Haven't seen someone in 3 years...should I try to get back in touch?

[GL]

Back in '97 I met this girl in summer school. At the time I had the biggest crush on her and we got to be pretty good friends. We'd talk a lot and after two months I finally got the balls to ask her out. Turns out when I asked her she had just gotten back with her ex-boyfriend and he came along on the date (she brought a friend for me)! I was 17 and he was 22 (she was 17 also)! Probably the most interesting date I've been on and I was definitely heartbroken for a while. But now I can laugh...it was pretty funny actually.

Anyhow, we still talked quite regularly after this. We even ended up going to summer school at the same location again. But by then I was going out with another girl and wasn't really interested in pursuing this girl. One of the last contacts I had with this girl is when she wrote me a letter and mailed it to my house. She was inviting me out to this thing we have in Toronto called grad night where all the high school seniors head to this amusement park and party all night. I told her I couldn't go although I admittedly wanted to just for the fun of it.

And then we sort of parted ways...I went on with my relationship and I guess she went on with hers.

I sort of miss this girl. I'd like to get back in touch with her. It's been pretty weird but the past couple of nights I've had dreams of her (not dirty heheh). I can't believe it but I still remember her phone number.

Should I get back in touch with this girl or would she think the situation was too weird? What would be the best way to get back in touch with this girl? I think a letter mailed to her house would be best. That way, if she doesn't want to have anything to do with me she can just not get back in touch with me...whereas a phone conversation might totally put her on the spot.

Sorry for bringing up another girl issue on here but I can honestly say I'm 99% sure I just want to strike up the friendship we had...so this is more of a friendship problem than anything else.

 

[Robert01]

Then do it. Just be sure you don't act strange though.

 

[Viper0329]

what have you got to loose?

 

[themightyplatypus]

What do you have to lose? Just don't go spying in her bedroom window.

 

[p0tempkin]

She have a nice rack?

 

[GL]

<< She have a nice rack? >>



Among many other nice things, yes Don't have any pics...sorry.

 

[MrMilney]

You may as well look her up because, as has been pointed out, you have nothing to lose. Just be prepared for any answer ("yes," "no," "I'm sorry, I don't remember you"). It may help to have a bottle of whiskey nearby.

 

[hopefloats]

Don't underestimate the power of dreams... maybe she's thinking about you too. You never know about these kind of things. Calling an old friend to tell them they are in your thoughts is really a nice thing to do.

 

[GL]

I think I'm going to go write her a letter. I know she'll remember me. The worst that I fear is that she wouldn't want to have anything to do with me. It's possible but as was pointed out, I have nothing to lose because right now she has nothing to do with me right now anyways. She was a really cool girl to have as a friend. Never in a pissed off mood (towards me at least) and she always tried to boost my confidence. I remember going to Ireland on a trip and paying $80 to have a ten minute conversation with her from a payphone over there. I have to say that it was probably some of the best dollars I've ever spent

 

[GL]

<< Don't underestimate the power of dreams... maybe she's thinking about you too. You never know about these kind of things. Calling an old friend to tell them they are in your thoughts is really a nice thing to do.
>>



Ahh...a female. So how do I write a letter to a girl whom I had a crush on but with whom I just want to be friends with right now? I don't want it to sound sappy but I'd like to tell her how stupid I was to cut her out of my life...without sounding like I just want to get her in the sack?

 

[Soybomb]

Just write a letter telling her what you've been up to, maybe mention remembering some fond times you two had together and then ask her what she's been up to. Don't go too deep with this first one

Oddly enough I've had a couple dreams about a girl I knew in high school too lately. SHe was a really nice person but she eventually got married and moved away a couple years ago. I'm thinking about tyring to track her down and say hi but I don't know where to begin since she's had a name change and her family has moved too!

 

[hopefloats]

Soybomb is right... try something like this:

Dear ?

I was reminiscing with friends about my trip to Ireland, and one of my memories was of my call to you. You?ve been on my mind since then and I?ve been wondering how you are and what you?re up to these days. I know a lot of time has gone by since we last spoke, which is my fault and I apologize for that, I?m such a dork. [j/k) GL ] It would be great to hear from you and catch up on the past couple of years. Hope everything is going well with you and I hope to hear from you soon.

 

[KennyTheGreat]

dude hook a fellow torontonian up..HEH
u gotta love highschool friends man

 

[GL]

Thanks everyone...and hopefloats especially (here I am thinking of a million things to say and you wrap it up in a short paragraph!).

I'll write the letter and mail it off. I hope she doesn't go to university out of town, but the last time we spoke about this she wanted to go to my university. Unfortunately, with 50,000 other students it can get pretty hard trying to track a fellow student down!

 

[cerebusPu]

in the world of the internet...it may be simpler to write an email to her. saves taking out the old stamp and envelope. I havent written a letter for many many years.

your situation reminds me of something i went thru. i had this crush on this girl many years ago. she was older than me and i always got shafted because she only went for older guys. sometime later i left the country and forgot about her. after three years, Im back in the same city again and she calls me up one day. we met up to catch up on old times and by the second time i realized that all she wanted was some nookie. i didnt decline it but i also didnt like her anymore. she was still technically the same person yet i just didnt want to have her in my life anymore.

on the opposite end of the spectrum, Ive had pretty crappy situations come up when I get back together with old female friends. I was crazy about this girl in highschool, which to this day I still dont understand why. 3 years later as a senior in college I meet up with her again and then it reminded me of the times when I was crazy about her. it was all fine until i started liking her again. it was a downward spiral of unrequited love which I seem to get myself into every few years. it got worse and worse and i forced myself to cut off all contact because of the conditioned hatred which i have towards that specific emotion i associate with unrequited love. (or unrequited puppy love)

my advice to you is to tread carefully. meeting up with old crushes or ex's is a bad journey thru time. never and i say NEVER let your emotions take control of you. if you chose to take this journey you have to be prepared. you will experience a warm feeling of happiness. you are going to realize the changes in her after 3 years. you will desire what you had before, and you will want more of it. hold your overwhelming emotions back and be careful. one step in the wrong direction and you will end up sucked into a wormhole of no return.

take care. godspeed.

 

[hopefloats]

np
yw

 

[GL]

Points taken cerebusPu,

Keep in mind I'm not the type of guy to go out looking just for nookie. I can honestly say I just miss talking with her. I'm asking for a catch-up conversation over a beer or some coffee - not for her to go out on a romantic date with me.

I'm aware I'm treading on pretty unstable ground but having exited a 3 year relationship in which I neglected a lot of friendships I'm trying to reconnect with a lot of people that made me happy. So far so good...I look at her as just another good old friend to reconnect with.

 

[shopbruin]

do it.

a friend of mine was curious about a friend of his from high school. he found her and talked to her for hours.

nothing happened though... she's out in canada and engaged but they said it was nice to catch up with each other.

 

[p0tempkin]

<< Among many other nice things, yes Don't have any pics...sorry. >>


I guess that means she has a peach of an ass too.

I can eat a peach for hours.

 

[DDCSpeed]

YES YOU SHOULD

YES YES YES YES YES

and the question to ask yourself is why not? not why.

 

[JimmyEatWorld]

ummmmm.....
YES
duhhhhh

 

[StageLeft]

Given the time (3 years is a while), i'd try and email but since you prolly can't get that what the hell. Call her, but unless you're lucky she may think its kinda freaky.

Letter is almost as good as email. If you can do that do it. You have nothing to lose with a phone call but a letter is much less in-your-face after such a long while!