He said anyone could tell me why

[Zysoclaplem]

Okay, my ex of 3 years (broke up mid-last year) is living in a house his dad bought him, with his new boyfriend. It's a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom house, with a possible 4th bedroom in the garage. His bf pays rent ($450) a month, and is classified as a "roommate" or a "renter."
I don't care that they are dating, it doesn't bother me.
We actually hang out and I help them with stuff and they help me.
I need a place to go when my lease was up. His dad is all about money, and so I asked if I could take the garage room until I am out of school. It's not attached to the house or anything. It's a completely seperate room on the garage.
If I moved in, I could pay $300 a month, and it would probably drop his bf's rent to $300 as well, as his dad would be making $150 more a month.
My ex says it would be weird. I told him if it should be weird for anyone, it should be weird for me. I just need a place to stay and he has one.
He is my best and only friend here where I live. I get along with him, and his bf.

He told me to ask anyone and they could tell me why it's a bad idea.

 

[JasonK]

Why stir up more drama if he feels its weird? He isnt obligated to rent you a room

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

He told me to ask anyone and they could tell me why it's a bad idea.

Seems like you've gone from 'listening to others' to 'justifying what's best\easiest for you'

I don't think we're going to be able to help you out on this one.

Good luck.

 

[Syringer]

Bad idea.

 

[Ricochet]

If your ex already brought it up that "it would be weird", that means it's not going to be comfortable for him.

You need to find another place.

 

[vtqanh]

Originally posted by: Syringer
Bad idea.

agreed

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

He told me to ask anyone and they could tell me why it's a bad idea.

Seems like you've gone from 'listening to others' to 'justifying what's best\easiest for you'

I don't think we're going to be able to help you out on this one.

Good luck.

Actually I could save hundreds more by moving in with my mom. And it would be easier too.
I would rather live with friends.

 

[sao123]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Okay, my ex of 3 years (broke up mid-last year) is living in a house his dad bought him, with his new boyfriend. It's a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom house, with a possible 4th bedroom in the garage. His bf pays rent ($450) a month, and is classified as a "roommate" or a "renter."
I don't care that they are dating, it doesn't bother me.
We actually hang out and I help them with stuff and they help me.
I need a place to go when my lease was up. His dad is all about money, and so I asked if I could take the garage room until I am out of school. It's not attached to the house or anything. It's a completely seperate room on the garage.
If I moved in, I could pay $300 a month, and it would probably drop his bf's rent to $300 as well, as his dad would be making $150 more a month.
My ex says it would be weird. I told him if it should be weird for anyone, it should be weird for me. I just need a place to stay and he has one.
He is my best and only friend here where I live. I get along with him, and his bf.

He told me to ask anyone and they could tell me why it's a bad idea.

There are plenty of reasons why, each and every one of them would get me banned from here, and getting banned just isnt on my todo list for today.
Today just isnt your day... and tomorrow doesnt look too promising either.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: sao123

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Okay, my ex of 3 years (broke up mid-last year) is living in a house his dad bought him, with his new boyfriend. It's a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom house, with a possible 4th bedroom in the garage. His bf pays rent ($450) a month, and is classified as a "roommate" or a "renter."
I don't care that they are dating, it doesn't bother me.
We actually hang out and I help them with stuff and they help me.
I need a place to go when my lease was up. His dad is all about money, and so I asked if I could take the garage room until I am out of school. It's not attached to the house or anything. It's a completely seperate room on the garage.
If I moved in, I could pay $300 a month, and it would probably drop his bf's rent to $300 as well, as his dad would be making $150 more a month.
My ex says it would be weird. I told him if it should be weird for anyone, it should be weird for me. I just need a place to stay and he has one.
He is my best and only friend here where I live. I get along with him, and his bf.

He told me to ask anyone and they could tell me why it's a bad idea.

There are plenty of reasons why, each and every one of them would get me banned from here, and getting banned just isnt on my todo list for today.
Today just isnt your day... and tomorrow doesnt look too promising either.

That doesn't make any sense but thanks?

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

He told me to ask anyone and they could tell me why it's a bad idea.

Seems like you've gone from 'listening to others' to 'justifying what's best\easiest for you'

I don't think we're going to be able to help you out on this one.

Good luck.

Actually I could save hundreds more by moving in with my mom. And it would be easier too.
I would rather live with friends.

'Best' is not necessarily monetary. You want to move in with them, he doesn't think it's a good idea. You're unable to see that if one of you doesn't want it to happen then it's a bad idea. That's why it's a bad idea.

 

[compuwiz1]

Uh, wouldn't this scenario be kind of like, if I divorced my wife, then remarried, then invited my ex to move in with my new wife and myself??? :shocked:

 

[Zolty]

So you would be living with your Ex and his new bf, that is just plain a bad idea. It's just new drama, if it's wierd for him that should be all the reason you need not to move in.

 

[Brutuskend]

Bad Idea

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

He told me to ask anyone and they could tell me why it's a bad idea.

Seems like you've gone from 'listening to others' to 'justifying what's best\easiest for you'

I don't think we're going to be able to help you out on this one.

Good luck.

Actually I could save hundreds more by moving in with my mom. And it would be easier too.
I would rather live with friends.

'Best' is not necessarily monetary. You want to move in with them, he doesn't think it's a good idea. You're unable to see that if one of you doesn't want it to happen then it's a bad idea. That's why it's a bad idea.

Perhaps so.

 

[dabuddha]

I agree it would be a bad idea. You might think you guys are friends but he might not think so.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: dabuddha
I agree it would be a bad idea. You might think you guys are friends but he might not think so.

