Have you ever cried in front of your SO?

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: Aimster
yeah and they always left me

then I grew some and I never cry .. now they worship me

Hands don't count

Ausm

 

[Kyanzes]

Crying in front of your Superior Officer is shameful and an example should not be followed.

 

[imported_LoKe]

Originally posted by: JS80
real men don't cry

You've got that backwards. A real man can cry.

 

[dabuddha]

Yeah after something my wife told me last month

 

[lozina]

wonder what the results would look like if you separated male response from female responses.

 

[AMDZen]

The thing is, most women will say "I want a guy who *will* cry, or who would shed a tear during that scene in that one movie" but then when the guy does, she leaves him.

I think Seinfeld had an episode on this once. I've known spiteful women like this too, I don't know if they truly believed it was something they looked for in a guy, and realized once it happened how un-masculine it was - or what. I think this applies more during the dating stage though, and not so much in the "SO" realm. However, I do believe you shouldn't shed a tear during a movie or something until you're somewhat serious, because most women find it a turn off even if they don't admit it to themselves

 

[nutxo]

I'm not the weepy type but hell yeah. I cried when my father passed away.

 

[Platypus]

Come to think of it, they're usually the reason for the tears

 

[AMDZen]

Originally posted by: nutxo
I'm not the weepy type but hell yeah. I cried when my father passed away.

Thats completely different I think, if one of your parents or anyone close to you dies - crying is needed and expected.

I don't know that the OP gave any guidelines, but I am thinking of tearing up during a movie or at some point when it *could* be looked at as un-masculine.

If theres a single man on this forum who wouldn't cry when his dad died, then that person has other much more significant problems

 

[Eos]

Sure.

We were struggling whether or not to put our cat down. Bad times...

 

[anxi80]

Originally posted by: AMDZen
If theres a single man on this forum who wouldn't cry when his dad died, then that person has other much more significant problems

i wouldnt cry, but thats because going off my past history with him itd be justified in my eyes. in fact, if i did cry id feel like he'd won. i refuse to give him that.

 

[AMDZen]

Originally posted by: anxi80

Originally posted by: AMDZen
If theres a single man on this forum who wouldn't cry when his dad died, then that person has other much more significant problems

i wouldnt cry, but thats because going off my past history with him itd be justified in my eyes. in fact, if i did cry id feel like he'd won. i refuse to give him that.

So your saying you "wouldn't" cry. Meaning, your dad hasn't died yet.

Now lets see what happens when he actually does die. I don't care how many problems you had with him, even if you hated him - chances are - if your human at least - that your going to break down and shed at least a few tears, at some point after his death.

I can say this with nearly 100% certainty, and of course I don't know you - I know from personal experience (not first hand, but with friends). Sometimes it hits you at a weird time too. Like this friend I'm referring to, horrible relationship with his father - father dies of heart attack - goes to funeral and everything else, fine - doesn't cry. Couple weeks later the kid breaks down.

You simply won't know or understand until it happens

 

[anxi80]

Originally posted by: AMDZen
So your saying you "wouldn't" cry. Meaning, your dad hasn't died yet.

Now lets see what happens when he actually does die. I don't care how many problems you had with him, even if you hated him - chances are - if your human at least - that your going to break down and shed at least a few tears, at some point after his death.

I can say this with nearly 100% certainty, and of course I don't know you - I know from personal experience (not first hand, but with friends). Sometimes it hits you at a weird time too. Like this friend I'm referring to, horrible relationship with his father - father dies of heart attack - goes to funeral and everything else, fine - doesn't cry. Couple weeks later the kid breaks down.

You simply won't know or understand until it happens

thats true too. i guess i cant say with such a certainty until the event actually happens. but then again i cant say i really respect a guy who cheated on my mom when i was a toddler, didnt see for years after the divorce (i was 4), said he would come pick me up on weekends and he would call 2 weekends later saying he was sorry. no child support, nothing. we didnt talk for years and up until recently did we start to talk again. but even when i do visit i dont see him as a father, he's just a guy i know. nothing he has done recently has done anything to change or amend his past, and knowing him nothing ever will. cry for that? never.

edit: but i do see your point. generally speaking, yes, i would agree with your original statement. just sometimes you always have to run into one of these hardnoses who refuses to be a part of the crowd.

 

[NuclearNed]

I've been married 12 years, and I can think of twice that I cried in front of my wife:

1) when I had to put down our first dog

2) when my brother died

 

[imported_Stewy]

Cry? Hell no!!

I have teared up on occasion, once.

The last time I can remember was a few years ago, when I thought my now ExGF was pregnant. She was late by around 2 weeks, and she wasn't taking birth control. When she took the pregnacy test, I was so relieved that I couldn't help but tear up a bit.

 

[Leeroy]

I did just last night when I broke up with her. That was hard.

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: Leeroy
I did just last night when I broke up with her. That was hard.

Sorry to hear that.

 

[Feneant2]

I think the problem is that most guys try so hard not to cry that eventually they just don't know how. I have been in situations where I felt the need to cry but even then I couldn't.

To answer the poll, I've teared up but never openly cried... and even then it was only when I knew the relationship was ending.

 

[Sentinel]

I cry in front of her but no one else, i'm a big baby apparently.

 

[Mucho]

While drunk yes, sober never.

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: Mucho
While drunk yes, sober never.

You mean you cry when you get drunk or if there's something to cry about that you normally wouldn't, you will when you're drunk?

 

[swtethan]

i have

 

[Doctorweir]

Originally posted by: lokiju

Originally posted by: Mucho
While drunk yes, sober never.

You mean you cry when you get drunk or if there's something to cry about that you normally wouldn't, you will when you're drunk?

When you're drunk, emotions are far less controllable...