Has anybody here broken up with their SO and managed to successfully restore you relationship?

[Chrono]

well? if so, please detail what had happened.

 

[krunchykrome]

Bwahhaha, it doesnt happen.

 

[Garet Jax]

Yes. Once.

Back in high school, still didn't work out since we were incompatible.

 

[Chrono]

I had a friend who's girlfriend broke up with him. They eventually got back together and are on their way to getting married. I'm sure there are exceptions.

 

[MisterJackson]

What's up with all the "What if SO" threads today?

I've formed a friendship with my ex wife. Well, lets call it more of a middle east cease fire agreement, but I find that many years after our divorce I can now look at her as possibly a friend, and that's what we should have had before. Granted I know now that she's pure evil and will do or say anything to get her way, but it's still nice to not be at each others throats.

 

[GasX]

If you break up with someone, it's because you are sick of their sh!t. Why would you try to start it up again? If you were miserable once, there is little that is going to happen to change that in the future.

 

[Ktulu]

You do realize you're not going to get any positive responses from from this group. Everyone here seems to be anti-relationship since most people have probably been burned in past relationships or can't get any in the first place.

 

[Mellman]

I tried...well i guess I'm still trying, but it takes two to tango...and knowing her it wont happen, but whatever, it gives me something to do i guess..

 

[dullard]

GF and I broke up after 3 years. GF found a group of friends, which included some boys, and she started liking one of the boys in that group. She didn't want to break up with me, but wanted to also try dating someone else. I was devistated, and couldn't handle it, so I broke up with her.

I couldn't get over her (how often does a computer nerd date someone who could be a model, who likes football, who is a lot of fun, and who like him back). We tried to remain friends. She found out that the other boys were jerks (and represented everything she hated), and came back to me.

WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE.

Two years later, I thought it was just a fling because we were young (the break up was her senior year in high school) and because she was scared of the marriage talk. So I stupidly married her.

3 years into the marriage, she "dates" another guy. Marriage is strained almost to the breaking point, but we barely patched it over when she breaks up with him. 3 years later she "dates" another and I file for divorce. I'm quite happy now that I'm divorced.

Don't ever, ever consider getting back together. Once you are broken up, it is done. The one good thing you two did was to break up - don't ever forget that.

I'm now 13 months into a much better woman. She treats me well, values the things that I value, is quite intelligent, works hard, and is attractive enough.

 

[EKKC]

Originally posted by: dullard
GF and I broke up after 3 years. GF found a group of friends, which included some boys, and she started liking one of the boys in that group. She didn't want to break up with me, but wanted to also try dating someone else. I was devistated, and couldn't handle it, so I broke up with her.

I couldn't get over her (how often does a computer nerd date someone who could be a model, who likes football, who is a lot of fun, and who like him back). We tried to remain friends. She found out that the other boys were jerks (and represented everything she hated), and came back to me.

WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE.

Two years later, I thought it was just a fling because we were young (the break up was her senior year in high school) and because she was scared of the marriage talk. So I stupidly married her.

3 years into the marriage, she "dates" another guy. Marriage is strained almost to the breaking point, but we barely patched it over when she breaks up with him. 3 years later she "dates" another and I file for divorce. I'm quite happy now that I'm divorced.

Don't ever, ever consider getting back together. Once you are broken up, it is done. The one good thing you two did was to break up - don't ever forget that.

I'm now 13 months into a much better woman. She treats me well, is quite intelligent, works hard, and is attractive enough.

attractive enough to date another guy? sorry i had to, i mean seriously, are you worried at all? not saying she will, but i'm saying with your history with the ex, that it may haunt you and you may be paranoid

if you're not, congrats. best to you both.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: EKKC
attractive enough to date another guy? sorry i had to, i mean seriously, are you worried at all? not saying she will, but i'm saying with your history with the ex, that it may haunt you and you may be paranoid

if you're not, congrats. best to you both.

I've seen one other male blatantly hit on her. She just laughed and walked arm-in-arm down the hall with me. I hate to say it publically, but I'll probably never find anyone quite as attractive as the first - she was really out of my league. But I find the new GF highly attractive and treats me well. And, in the end, that is what really matters.

I'll probably be a bit scarred for life. Trust will be slow to build. I don't plan on getting married without at least 3-5 years of dating to build the trust. So far, I see no reason not to trust the new GF. And luckilly, the new GF isn't interested in rushing into anything either.

 

[mordantmonkey]

i could have if i was interested in taking her back...

so, no.

 

[Skunkwourk]

I think it probably depends a lot on how long you two stay apart after the first breakup, and more importantly what you two do with your time apart, but Im just guessing.

 

[sash1]

Haha, yes. Twice. We're broken up for good now though. Not going into details.

 

[fs5]

Originally posted by: dullard She treats me well, values the things that I value, is quite intelligent, works hard, and is attractive enough.

Don't show her that.
My 2 friends have done it. Must have 'broken' up 10 times at least. Now they're back together and happy about it. Or so it seems...

I'm sure it could happen with my ex-SO, but I'm not pushing for it.

 

[BrokenVisage]

You fool! It's impossible! Anyone telling you different is either lying or leaving out some kind of embarrassing information.

 

[RaiderJ]

She's in another state and I like it that way!

 

[Specop 007]

Yep, ended up marrying her.
Still together after 4 years and things are smooth sailing for the most part.

 

[mattpegher]

Back with wife now 5 years after leaving her. It isn't easy but we had 2 kids (3 now) and it took a lot of counselling. Mostly it took being honest with each other about what bothers us. For about 15 years (8 married) I went with the flow and let it slide when sh t bothered me. But I made the mistake of leaving her for another woman, I'm very lucky she was able to get beyong that.

It can be done but it has to be 110% form both of you. If you go back to the same old ways it will fail.

 

[zebano]

No, No, no, no, no, no (3 high school GFs, 3 college and happily married to lucky #7). 3 of my exs were named "Sara" or "Sarah". When we had our first kid, my wifes only stipulation on the name was that it not be any variation of "Sara".

 

[michaels]

Yes, my wife and I. We broke up for 4 months after the first year and got back together, eventually married(5 years this december), together 10 years total July of 07.

 

[MisterJackson]

Originally posted by: dullard
GF and I broke up after 3 years. GF found a group of friends, which included some boys, and she started liking one of the boys in that group. She didn't want to break up with me, but wanted to also try dating someone else. I was devistated, and couldn't handle it, so I broke up with her.

I couldn't get over her (how often does a computer nerd date someone who could be a model, who likes football, who is a lot of fun, and who like him back). We tried to remain friends. She found out that the other boys were jerks (and represented everything she hated), and came back to me.

WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE.

Two years later, I thought it was just a fling because we were young (the break up was her senior year in high school) and because she was scared of the marriage talk. So I stupidly married her.

3 years into the marriage, she "dates" another guy. Marriage is strained almost to the breaking point, but we barely patched it over when she breaks up with him. 3 years later she "dates" another and I file for divorce. I'm quite happy now that I'm divorced.

Don't ever, ever consider getting back together. Once you are broken up, it is done. The one good thing you two did was to break up - don't ever forget that.

I'm now 13 months into a much better woman. She treats me well, values the things that I value, is quite intelligent, works hard, and is attractive enough.

Ouch dude.

 

[moshquerade]

yes.

broke up. time passed. both starting seeing other people, and now we're friends.

 

[Chrono]

more more more!!!!!!!!
only this many people on atot have a SO? wtf is this crap.

 

[Chrono]

more more more!!!!!!!!
only this many people on atot have a SO? wtf is this crap.