heart broken..

[bootymac]

hey...well, about 15 minutes ago, i just got off the phone with a really close friend of mine and i was starting to like her a lot...here's how it went:
we just talked about stuff in high school, then, she said: you know who im starting to like now? and i was like: score! she describes him: chinese, spiked black hair, same homeroom, went to same elementary with her, and so on. I was like, holy sh!t, that's just like me! I listed some names and then i said: uh...i have spiked black hair...here's what she saiad that killed me: "Naw, i can tell you its not you for sure!" bang #1. i felt like my whole family died there. then, holding in my sadness, i ask her who then. she makes me guess, and a reason why. she has told a lot of stuff before but what! you making me guess now and a reason too? bang #2.that pissed me off more. eventually, she tells me, and i find out its one of my friends. bang #3. that made me extremely pissed off. i was about to hang up on her, then she says: "you know what?" "what?"...................(no speaking)......................i say "well?!" with a pissed off tone, and she said: "hold on...daria's on..havnt seen it for soo long." bang #4. i said: "you wanna tell me now? im getting really fvcking bored now" with an even more pissed off tone. she says: "your bored?" "yes!" "hah! that's for what happened earlier*!" bang #6. then i so so pissed off and sad at that time, i just ended it like this: "you know what? im just gonna talk to you some other day" and just hung up. bang #7. I was so sad i would've cried, but i didnt. I took at long hot bath, and thought about it...then i got soap in my eyes and now they hurt! now i feel like crying more... I did a lot of stuff for her and got her out of a lot of trouble...and this is what i get...6 gunshots to my heart. :|:disgust:

*she called me when i was playing an online game, and these little immature brats were pissing me off a lot. I told her that i was really pissed off at that moment so i probably wont say much.

what should i do? say sorry? or just forget about her? and i need some serious replies guys, i've never felt this bad in my life.

 

[Cattlegod]

<< what should i do? say sorry? or just forget about her? and i need some serious replies guys, i've never felt this bad in my life. >>




just forget about her.

she said she was interested in your friend, not you. find something that will take your mind off of her and spend some time doing that thing. like they say... time heals all wounds.

 

[rangeLife]

time heals all wounds.

EDIT: same advice, same time! freaky....

 

[brxndxn]

Don't act interested in her at all - and don't fvcking let her know you like her. Treat her with 10% less respect than you think is rational and she'll start to act interested. Treat yourself like you're an order of magnitude better than her. It ALWAYS works. Don't ask why.

 

[GoldenGuppy]

<< "Naw, i can tell you its not you for sure!" >>



OUCH at least she wasn't being straight out w/ it, right? [/b]




<< . i felt like my whole family died there. then, holding in my sadness, >>



No girl can make you feel as bad as a family's death... trust me, family should come first in everybody's book, and no matter how much you like ONE girl, you will always LOVE your family 1000 times more (well you should )



<< what should i do? say sorry? or just forget about her? and i need some serious replies guys, i've never felt this bad in my life. >>



Say sorry but your mind was preoccupied for the past few days and that you just needed the time to clear up - you should never break up w/ a good friend, they're important - if not now, later in life

I'm sure that she might just be playing games w/ you (that might be a possibility) she might in reality, like you, but just can't come out to say it - I mean if all those traits described you, then you can rest assure that she considers you - in one fashion or another

And hey, if it doesn't work out w/ this girl... there's always others! Besides, you're the BOOTYMAC!

Good luck

><GG>

 

[Ulfwald]

As much as it hurts, you will get over her. Best thing you can do is stay away from her for a while, no contact, etc. Collect yourself, give your heart a chance to recover, then once you do, you will begin to realize that there other women who are just as good, if not better, than she is. Women mess us up big time when we are young, they play games, then wonder why we don't pay attention to them later in life.

 

[Jfur]

Sorry to hear that I know that hurts A LOT! Don't call her back until you feel a little calmer. If being around her is agonizing now, maybe try not to spend too much time with her for now. The worst is over, so just hang on for now.

 

[judgejudy]

started crying? lol how old are you 12?

she obviously knows that you like her... by the tone in your voice when she said it wasn't you...
she's just playin games with you. there is a no win situation out of this...
you tell her that you like her, you lose a friendship.. you stay friends with her, you start liking her even more.
I would just stay away from her for a while... that will help your mind settle, and maybe you'll find someone else you like
distance yourself from her... else there is no way out of this

 

[nd]

Why would she use descriptions that apply to both you and your friend when hinting at who she likes? Most girls are extremely careful about that stuff. Seems to me she was trying to tease you all along..

 

[bootymac]

<< Don't act interested in her at all - and don't fvcking let her know you like her. Treat her with 10% less respect than you think is rational and she'll start to act interested. Treat yourself like you're an order of magnitude better than her. >>


its gonna be hard, 5/8 classes of mine are with her, and our seats are praticaly next to each other...i'll try


<< No girl can make you feel as bad as a family's death... trust me, family should come first in everybody's book, and no matter how much you like ONE girl, you will always LOVE your family 1000 times more (well you should ) >>


yeah..i suppose so.


