Have you ever changed your personality to fit in?

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SOSTrooper

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Alright I think it's time for me to confess (and I'm sure I'm speaking for some ATOT ppl as well :)). I don't fit in. I'm a stranger to everyone. It is all me that is causing this. Everything I do is wrong and everything I say is wrong. I'm quiet, half-witted, not-so-good looking (pic in sig), and entirely unsocial person. The only thing good coming out of me is that I like to help people. When someone needs help, I help. Because of that, people like to ask me for help w/o even trying to memorize my name. So now is to the point where I have decided I need a change. I don't go to clubs, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't party, I'm not funny. Are there some people gathering like group therapies that will alter the personality in me? Any of you willing to 'hang out' with me and show me the way? hehe... I'm kinda sad now because there is no way I will impress any girl with what I have now.

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Scootin159

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I have never intentionally changed my personality just to fit in, but it does happen. The more you hang with a certain group, the more you pick up the same habits/same language (still English, but more how you word things & what words you use).
 
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Originally posted by: SOSTrooper
Alright I think it's time for me to confess (and I'm sure I'm speaking for some ATOT ppl as well :)). I don't fit in. I'm a stranger to everyone. It is all me that is causing this. Everything I do is wrong and everything I say is wrong. I'm quiet, half-witted, not-so-good looking (pic in sig), and entirely unsocial person. The only thing good coming out of me is that I like to help people. When someone needs help, I help. Because of that, people like to ask me for help w/o even trying to memorize my name. So now is to the point where I have decided I need a change. I don't go to clubs, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't party, I'm not funny. Are there some people gathering like group therapies that will alter the personality in me? Any of you willing to 'hang out' with me and show me the way? hehe... I'm kinda sad now because there is no way I will impress any girl with what I have now.

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Try smoking, drinking, partying, clubbing, become a porn star if meeting girls is a problem. Why don't you write to Howard Stern.. he really hooks you up. The other day, He was doing the Lord of The Anal Rings competition... hilarious stuff. You will see being your self is the best way to go.
 
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FelixDeCat

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Im ugly as hell, so anything is negotiable.;)

I can relate to everything you said. I think you are mostly just shy and probably even scared. But if I noticed anything, do what you like to do (computer events, sports related things, etc.) where other people happen to be doing the same thing.
 
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Emrys

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Yup, but changing who I am nope. Acting different is one thing, changing who you are is another.
 
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Mucho

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The first job I got after leaving college was as Tech Support, because I spoke with a noticeable accent I made a concerted effort to speak with a non descript accent. Now after several years none could tell my ethnic origin from a phone conversation. This however, has cause me much grief when dealing with my own people who consider me whitewash and a sell-out.
 
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Originally posted by: Mucho
The first job I got after leaving college was as Tech Support, because I spoke with a noticeable accent I made a made a concerted effort to speak with a non descript accent. Now after several years none could tell my ethnic origin from a phone conversation. This however, has cause me much grief when dealing with my own people who consider me whitewash and a sell-out.
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Can you speak both languages?

 
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Red Dawn

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Yeah I changed my personality so I could fit in here at ATOT
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Who gives a fsck what ATOTers think?
 
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SOSTrooper

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I can speak fluid English and fluid Cantonese. The problem is, I'm not fast witted like Conan O'Brien. I think he's a very good comedian/talk show host. I want to be like him. When something happens that glares at the phase "INCOMING JOKE!" I would usually say nothing... or something stupid like "oh" or "hmm" I think I need to find some group therapy sessions just to break myself out of this shell I'm in.
 
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Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: SOSTrooper
I can speak fluid English and fluid Cantonese. The problem is, I'm not fast witted like Conan O'Brien. I think he's a very good comedian/talk show host. I want to be like him. When something happens that glares at the phase "INCOMING JOKE!" I would usually say nothing... or something stupid like "oh" or "hmm" I think I need to find some group therapy sessions just to break myself out of this shell I'm in.
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I think what you need is to grow a pair. You sound like some fanuk.

 
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Shaftatplanetquake

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Yeah dude stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Let loose.

Let loose. Let loose. Let loose. Let loose. Let loose. Let loose.
 
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Originally posted by: SOSTrooper
I can speak fluid English and fluid Cantonese. The problem is, I'm not fast witted like Conan O'Brien. I think he's a very good comedian/talk show host. I want to be like him. When something happens that glares at the phase "INCOMING JOKE!" I would usually say nothing... or something stupid like "oh" or "hmm" I think I need to find some group therapy sessions just to break myself out of this shell I'm in.
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Screw the therapy... start drinking, smoking, clubbing, etc.
 
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Zebo

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I'm a viking so yes I must use control daily not to rape, pilage, and burn your home down. I have been bottlenecked.
 
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SOSTrooper

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Originally posted by: Shaftatplanetquake
Yeah dude stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Let loose.

Let loose. Let loose. Let loose. Let loose. Let loose. Let loose.
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I think I need to do that. I always always always always keep thoughts to myself. I never ever say anything to make myself stand out. Except "Yeah I can fix your computer.....
 
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START PARTYING, DRINKING, SMOKING, CLUBBING, GO OUT! THE NEXT GIRL YOU ARE INTERESTED IN, GO OVER THERE AND SAY HI.
 
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Red Dawn

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Well first of all you are asking for advice here so you may be to far gone. Maybe you should start thinking for yourself about yourself. Become more self centered and forget about being such a pussy.
 
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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Well first of all you are asking for advice here so you may be to far gone. Maybe you should start thinking for yourself about yourself. Become more self centered and forget about being such a pussy.
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WORD UP!
 
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JeffreyLebowski

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just be yourself, eventually you will find a girl. If you drive what looks like a VW, see if there's a website for people that have that car. Lot's of people that have the same car of get together, and you can meet chicks there cause those are the only people that drive VW, well chicks and homos ;)
 
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