by now. But people can't help it if your work is unsatisfactory.

 

[snoopy7548]

Didn't you sleep with a married woman?

 

[Darwin333]

Didn't you sleep with a married woman?

Sounds like he tried to please the husband with a BJ and it didn't work out for him.

 

[Kaido]

I hate pleasing other people. Shoot me already.

Try thinking of it as "doing it right" or "finishing the task." Don't get hung up on the idea that you're "pleasing other people." Sure it's a hassle. And maybe you would've quit by now. But people can't help it if your work is unsatisfactory.

I think it's important to choose where to draw the line, on a personal level. I got a little too caught up in the Hackintosh scene a number of years ago & got burnt out at one point (sorry again guys!). It was a fun project, but there's a difference between being a people-pleaser & being a contributor to an endeavor in proper moderation. I tend to get overly-focused on projects, so it's an easy trap for me to fall in, and I'm very project-oriented...I loathe being bored, and I really enjoy getting plugged into a project, either by myself or with a good, motivated group of people, because it makes it so much more fun.

Like FeuerFrei said, one aspect of managing that is completing your work & doing a good job on it, so that you know you're covered responsibility-wise. After that, there's a difference between being a cold-hearted, self-centered person who only looks out for #1 & being a people-pleaser who never puts your own priorities first - both of which are kind of opposite ends of the spectrum - and you have think about where you want to land on the spectrum between those two things, because without people making great contributions, we wouldn't have awesome stuff, whether they're hobby-driven open-source stuff (PFsense, FreeNAS, Linux, etc.) or business-driven stuff like Chrome, or any of the amazing inventions that benefit the world, whether it's food creations or technology or vehicles or medicine or whatever. Perhaps a better example is filmmaking. To some extent, you need to do people-pleasing in order to make a product that your target audience wants to see, but you also have to put your own take on things to make it a good movie & not just another Hollywood formula movie or box-office bomb, so there's a balance required.

I think it's important to get to the point where you question & think about where on that spectrum you want to be, from say a scale of Martin Shkreli to Kenneth Parcell, so that who you are & how you choose to behave is clearly defined, both to you yourself as well as to others, so that you can learn where to draw the line with other people. There are people, companies, and causes that will suck the life out of you, if you let them. That's not necessarily a bad thing, as long as you're still prioritizing your needs & wants, but it's easy to get caught up in people-pleasing or in exciting projects or business opportunities or what have you. I love my man Elon Musk, who is out there trying to save the planet (or at least doing a good job pretending to!), but he's been through three wives so far, has six kids, and appears to live at work. Sometimes it's projects, sometimes it's a job (re: Cat's in the cradle song), sometimes it's a relationship, etc. A lot of us have been in relationships where we give & the other person takes & we just end up used. Anyway, I don't know if that's the angle you were posting about, but I think it's good to go through a crappy experience in order to trigger the thinking required to help us mature & figure out what we really want & who we really want to be. For me, that is apparently 50,000 posts on ATOT

 

[DietDrThunder]

I hate pleasing other people. Shoot me already.

And No, you can't please them with a BJ

So who is forcing you to please them? Your boss? Co-workers? Friends? Family? All of the above?