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Have you ever cried in front of your SO?

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The thing is, most women will say "I want a guy who *will* cry, or who would shed a tear during that scene in that one movie" but then when the guy does, she leaves him.

I think Seinfeld had an episode on this once. I've known spiteful women like this too, I don't know if they truly believed it was something they looked for in a guy, and realized once it happened how un-masculine it was - or what. I think this applies more during the dating stage though, and not so much in the "SO" realm. However, I do believe you shouldn't shed a tear during a movie or something until you're somewhat serious, because most women find it a turn off even if they don't admit it to themselves
 
Originally posted by: nutxo
I'm not the weepy type but hell yeah. I cried when my father passed away.
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Thats completely different I think, if one of your parents or anyone close to you dies - crying is needed and expected.

I don't know that the OP gave any guidelines, but I am thinking of tearing up during a movie or at some point when it *could* be looked at as un-masculine.

If theres a single man on this forum who wouldn't cry when his dad died, then that person has other much more significant problems
 
Originally posted by: AMDZen
If theres a single man on this forum who wouldn't cry when his dad died, then that person has other much more significant problems
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i wouldnt cry, but thats because going off my past history with him itd be justified in my eyes. in fact, if i did cry id feel like he'd won. i refuse to give him that.
 
Originally posted by: anxi80
Originally posted by: AMDZen
If theres a single man on this forum who wouldn't cry when his dad died, then that person has other much more significant problems
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i wouldnt cry, but thats because going off my past history with him itd be justified in my eyes. in fact, if i did cry id feel like he'd won. i refuse to give him that.
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So your saying you "wouldn't" cry. Meaning, your dad hasn't died yet.

Now lets see what happens when he actually does die. I don't care how many problems you had with him, even if you hated him - chances are - if your human at least - that your going to break down and shed at least a few tears, at some point after his death.

I can say this with nearly 100% certainty, and of course I don't know you - I know from personal experience (not first hand, but with friends). Sometimes it hits you at a weird time too. Like this friend I'm referring to, horrible relationship with his father - father dies of heart attack - goes to funeral and everything else, fine - doesn't cry. Couple weeks later the kid breaks down.

You simply won't know or understand until it happens
 
Originally posted by: AMDZen
So your saying you "wouldn't" cry. Meaning, your dad hasn't died yet.

Now lets see what happens when he actually does die. I don't care how many problems you had with him, even if you hated him - chances are - if your human at least - that your going to break down and shed at least a few tears, at some point after his death.

I can say this with nearly 100% certainty, and of course I don't know you - I know from personal experience (not first hand, but with friends). Sometimes it hits you at a weird time too. Like this friend I'm referring to, horrible relationship with his father - father dies of heart attack - goes to funeral and everything else, fine - doesn't cry. Couple weeks later the kid breaks down.

You simply won't know or understand until it happens
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thats true too. i guess i cant say with such a certainty until the event actually happens. but then again i cant say i really respect a guy who cheated on my mom when i was a toddler, didnt see for years after the divorce (i was 4), said he would come pick me up on weekends and he would call 2 weekends later saying he was sorry. no child support, nothing. we didnt talk for years and up until recently did we start to talk again. but even when i do visit i dont see him as a father, he's just a guy i know. nothing he has done recently has done anything to change or amend his past, and knowing him nothing ever will. cry for that? never.

edit: but i do see your point. generally speaking, yes, i would agree with your original statement. just sometimes you always have to run into one of these hardnoses who refuses to be a part of the crowd. 😉
 
I've been married 12 years, and I can think of twice that I cried in front of my wife:

1) when I had to put down our first dog

2) when my brother died
 
Cry? Hell no!!

I have teared up on occasion, once.

The last time I can remember was a few years ago, when I thought my now ExGF was pregnant. She was late by around 2 weeks, and she wasn't taking birth control. When she took the pregnacy test, I was so relieved that I couldn't help but tear up a bit.
 
I think the problem is that most guys try so hard not to cry that eventually they just don't know how. I have been in situations where I felt the need to cry but even then I couldn't.

To answer the poll, I've teared up but never openly cried... and even then it was only when I knew the relationship was ending.

 
Originally posted by: Mucho
While drunk yes, sober never.
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😕

You mean you cry when you get drunk or if there's something to cry about that you normally wouldn't, you will when you're drunk?

 
Originally posted by: lokiju
Originally posted by: Mucho
While drunk yes, sober never.
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😕

You mean you cry when you get drunk or if there's something to cry about that you normally wouldn't, you will when you're drunk?
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When you're drunk, emotions are far less controllable... 😉
 
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