<< I'm sure that she might just be playing games w/ you (that might be a possibility) she might in reality, like you, but just can't come out to say it - I mean if all those traits described you, then you can rest assure that she considers you - in one fashion or another >>


i hope your right

thanks guys! cheered me up more!
anyone else got any suggestions?

 

[Looney]

First off, if you liked her, you should have made it cleared a long time ago. This stuff of trying to becoming their best friends first, and then hoping they fall in love with you is more Hollywood romance than real life.

Call her right up, and tell her you're sorry about acting like that earlier... tell her you're a little cranky, but you're cranky because you liked her. If she likes you too, then hook up with her. If she doesn't, tell her you're sorry and no hurt feelings, and that you'll get over this and continue to be friends (if you want to).

I see guys try to pull what you did all the time... trying to win their affection by becoming their friends or treating them extremely well, and it never works. Girls don't want the guy to play hard to get, they want somebody to come sweep them off their feet. Confidence is one of the most common traits that women look for in men.

Incidentally, my last relationship was with a friend that became more... but it was never my intention that it was going to be anything more than that. I saw her with other guys, and it didn't bother me, and one day, we decided it was going to be a casual 'sex' thing only... unfortunately, it became much more emotional.

 

[bootymac]

<< started crying? lol how old are you 12? >>


yo, i said i felt like crying, BUT i didnt! and yes, im 12!

 

[bootymac]

im leaning towards gg's and moralpanic's way

GG, YOU ARE MY MESSIAH!
MORALPANIC, YOU ARE MY MESSIAH ALSO!

 

[Looney]

Yeah, i think GG is right... i think she does like you, and she was just 'testing the water' to see what your reaction would be. Go for it and tell her that you like her... and if she really doesn't like you, tell her 'darn, it was worth a shot at least', and that you'll get over it.

 

[bootymac]

well guys, she knows she cant call me this late and the same applies for me , but she sent me a msg over icq:
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hey.......r yoo mad at me? cuz i dunno.........yoo kinda sed sumthin n hung up...........n i wuz still holdin the fone, goin, "what?" n then afta dat.....i wuz jus holdin the fone.........fuh no reason...............s......orry?
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what do u guys think about the msg? (i know its lots of slang, anyone need me to translate?)

and yeah, i told her what that i was sorry and that i liked her.

 

[Jfur]

<< well guys, she knows she cant call me this late and the same applies for me , but she sent me a msg over icq:
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hey.......r yoo mad at me? cuz i dunno.........yoo kinda sed sumthin n hung up...........n i wuz still holdin the fone, goin, "what?" n then afta dat.....i wuz jus holdin the fone.........fuh no reason...............s......orry?
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what do u guys think about the msg? (i know its lots of slang, anyone need me to translate?)

and yeah, i told her what that i was sorry and that i liked her. >>



Did she respond yet???

 

[bootymac]

<< Did she respond yet??? >>


nope
she was offline when i got the msg.
have to wait til tomorrow

edit -
im getting tired, im gonna go sleep now, i'll check all the responds tomorrow morning AND for a msg/phone call
c ya guys, you really helped me a lot today

 

[judgejudy]

omg you actually are 12... hahahahaha

7th grade relationships are pretty funny...
"wanna go to the movies? my mom will pick you up at 8"

relationships at this point in your life don't even matter.
in four years, both you and her will be totally different people, hanging out with
a different crowd then you are now.
Forget what I said before, and just go for it... it can't hurt.. everything will be forgotten
once you hit high school
funny lingo btw...

 

[urameatball]

yah yah I know....



friends suck!

 

[Looney]

Your english is EXCELLENT for 12 years old! Heck, i'm arguing with somebody in the Software forum right now and he claims to have a masters in Psych, and your english is much better than his.

If you hook up with her, teach her how to type properly... all those slangs don't really cut time on typing, and they're annoying as hell to read (and also makes you seem even more immature than you really are).

 

[veryape]

You described the exact situation that happeed to me when I as 13 and trying to score this girl from school. She described him,I thought it was me and then she comes out with "your good friends with Charlie right,ask him if he likes me but don't tell him I like him".......ARGH.

You'll get over it. I did and have a way better looking and acting GF now

 

[Rarr]

Revenge is childlike. Just fail to acknowledge her for a little while. You have obviously personally lost respect for her, so wait and see if she does anything to earn it back.

If you treat her like dirt now, and if she comes around later- you might forget how much she does for you in the future.

It hurts to be treated unworthy.

 

[kami]

<< 7th grade relationships are pretty funny...
"wanna go to the movies? my mom will pick you up at 8" >>


ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!! hahah thanks for making my day


DUDE YOU ARE TWELVE! no wonder she ripped your heart out, she is a CHILD! she doesn't know any better! but if you really want to get over her, find another woman...i mean girl.