Have you ever changed your personality to fit in?

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
just be yourself, eventually you will find a girl. If you drive what looks like a VW, see if there's a website for people that have that car. Lot's of people that have the same car of get together, and you can meet chicks there cause those are the only people that drive VW, well chicks and homos 😉

And Roger!! buwahahaha !!!! 😀

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
just be yourself, eventually you will find a girl. If you drive what looks like a VW, see if there's a website for people that have that car. Lot's of people that have the same car of get together, and you can meet chicks there cause those are the only people that drive VW, well chicks and homos 😉

See, this what you get when you ask for advice here at ATOT. Some Dude who thinks driving a certain car will get you laid

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: bleeb
START PARTYING, DRINKING, SMOKING, CLUBBING, GO OUT! THE NEXT GIRL YOU ARE INTERESTED IN, GO OVER THERE AND SAY HI.

Don't forget the weed, right?

Like everyone always says - "You're not good enough being yourself. Change! Change! Change!"

</sarcasm>

Just be your damn self. Stop being so selfexamining and start doing whatever you want without thinking "What would ______ think of me?"

- M4H

 

[SOSTrooper]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Well first of all you are asking for advice here so you may be to far gone. Maybe you should start thinking for yourself about yourself. Become more self centered and forget about being such a pussy.

I agree, I'm a pussy, I'm a wuss. I've been trying to do more but I still find myself in pretty much where I started. I know I can change tho. I just need something to spark me off, and I can't seem to do that. I suck! 😎

 

[bleeb]

What you need to be is aggressive... confident... and most of all, get some balls ("courage") to talk to girls first.

 

[boi]

ALCOHOL is your answer. Trust me, it works wonders 😀
(just don't drink too much and throw up on anyone)

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: boi
ALCOHOL is your answer. Trust me, it works wonders 😀
(just don't drink too much and throw up on anyone)

This is what I've been saying all along.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: SOSTrooper

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Well first of all you are asking for advice here so you may be to far gone. Maybe you should start thinking for yourself about yourself. Become more self centered and forget about being such a pussy.

I agree, I'm a pussy, I'm a wuss. I've been trying to do more but I still find myself in pretty much where I started. I know I can change tho. I just need something to spark me off, and I can't seem to do that. I suck! 😎

Yeah you do. Try some mind altering drugs, that may help you. Sure yo0u might end up dead in some alley of an overdose but at least your life will be more interesting than it is now.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: SOSTrooper
I suck! 😎

Now there's a pickup line if I ever heard one. 😀

- M4H

 

[SOSTrooper]

Actually hooking up with girls isnt my biggest concern. I've hooked up with girls before. But my problem is I can't impress anybody, not even my mother. I'm just a piece of walking log that requires some special application to speak. And I'm not retarded or anything 😀 I also have lots of friends, but all of them are unsocialized geeks too!*!!**! Waahhhh

 

[BooGiMaN]

Dude you need to start with little steps. First practicing saying no sometimes when asked for help. They shouldnt be walkign all over you without even makign an effort to learn your name.

Second start approaching people at work or when ur out runnign errands and startign a convo..'hey how about them sucky raiders!'

Pretty soon youll start to get more confidence and be able to be more open and funny or what have u.

 

[Anubis]

NO!

i am what i am and have always been just that.

<- does not and will not conform

 

[Geekbabe]

Most people love to talk about themselves,become an avid listener,remember small details about people and their preferences,soon you'll be considered very wise and will find yourself with more friends than you know what to do with.Best of all,it won't require a lot of work on your part.

 

[LordMaul]

No, everyone looks up to me. (Both literally and figuratively. 😀)

 

[BooGiMaN]

Originally posted by: TheEvil1
NO!

i am what i am and have always been just that.

<- does not and will not conform

so ur popeye?

 

[Anubis]

Originally posted by: BooGiMaN

Originally posted by: TheEvil1
NO!

i am what i am and have always been just that.

<- does not and will not conform

so ur popeye?

no but that statement describes me well 🙂

and proof that my mom is teh coolest ever

You were always your own man...what you see is what you get?you marched to your own drum and if someone didn't like it... Fu*k em

 

[FacelessNobody]

