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Guys.. seriously.. dont ever.. ever.. never.. ever.. get married..

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SoylentGreen

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It?s that time of year that I copy this from another forum since I'd like to bestow this wisdom upon you here as well. Because so many men are forced.. Or tricked or willed into asking a girl to marry them at this time of year.

I know.. and understand and realize the initial rush of love.. the feeling of togetherness... and coupledom..

I know it?s a warm adventuresome leap to ask your woman to marry you.. but I know.. I know all the stories..

MOST marriages fail.. the deepest in love couples will be shouting at each other in court years later.. I know the sweet and giving woman you fell in love with will change after you marry her.

There is nothing wrong with living with someone you love.. Emphasis on living. Marriage will ruin your relationship. First of all most women are looking for Daddy2.0 they don?t marry for love.. They marry for comfort and security.. two things that can be swept away with the first good looking, more wealthier, piece of man meat that comes along.

Society and parents have programmed many men that you have to get married to fulfill the social contract. Man. Wife. Children. extension of genetics.

The thing that is never said is you can have all of that.. BUT marriage isn?t necessary TO HAVE that. If a woman truly LOVES you she won?t have to marry you to keep the bond.

Marriage has become a legal contract that is detrimental to the man in the relationship. MOST MARRIAGES end in divorce.. and end the end the man ALWAYS pays.

Take the example of Jimmy Kimmel (from The Man Show) he is actually paying more out to his ex wife than he is earning (he is earning millions)... and there isn?t a goddamn thing he can do about it except go to jail for not paying... this isn?t and NEVER will account for the fact that his ex wife married a millionaire.

The horrible downside to this.. is that women can cheat and be as horrible as they want to be and the man is stuck in a financial relationship with alimony and child support that will break him if he ever gets the balls to stand up for himself (after years of mental breaking down from the wife) and leave her.

The best .. THE BEST relationships can end on faults of both ends.. the end result is that the man always pays.

So stop and think.. what you really .. really want your future to be.


PS> Flame away.. yes my parents are still together 50 year anniversery next January.. my childhood was great.. yes I have been close to marriage lost 2 real good friends because I wouldn?t commit (they all look like my mom now)

That?s my last response.. Just a dire warning.. Marriage can be the biggest thing that financially and emotionally messes up your life.

This is why Scott Peterson killed his wife.. its not that he was a murderer.. he just literally saw no way out.

Just a little end note.. and I will never forget this.. A girl I know who got married at 22 and was divorced at 30 wanted to get her ex husband?s extensive and valuable comic book collection.. she didn?t want them or need them.. she just wanted them because she could.. to just HURT him. People are vindictive by nature.. Especially against someone who has perceived to have wronged them... and SHE will always have the legal backing to do these things. You won?t.

Yes.. Ive heard all the jokes.. "if he didnt have a comic collection she wouldnt leave him!" ho ho haha!... you gotta remeber he had a life BEFORE her.. think of something valuable YOU have.. now is it funny?
 
While I think many desire to have the utopian relationship, it seems pretty obvious that the odds are against us all. I do mostly agree with you though, because I've seen it happen enough times to at least give me pause.
 
This is why Scott Peterson killed his wife.. its not that he was a murderer.. he just literally saw no way out.

:roll:
 
There was a guy that was in a child support case, they did a paternity test, he wasn't the father. HE PAYS ANYWAY! It's not even his kid and he writes a check out. Chris Rock had a good skit on alimony.
 
Originally posted by: MrChad
If that's your outlook on life, why don't you just kill yourself and get it over with?
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Jackass, this is an outlook on marriage and having a great life has nothing to do with an outlook on marriage.

I'd rather just kill you thanks anyway.
 
I've been happily married for 4 1.5 years, it helps to understand how a christian marriage works, marriage is more about being the right person, than finding the right person.
 
It probably has nothing to do with the fact that people are lazier than ever and choose not to fix the problems, right?
 
Since I work for a child support gov't agency, I have direct contact with deadbeat parents and have heard that child support takes a good chunk of their paycheck when they were paying.
 
Originally posted by: deathkoba
Marriage is evil although I wouldn't know since I've never been married..sure feels like it though. Been with my woman for 4 years now.
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Cliffs: I'm ignorant, but I'll offer up my opinion anyway since this is the intarweb.

 
Communication is the key to all success. People are just not humble enough and forgiving enough. People are stupid. For the most part, that's why marriages fail. Don't look down on marriage.
 
Originally posted by: SoylentGreen
Originally posted by: MrChad
If that's your outlook on life, why don't you just kill yourself and get it over with?
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Jackass, this is an outlook on marriage and having a great life has nothing to do with an outlook on marriage.

I'd rather just kill you thanks anyway.
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Judging the institution of marriage based solely on examples of its failures is a fvcked up way of looking at the world. You might as well tell people not to drive cars; after all, car crashes are the leading cause of death if you're under 27 :roll: How can you judge marriage if you've never even been married before?
 
51 next month and never been married.
So far SO good! 😉

Or maybe that should be 🙁

Every relationship has it's ups and downs. I swore I would never get married after seeing my folks split up and then seeing my sister go through 4-5 marriages. (I really lost count...) But as you get older, sometimes you wonder if you didn't make a poor choice. But then that can go for married people as well.
 
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