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Have you dated a girl you were friends with?

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Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: her209
In speaking in general terms of course. Women want their cake and eat it too.
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Yeah, I understand that. 😉 But for the most part, this girl has treated me fairly and maturely. So no worries. I think she is just a little weirded out right now. No big deal. I am not sure if she realizes that those guys are giving her attention because of interest in that manner though, but who knows. You girls are strange, and the more I figure out about women, the less I understand.
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As her friend, you should tell her. But I don't think women are as stupid as they make themselves out to be. They crave the attention but can never admit it.
 
Eh, not that good an idea. Knew the person for years, freaking discussed everything possible, had nothing in common, so just got too damn boring.
 
Originally posted by: her209
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: her209
In speaking in general terms of course. Women want their cake and eat it too.
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Yeah, I understand that. 😉 But for the most part, this girl has treated me fairly and maturely. So no worries. I think she is just a little weirded out right now. No big deal. I am not sure if she realizes that those guys are giving her attention because of interest in that manner though, but who knows. You girls are strange, and the more I figure out about women, the less I understand.
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As her friend, you should tell her. But I don't think women are as stupid as they make themselves out to be. They crave the attention but can never admit it.
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I have a feeling that that is part of it. I understand that as a friend I should tell her, but things are way too awkward now because she feels weird around me. If I told her right now that that is the reason, she may just misconstrue it
 
There is one girl I have been friends with for a long time. We both value our friendship.
I wouldn't be very suprised though, if we both ended up getting drunk some night and sleeping together.

Does that place me on the good ladder, or do I remain on the friends ladder, despite the events of the previous night?
 
it works, and it doesn't work, just because i'm friends with them first doesn't necessarily reflect if they're friends with me first... i've had more than 1x where it started out like that... works out good for me, cuz I don't have ladders 🙂

it ended up not working out, but that was b/c i was dating someone else at the time as well and she wanted to be committed...
 
I am surprised at the 75% that have dated friends. It gives me a warmer outlook on the poulation of ATOT 😉

Of course tomorrow, someone invariably will post about some underage girl/cousin, and everyone will demand pics, and there goes my positive outlook. 😛
 
I guess you could say I dated her. Cheerleader at my high school, I was a athlete, we hung out a lot, I had tried once before, didn't happen. I tried again a few years later when we were hanging out daily and smoking herb all the time. Got real hot & heavy in the bed & put it about halfway in, then I started thinking about all the skanky dudes she had banged in those few years and pulled out. Yeah, when I say they were skanky I mean AIDS was a real possibility.

In the end I learned that maybe she was only my friend for a good reason and I should have left it alone.
 
I am now (for the past 7 months) I've known her for three years, but we didn't hang out at all for the last 1.5 years, we started talking/hanging out again when she needed some computer help and we started dating shortly after that 🙂
 
Originally posted by: DaiShan
I am now (for the past 7 months) I've known her for three years, but we didn't hang out at all for the last 1.5 years, we started talking/hanging out again when she needed some computer help and we started dating shortly after that 🙂
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Hahaha, even your post count is close to mine. 😉 What gives Daishan? Stop trying to be like me.

Maybe, that means that in a while I will get an SO. 😉 😛
I don't really care either way anymore, but it would be nice to have someone to talk to about stuff especially with all the things I am doing now.

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I just noticed your Join date is about 7 months from mine. 😉 Is that a sign that I am going to get an SO soon. LOL. 😉 j/k j/k
 
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: DaiShan
I am now (for the past 7 months) I've known her for three years, but we didn't hang out at all for the last 1.5 years, we started talking/hanging out again when she needed some computer help and we started dating shortly after that 🙂
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Hahaha, even your post count is close to mine. 😉 What gives Daishan? Stop trying to be like me.

Maybe, that means that in a while I will get an SO. 😉 😛
I don't really care either way anymore, but it would be nice to have someone to talk to about stuff especially with all the things I am doing now.

**EDIT**
I just noticed your Join date is about 7 months from mine. 😉 Is that a sign that I am going to get an SO soon. LOL. 😉 j/k j/k
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Yeah, I pretty much follow you around 😉
 
with my current bf we just kind of started being boyfriend/girlfriend (if that makes sense) and our relationship/friendship developed all at once (and very quickly).
 
Originally posted by: DaiShan
Originally posted by: DaShen
Originally posted by: DaiShan
I am now (for the past 7 months) I've known her for three years, but we didn't hang out at all for the last 1.5 years, we started talking/hanging out again when she needed some computer help and we started dating shortly after that 🙂
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Hahaha, even your post count is close to mine. 😉 What gives Daishan? Stop trying to be like me.

Maybe, that means that in a while I will get an SO. 😉 😛
I don't really care either way anymore, but it would be nice to have someone to talk to about stuff especially with all the things I am doing now.

**EDIT**
I just noticed your Join date is about 7 months from mine. 😉 Is that a sign that I am going to get an SO soon. LOL. 😉 j/k j/k
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Yeah, I pretty much follow you around 😉
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Yikes, I need to get out of here. 😛 Bizzaro Dashen. This is freaky
 
I'm marrying a girl who was originally just a friend. I've dated several girls who were originally friends. Ladder theory is a bunch of sh!t and really only holds for guys who become that pathetic bitch stick who think they are the "nice guy" who can't get a break with women...when they should realize that they are just the shy guy with a low self esteem.
 
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
I'm marrying a girl who was originally just a friend. I've dated several girls who were originally friends. Ladder theory is a bunch of sh!t and really only holds for guys who become that pathetic bitch stick who think they are the "nice guy" who can't get a break with women...when they should realize that they are just the shy guy with a low self esteem.
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Agreed, somewhat. Nothing wrong with being the nice guy though. 🙂

But I agree, people who whine and gripe about the ladder theory are people who are too scared to ask a girl out, or they fear rejection, so they just pine away till it is too late.

The ladder stuff happens, on both ends, more so for girls though, but that is just a part of life. 🙂
 
Yeah, I dated a girl I was friends with first. That relationship lasted 6.5 years but, more times than not, acting like I've wanted to make sweaty love to a girl the first time I met her was more helpful then talking about last night's Veronica Mars episode...
 
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