OK

You and I are/were similar in many ways, though I don't think our conditions came about in the same matter. For most of my life (up through about 11th grade, I'm a sophomore in college now) I was an outcast from the main social core. Nobody hated me really, but few people really liked me. I've had the same best friend from second grade till now, and I interacted mostly with people who weren't necessarily in the core either. When I was about 16, I just stopped caring altogether and lived for myself. I became much more absolved in my martial arts training and spent most of my time dealing with real adults who've already walked the path and seen real hardship. I focused on being me. Eventually, you'll find out that that focus does not mean you neglect others. Others are as responsible for shaping you as you are. Life is nothing like I thought it was, and my perceptions change daily. I've become much more socially acceptable to others just because I've become happier with myself. Like you, I don't visit clubs, drink, smoke, do drugs, party or have permiscuous sex (I am funny though 😛). Read this carefully: IMPROVING YOURSELF DOES NOT MEAN CHANGING WHAT YOU LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF! I've seen the consequences of all of the above and they can ALL be very bad. Especially if you add them together. Don't get hammered every night just to fit in. Ask yourself, "would I want to be part of this group of people?" If the answer's no, forget them. Many people who get high every day now will rethink their ways sometime down the road. Many will not. Being selective about your priorities will change you more than you think. As far as girls go (though my experience is rather limited, I'm really just getting started now), I think the most impressive thing you can ever do to woo women will be to know yourself on as many levels as possible. If you can be honest with yourself about what truly lives in your heart, no matter how good or bad, then you can be honest with other people. Honesty will spawn clarity, allowing you to see what really is good and helpful and what's just plain crap. Case in point, that dude who was selling his virginity on eBay. It makes no sense to me why he thinks being a virgin is a bad thing. It means he has no STDs, kids, pregnant girlfriends or other dependencies to think about. I've stunned entire rooms of people by telling them that I'm a virgin. I've never seen so many jaws drop before (I DEFINITELY do not look like the type who'd be a virgin). I don't look at that as a bad thing at all, it's just that I'm not the kind of guy who will just have sex for sex's sake. Busting my nut in some chick I care very little for will not really help me that much. Neither would drinking, smoking, or getting drugged off my ass. Many of the best friends and role models I have do all of those things, but that doesn't mean I should compromise myself and do them. Find what makes you happy now 🙂. PM me if you wanna chat more.

Edit: SMILE DAMMIT! 😀

 

[Dragnov]

Well for one, move out of El Monte! 😛 lol.

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: FacelessNobody
OK

You and I are/were similar in many ways, though I don't think our conditions came about in the same matter. For most of my life (up through about 11th grade, I'm a sophomore in college now) I was an outcast from the main social core. Nobody hated me really, but few people really liked me. I've had the same best friend from second grade till now, and I interacted mostly with people who weren't necessarily in the core either. When I was about 16, I just stopped caring altogether and lived for myself. I became much more absolved in my martial arts training and spent most of my time dealing with real adults who've already walked the path and seen real hardship. I focused on being me. Eventually, you'll find out that that focus does not mean you neglect others. Others are as responsible for shaping you as you are. Life is nothing like I thought it was, and my perceptions change daily. I've become much more socially acceptable to others just because I've become happier with myself. Like you, I don't visit clubs, drink, smoke, do drugs, party or have permiscuous sex (I am funny though 😛). Read this carefully: IMPROVING YOURSELF DOES NOT MEAN CHANGING WHAT YOU LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF! I've seen the consequences of all of the above and they can ALL be very bad. Especially if you add them together. Don't get hammered every night just to fit in. Ask yourself, "would I want to be part of this group of people?" If the answer's no, forget them. Many people who get high every day now will rethink their ways sometime down the road. Many will not. Being selective about your priorities will change you more than you think. As far as girls go (though my experience is rather limited, I'm really just getting started now), I think the most impressive thing you can ever do to woo women will be to know yourself on as many levels as possible. If you can be honest with yourself about what truly lives in your heart, no matter how good or bad, then you can be honest with other people. Honesty will spawn clarity, allowing you to see what really is good and helpful and what's just plain crap. Case in point, that dude who was selling his virginity on eBay. It makes no sense to me why he thinks being a virgin is a bad thing. It means he has no STDs, kids, pregnant girlfriends or other dependencies to think about. I've stunned entire rooms of people by telling them that I'm a virgin. I've never seen so many jaws drop before (I DEFINITELY do not look like the type who'd be a virgin). I don't look at that as a bad thing at all, it's just that I'm not the kind of guy who will just have sex for sex's sake. Busting my nut in some chick I care very little for will not really help me that much. Neither would drinking, smoking, or getting drugged off my ass. Many of the best friends and role models I have do all of those things, but that doesn't mean I should compromise myself and do them. Find what makes you happy now 🙂. PM me if you wanna chat more.

Nice response. Probably one of the better responses given to SOSTrooper. 🙂

 

[SOSTrooper]

Yup it was a great post, thanks Faceless Nobody.

I think from tomorrow on, I'm gonna say hi and ask how they're doing to as many ppl in my classes as I can. It would be a starting point for me, something simple that I can do tomorrow. I think I should also memorize some of Brutuskend's jokes so that I can share it. Maybe I'll even deliberately turn on my cell phone and have someone call me during my English class so that I have to sing in front of everyone (a punishment by professor hehe).

 

[Analog]

Originally posted by: Tabb
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