get more Corgis to try to offset the dread
Money isn't everything. You sound miserable already and you hate what you're doing... why would you take on even more work when you are barely capable of maintaining sanity now?
The bigger question here is "what's next?" in my opinion. What do you actually *want* to do with your career? If you cannot answer that, I would hit the brakes and take a long introspective look at your next 5 years. Where do you want to be?
That said, if you don't have any other possible career choices at the moment, and you already hate what you're doing, you might as well get paid more for your misery.
Also, don't say things like 'insecure pussy,' about yourself or anyone else. You're better than that based on your other posts.
Personally I would run like hell, not from the promotion, but from the job in general. But that's not very good advice if you have nothing else to fall back on right now. That kind of work sounds literally punishing, I can't imagine ever doing that for a career personally.
Things sure are easier when you don't go to bed thinking, "Goddammit, I'm probably going to wake up tomorrow. That sucks."
At one point in time, I wanted to be at work. Interesting projects, good pacing, quiet time to think about things.... OT wasn't bad because it didn't feel like work. I had more energy to get things done at home, and was generally in a better mindset.
In the years since then, the technical demands at work have increased, while technically-oriented staffing has decreased. It's not been good for me mentally.
I was in that same position until January of this year. Left a place that sucked the soul out of me for 17 years and now I'm at the best place I've ever worked. Everyone deserves to enjoy their job this much
The point is, if you're not happy, put yourself out there. Not having any prospects doesn't mean there aren't people looking for you. It's amazing how everyone tends to downplay the skills that the rest of the world is looking for. It's amazing what a simple Monster resume can do.
OP, I think you already recognize that this offer says a lot about what your management thinks of you. They like you so much that they want to work with you more! It's quite a complement, and it should make you feel better about your contribution to the work.
They are offering you an opportunity to escape the PM grind (if you really are sick of that grind). Managing people is a whole different thing that requires a different set of skills (and despite this, the universal tendency is to promote the best individual contributor to supervise a group! ). You might find managing people to be something you enjoy and are good at.
As others have said, first-level management can be a thankless job without enough added compensation for the work involved. On the other hand, it's usually the only path to further promotions.
The problem with these kinds of opportunities is that you may always wonder what life would have been like had you made a different choice. In my admittedly limited experience, it's been easier to live with the "I tried it and know how that worked out" than with "I passed on it and will always wonder what might have been".
I work in IT. I'm a PM- app development.
My work has been mentally exhausting- to a point I feel like I don't want to be a PM anymore. As you know, being a PM means you are the punching bag for others that you don't have control over & external factors that delay your project. Sponsor management, resource management, vendor management, all sucks donkey balls.
I don't think I'm good at what I do. It takes a certain person with certain energy to do this. As I'm getting older, I'm feeling this isn't for me, and the feeling is getting stronger.
I have been struggling & the quality of my work has been declining.
Yesterday my boss pulled me in and her boss was also in the room. I thought I was in trouble finally.
You wouldn't believe this, it's like a scene from a movie. Based on whatever snippet of misinformation they've been having. They think I'm doing a great job. I think they liked some presentations I've done for sponsors.
And since my boss is getting too much work, she wants me to 'rise up' and manage other PMs.
I was utterly dumbfounded. I can't stand my line of work, now she wants me to have direct reports?
This isn't her just dumping work on me- it looks like they're priming me up for growth. HR talked to me afterward too- looks like it'll involve a good raise as well.
I'm not an idiot, this is an incredible opportunity others would die for. I have a gut feeling I'd regret it for rest of my life if I let this ship sail.
But the fact remains that I find all this exhausting. This doesn't come natural to me. I DREAD waking up daily.
I think I should have some kind of an introspection session to get over it & take this head on.
I didn't want to misspeak, and wanted to have the ball in my court first. So I told the bosses that I'll take it on. And they'll see how I do on weekly basis.
It's Friday and I'm not even enjoying it. When did I become such a miserable insecure pussy?
TL;DR
1. Starting to hate my line of work as I grow older
2. Management thinks I'm doing a good job, wants me to be a manager
3. Don't want to manage, I dread it, yet I feel it'll be a huge mistake to let this go.
Although, the options aren't just Tridentboy or CEO of Apple.
Moderation in all things.
I work in IT. I'm a PM- app development.
My work has been mentally exhausting- to a point I feel like I don't want to be a PM anymore. As you know, being a PM means you are the punching bag for others that you don't have control over & external factors that delay your project. Sponsor management, resource management, vendor management, all sucks donkey balls.
I don't think I'm good at what I do. It takes a certain person with certain energy to do this. As I'm getting older, I'm feeling this isn't for me, and the feeling is getting stronger.
I have been struggling & the quality of my work has been declining.
Yesterday my boss pulled me in and her boss was also in the room. I thought I was in trouble finally.
You wouldn't believe this, it's like a scene from a movie. Based on whatever snippet of misinformation they've been having. They think I'm doing a great job. I think they liked some presentations I've done for sponsors.
And since my boss is getting too much work, she wants me to 'rise up' and manage other PMs.
I was utterly dumbfounded. I can't stand my line of work, now she wants me to have direct reports?
This isn't her just dumping work on me- it looks like they're priming me up for growth. HR talked to me afterward too- looks like it'll involve a good raise as well.
I'm not an idiot, this is an incredible opportunity others would die for. I have a gut feeling I'd regret it for rest of my life if I let this ship sail.
But the fact remains that I find all this exhausting. This doesn't come natural to me. I DREAD waking up daily.
I think I should have some kind of an introspection session to get over it & take this head on.
I didn't want to misspeak, and wanted to have the ball in my court first. So I told the bosses that I'll take it on. And they'll see how I do on weekly basis.
It's Friday and I'm not even enjoying it. When did I become such a miserable insecure pussy?
TL;DR
1. Starting to hate my line of work as I grow older
2. Management thinks I'm doing a good job, wants me to be a manager
3. Don't want to manage, I dread it, yet I feel it'll be a huge mistake to let this go.