That's what I think too.
I could be dead for a week and he probably wouldn't know until someone called him.
He is just all I have here.
Perhaps I would be better off with someone who would invite me to stay.
I don't really feel welcome anymore.
I was always there when he needed me. I just feel that he has better things to do now.
Sorry guys.

 

[DaiShan]

Terrible idea, for a number of reasons, the most important of which being that you do not understand why it is a bad idea. If you are unable to see the potential consequences of an action, you should not take that action. It's a bit like jumping off of a 10 story cliff into a pool of water without knowing how deep it is, or if there are any jagged rocks under the surface. Just a bad idea.

 

[zanieladie]

Skip this idea.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: DaiShan
Terrible idea, for a number of reasons, the most important of which being that you do not understand why it is a bad idea. If you are unable to see the potential consequences of an action, you should not take that action. It's a bit like jumping off of a 10 story cliff into a pool of water without knowing how deep it is, or if there are any jagged rocks under the surface. Just a bad idea.

Getting up in the morning is like jumping off of a 10 story cliff into a pool of water without knowing how deep it is, or if there are any jagged rocks under the surface.
Anything could be applied to that.
You take chances doing anything in life.
I just don't think he wants me around unless he needs something or has absolutely nothing else to do.

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: DaiShan
Terrible idea, for a number of reasons, the most important of which being that you do not understand why it is a bad idea. If you are unable to see the potential consequences of an action, you should not take that action. It's a bit like jumping off of a 10 story cliff into a pool of water without knowing how deep it is, or if there are any jagged rocks under the surface. Just a bad idea.

Getting up in the morning is like jumping off of a 10 story cliff into a pool of water without knowing how deep it is, or if there are any jagged rocks under the surface.
Anything could be applied to that.
You take chances doing anything in life.
I just don't think he wants me around unless he needs something or has absolutely nothing else to do.

Yeah, there is no way that we can help you. Disregard all of the posts in this thread, I know that you will anyways...

/edit and since you completely missed my point, life is about taking calculated risks based on informed decisions, NOT on emotions, or whatever idea pops into your head at the moment

 

[pclstyle]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Okay, my ex of 3 years (broke up mid-last year) is living in a house his dad bought him, with his new boyfriend. It's a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom house, with a possible 4th bedroom in the garage. His bf pays rent ($450) a month, and is classified as a "roommate" or a "renter."
I don't care that they are dating, it doesn't bother me.
We actually hang out and I help them with stuff and they help me.
I need a place to go when my lease was up. His dad is all about money, and so I asked if I could take the garage room until I am out of school. It's not attached to the house or anything. It's a completely seperate room on the garage.
If I moved in, I could pay $300 a month, and it would probably drop his bf's rent to $300 as well, as his dad would be making $150 more a month.
My ex says it would be weird. I told him if it should be weird for anyone, it should be weird for me. I just need a place to stay and he has one.
He is my best and only friend here where I live. I get along with him, and his bf.

He told me to ask anyone and they could tell me why it's a bad idea.

potential for very, very unpleasant drama.

but if all 3 of you are mature enough (he sounds a little flaky), I don't see why it'd be a problem.

sucks that your best and only friend is your ex

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: DaiShan

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: DaiShan
Terrible idea, for a number of reasons, the most important of which being that you do not understand why it is a bad idea. If you are unable to see the potential consequences of an action, you should not take that action. It's a bit like jumping off of a 10 story cliff into a pool of water without knowing how deep it is, or if there are any jagged rocks under the surface. Just a bad idea.

Getting up in the morning is like jumping off of a 10 story cliff into a pool of water without knowing how deep it is, or if there are any jagged rocks under the surface.
Anything could be applied to that.
You take chances doing anything in life.
I just don't think he wants me around unless he needs something or has absolutely nothing else to do.

Yeah, there is no way that we can help you. Disregard all of the posts in this thread, I know that you will anyways...

/edit and since you completely missed my point, life is about taking calculated risks based on informed decisions, NOT on emotions, or whatever idea pops into your head at the moment

Okay consider your post disregarded. Other people posted useful things though.

 

[IMaN00BieGF]

Don't do it. You'd be making a huge mistake. Its sounds like your trying to hold onto him still. Even if you need a place to stay your better off finding a place elsewhere.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: pclstyle

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Okay, my ex of 3 years (broke up mid-last year) is living in a house his dad bought him, with his new boyfriend. It's a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom house, with a possible 4th bedroom in the garage. His bf pays rent ($450) a month, and is classified as a "roommate" or a "renter."
I don't care that they are dating, it doesn't bother me.
We actually hang out and I help them with stuff and they help me.
I need a place to go when my lease was up. His dad is all about money, and so I asked if I could take the garage room until I am out of school. It's not attached to the house or anything. It's a completely seperate room on the garage.
If I moved in, I could pay $300 a month, and it would probably drop his bf's rent to $300 as well, as his dad would be making $150 more a month.
My ex says it would be weird. I told him if it should be weird for anyone, it should be weird for me. I just need a place to stay and he has one.
He is my best and only friend here where I live. I get along with him, and his bf.

He told me to ask anyone and they could tell me why it's a bad idea.

potential for very, very unpleasant drama.

but if all 3 of you are mature enough (he sounds a little flaky), I don't see why it'd be a problem.

sucks that your best and only friend is your ex

He is not flakey, I just think we have very different views of our friendship. He is an important friend to me. Someone I care about. We went through alot of sh!t together.
I'm a very loyal friend to the friends that I have.
I think he sees his new life now and that there is only limited room for things from his past.
Oh well.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: IMaN00BieGF
Don't do it. You'd be making a huge mistake. Its sounds like your trying to hold onto him still. Even if you need a place to stay your better off finding a place elsewhere.

Im actually kind of in love with someone else right now. And it's not him.
I think people are right, and I am better of going someplace where I am wanted.